My brother is so spoiled! he's annoying and gets away with everything! i practically get 10 bruises a day! or an hour! My mom thinks he's an angel worth more than diamonds!! He gets everything he wants!!!!!!!! He's always first in everything and its like im practically ignored! and worst of all he like rubs it in my face with his freakin pride!!! The only people who really know what I'm going through is my best freind and her mom. I feel like I don't even exist. I need advice, someone who knows how to deal with him. So far trying to discipline him doesn't work. Trying to complaining to my mom stinks. and everything just makes her mad and sends me punishment! For now my best freind has come up with a trial-error solution of rubbing things in his face to make him shut up. someone! please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 09:53:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, your best friend is wrong. Im guessing you're the older sibling, so try to act mature when he annoys you. Mature doesnt mean telling him how wrong he is or to stop being a spoiled brat. Mature would be to either ignore him or respond calmly, at least. Also, when you talk to your mom don't whine, tell her how u feel in a calm tone and she will listen to you. I know what you're going through, too. It's up to you to be the grown-up one, not the childish one, like your brother.
2006-07-24 09:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mantra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same exact thing, sad to say nothing is going to work. It took 4 years after hs (he was 2 years ahead of me) for us to become friends again. Anything you try to change or punish him with, he'll some how flip the script and make you cry and feel like killing him, so I'm sorry to say, you're just going to have to live thru it til he grows up.
But if I remember correctly I excluded him from my life for a while, he got me into depressing and explosive behaviors and it just wasn't healthy so I stopped acknowledging his existence for a few years.
Good Luck.
2006-07-24 10:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by fluff~out 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you need to realize that by spoiling him they are crippling him and he won't be able to take care of himself or adapt to the world as an adult. so he'll probably be 35 still in his mama's house and his spoiled ways won't be as cute to her anymore that's when she'll turn to you. so be ready for that. as for what to do it isn't much you can do to him. try to talk to your mother like a young adult tell her exactly how you feel and what she is doing to you and tell her what i said about crippling him. if your mom won't listen to you and he knows that than he won't listen to you either. don't start any sibling rivalries it doesn't pay off try to find a constructive hobby that gets you away from the family for a bit. most important don't try to talk to her while it is happening. talk to her at a neutral time in the day if she loves you she'll prove to be more receptive that way
2006-07-24 10:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact same problem with my oldest sister but luckily my dad believes everything I say and since you know he rules the house I always ALMOST win.
2006-07-24 10:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by brewers_babe49 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget he is your brother... look at him as he is a nice guy,,, things will get better automaticaly
2006-07-24 10:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋