My boyfriend and I are apart for the whole summer, and he's in his hometown and hangs out alot with this girl that he used to like for AGES in elementary and middle school... This girl is really pretty and talented (even though I'm decent as well) but I can't stop thinking about all the events they're organizing for kids' summer camps and just stuff they're doing together, and I can't stop looking her up on the internet and looking at friends' photo albums to find her pictures and compare myself against her! I've been with my boyfriend a year and I do trust him, but I don't know this girl at all and always wonder if she's gonna flirt with him or whatever... please help me... I don't want to be a jealous stalker...
also: GUYS:-- what would you think of this if you knew about my problem and was in my boyfriend's place?
2006-07-24 09:31:37 · 16 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heres the deal, My girlfriend live in New York, I live in CA. Before I asked her out I told her that I really liked this girl i was really good friends with, and asked her for advice. So she know that there is a girl where i live, who I still occasionally, but rencently not at all cause i found out that she is a big B, hang out with, and the only way she doesnt go insane with jealousy is that she trusts me and she loves me and knows that i would never cheat on her in a million gizillion years. So what i do also , to make her not worry, is that I tell her I love her and that she means so much to me and that she is the girl for me, and she is, and she knows it. We've knon each other, my gf and I, for almost a year now, and things have only gotten better through our expierences and time. I really hope that i have helped out and that you will take some wisdom and to trust him, hes a guy and he wants to have fun, and if you know that he loves you and if he truely loves you, he will know his boundries, plus hes going to be there just for the summer and come back to you and probably not see them again for quite some time. Good luck with your guy.
2006-07-24 09:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 24⤊ 4⤋
The truth is -- and you are aren't going to like it -- she might make a move on him and there is nothing you can do about it. The question is whether or not he will cheat on you -- also something that, if it is going to happen, there is nothing you can do. I hope you have chosen wisely and your boyfriend will remain true. If he really cares for you, he will. That having been said, one sure way you could drive him into her arms is to act like a psycho. Jealousy is unattractive in the extreme. I assume you are talking with him on the phone and via e-mails and text messages, so it is not not like you are completely out of touch with him. If you are having periodic contact with him, enjoy that and keep reminding him how much you care and how great you think he is.
Try to remember, if she can get him, then he would be a cheating scum-bag and they will deserve each other.
2006-07-24 09:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww don't be nervous...or jealous for that matter! If your boyfriend was a good boyfriend, nothing will happen between him and that other girl. You have to trust him. This is a test of how much you trust him and how much he is trustworthy. Surviving this will make your relationship even stronger. Don't worry about anything. Just make sure that he knows that you trust him.
2006-07-24 09:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by the coolest person♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doo almost the same thing with another girl! my boyfriend used to like her and even asked her out at one point but she said no. right now there still friends. I’ve know this girl even longer then him and i truthfully don't like her that much. every time he brings her up in a conversation i get really freaked out and almost mad. i don't no whats wrong with me because im normally not as jealous like this but just the thought of him falling for her again is waaaaay more then I can handle! every time i see her pics on myspace i analyze them until i talk myself into thinking i deserve him more then she does. it still scares me sometimes when my boyfriend talks about her. i just try not to say anything about it because i feel silly obsessing over this girl when i no that he loves me and not her.
2006-07-24 09:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have nothing to worry about. STOP looking at her pictures and comparing yourself to her! You aren't her...and obviously your boyfriend likes you, or he wouldn't be with you. Instead of focusing on thoughts of your boyfriend and this girl, think of how excited you're going to be when he comes home and all the fun and exciting things you're going to do.
2006-07-24 09:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he leaves you for her, move on. If he doesn't, be happy. If he cheats on you, dump him.
But it sounds like you don't know what's going on or what will happen. If I were your boyfriend I would probably try to reassure you for a little bit, and if that didn't work, I would tell you to get over it. You can't try to forbid your boyfriend from having female friends. I would have no tolerance for that.
2006-07-24 09:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your BF I would try to hook up with her and tell you over the phone that I'm just working with her and is nothing but just friends, but I would try to get in her pants or a less kiss her after all she is my dream girl for a long time. Maybe visit your BF but don't announce your visit.
2006-07-24 09:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone wants to see a link of this hot girl. Yep, it sounds like potential trouble to me. A cute chicky hanging out all summer with a lonely guy. Yikes!
It reminds me of my ex-girlfriends guy friends she always hung around with. This one guy played volleyball with us, and after we broke up, I saw him and her holding hands entering a bar together.
So much for "just friends."
2006-07-24 09:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this position many times and take it from me I'm the most jelous person I know...All you can do is grit and bare it...give him the space and don't think about it as hard as that sounds...and when you see him again don't accuse him of anything happening while he was there.
2006-07-24 09:35:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my girlfriend was open with me about it, I would most definitely pull closer towards my girlfriend. I find it very heartfelt when the one you love, worries about you or anything of that nature. Love conquers all, if it doesn't it was never there to begin with.
2006-07-24 09:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am a girl and I understand how you feel! Did you let him know? Why is he hanging out so much with her maybe you should hang out with somebody else while he is gone--let him know you are having SUCH FUN!! Well I would -if he did this to me!!
2006-07-24 09:38:58 · answer #11 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋