My partner and I have recently split up and my darling little boy has changed over night from an affection sweetheart to a distressed,and somewhat aggressive tyke.The split between his farther and I wasn't an awful,traumatic thing,in fact it was all done quite civilly over a cup of tea and there have been no real arguements over access or finance but obviously our son has picked up on the negative vibes and is acting out.
I would like to do some activities with him to help us reconnect and make him feel more secure but on a seriously strained budget I need some ideas.I do colouring and take him to the park and stuff and read to him everyday but need some more ideas?
2006-07-24 09:54:11 · 19 answers · asked by rhieanon6108 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've also asked dad to get involved,my son and I have tickets to the Thomas Tank live show next month as he is Thomas mad and I asked Daddy if he would like to join us for dinner afterwards as he is working during the day.He said he might so that is a start and I totally agree with the person that says we don't have to be together as a couple to be a family.I am trying to activly encourage daddy to do family stuff together.
2006-07-24 10:16:28 · update #1
Sorry to hear your son has picked up on what's been happening, from what I've heard this can be expected, particularly in boys.
For fun things to do with your son:
1. call your local library and check when their story time is held - most libraries have a 30 minute story time where parent and toddler go along and listen in and afterwards there is usually some colouring in . You both get to enjoy books together and socialise with other kids. I've never met a child who doesn't enjoy trips to the library!
2. The internet? Take a look at the BBC - CBeebies homepage and find your child's favourite characters. There are story's, songs, games even colouring pictures. My 2 year old loves sitting on my lap and laughing at the telly tubby faces and noises. If you do a search for learning websites, there are some great ones which help teach colour / shapes etc in a fun way
3. Local swimming pool - take your little one into the water with you with some arm bands and have some fun. Often under 2's go free, so it could be quite an affordable afternoon out
4. Hide and seek in the woods or your local park or even at home? Hide toys and find them...
5. Picnic in the park
6. Buy some bubbles to blow for him and help him catch them
2006-07-24 10:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nikita 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Twenty two months is quite young to be devastated by a break up. I am sure he is feeling seperation anxiety in a very small way. Theother post was right...your little boy just needs you to be a friend and that doesn't cost anything. Blow bubbles, catch bugs, go swimming, for a bike ride, walks, play ball, just love him and he will be fine. He also may be sensing that you feel more stress and pressure because you are worried about the involvement of dad. Being a mom is a tough job and it sounds like you are doing a great job at it. Just love him and enjoy your time together.
HAVE FUN WITH THOMAS!!!
2006-07-24 18:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Allow him to cook with you? Prepare a meal that does not involve the stove like a salad or PB&J sandwich. Use cookie cutters to make shapes in the sandwiches.
2. Designate an area and time for him to be constructive. Hang up anything he colors or draws no matter what it looks like. Put things at his level, like a cork board or black board.
3. Tell him to read "you" a story. Of course he'll have trouble but it will be fun none the less as he tries to emulate you. Act serious and even yawn and close your eyes.
4. Make sure he knows you have no ill feelings towards his dad. You're happy the way things are and he will have to adjust. Just be creative.
2006-07-24 17:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Christopher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Grandson went through that when my daughter and her husband separated. Life was sweet and secure and overnight the two people he loved most in the world weren't together anymore..
Try taking him to the library and picking out picture books for the two of you to look at and enjoy, hold him A Lot. If you watch cartoons together, sit close or hold him. Try to answer questions in a way he can understand. And never say bad things about his Dad when he is around.
Try taking him to the museum and let him look at the dinosaur display(if they have one). How about the zoo?
Just a few ideas...
2006-07-24 17:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya... in the same boat as you - here's some things that I do with mine when I have him at weekends.:
Buy some Megablocks and build castles and towers with him
Do you feed the ducks at the park? How about a nearby farm? Ring one or two up and ask them if you can visit.
Buy a cheap sandtub, fill it with sand (from DIY store if need be)and let him get messed up, then get some bath toys and put him in the bath. Mine likes those little balls in the bath you can buy for ball pools etc.
Have a water fight - i.e. spraybottles with water in it (adjust them so they make mist)
Take him to a fun factory at a family pub. You don't have to eat anything - just get yourself a drink. He can mingle with the other kids too.
2006-07-24 17:14:04 · answer #5 · answered by liquid_ice_71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent some child friendly DVDs with positive messages like Mrs. Doubtfire. Sports related activities are always good so that they could vent out their frustration in a positive way. Read him bedtime stories. Also, broaden his appreciation for music and dance by playing soft, relaxing tunes in the house.
2006-07-24 17:55:50 · answer #6 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your public library. They usually have lots going on that young children will enjoy.
I would suggest just trying to spend as much time as you can with him, as he probably senses something is wrong and may not know how to articulate his distress. If you and your partner were living together and now you are not, your son will realize that things have change as his Daddy isn't around anymore.
2006-07-24 17:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Swimming is good but my son likes to go for a bike ride, we live near a country park where you can hire bikes with child seats. Taking him for lunch or a trip to the park...anything where he has your full attention but make sure you are not stressed around him or he will pick up on the tension.
2006-07-24 17:03:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be his buddy not his mom thats what he needs right now vegg out on the couch and watch his favorite cartoon together or go play in the dirt or sand with him until he can have time to bounce back he needs a buddy not a mother
2006-07-24 17:00:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try getting dad involved with spending time together,set up a day where both of you can plan to spend time as a family,even though you arent together anymore you can still spend time together for the child's well being.
2006-07-24 17:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋