i'm 19 going on 20, i had only one relationship with a guy that lasted a month, we had sex and i didn't feel anything. i have a best friend (a girl) that i treisure so much that i can't stand seeing her with somebody else than me. what's wrong with me? am i a lesbian or bisexual?
2006-07-24 09:18:53 · 32 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you could be.
explore it and dont be ashamed. thats how i realized i was Bi, i had feelings for female friends that were incredible, and the thought of her with someone drove me crazy. i always thought i could treat her better.
(feel free to contact me via email if you want to talk more about this)
2006-07-24 09:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you have any sexual thoughts about you and her and can't stand to see her or imagine her having sex with someone else, then possibly you may be bi sexual or a lesbian. I feel that you should give dating someone another try because you can't just determine everything on one relationship. Maybe that one relationship that you did have, the person was just not your type or he may have been bad in bed that is why you felt nothing when you had sex. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-07-24 09:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okkkkkkk usually the first time you have sex you don't feel anything. You have to keep doing it to find out what positions you like and stuff like that. Maybe you dont want your friend to go out with somebody else just because you don't want to be alone or be the only one without a boyfriend. Now if you have sexual fantasies with your friend then that's another story, you're a lesbian
2006-07-24 09:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by ani2525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you're either one but alot of women get to be your age and are confused about their sexuality. You're jealous of your girlfriend; that's normal; but do you think about her sexually? Then yes, you may be either a lesbian or bi. Try going out to a les bar and see if it's comforftable for you. I'm not saying have sex with someone, just chit chat; or find someone who you can talk to. I'm sure those girls have alot of things they can tell you about being a lesbian. You might get your answer right there or how about some counseling. Whichever way you go, there's nothing wrong with it. You should be true to yourself.
2006-07-24 09:22:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sexually attracted to your friend? If not, then you just have a girl crush, which is normal, though you might want to try finding some other friends and gaining a little distance. As far as not feeling anything, I wouldn't take that too seriously until you've had more relationships.
If you are sexually attracted to your friend. Good Luck! Coming to terms with something like that can be hard.
2006-07-24 09:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by SnakEve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sugar, Sugar, if girls excite you and boys don't YOU are a lesbian. Nothing wrong with that. BUT I think you should explore first, see other guys, be with other girls and let your feelings guide you. Have fun and be safe! I'm not a lesbian, i LOVE men and I love my hubby. I questioned at one point in my life, same as you, but now I'm sure I'm not. I admire beatiful women but I don't want to be intimate with them, just friends. That's how I knew. Good luck!!
2006-07-24 09:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be bisexual but don't worry about it. Go with your gut feelings. Do you still like guys too? You might have an emotional attraction towards women and a physical attraction towards men. Or vise-versa. That is totally normal.
2006-07-24 09:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are. That would make you very cool. Try to figure out which sex turns you on. Don't get too hung up on your friend, you could spoil things. In time you will find someone who can give you the satisfaction you need. Whether that's male or female is too early to say.
2006-07-24 09:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a lesbian the feelings that you have for you friend aren't normal friendly feelings.. Why don't you test the water if you like girls better be with a girl no scene of strining this guy along either............
2006-07-24 09:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Shawnee_ Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have just a crush on a girl. I read about it, or saw it on a talk show. And they were talking about it and said that girls do develope cruses on other girls(non- sexual) and they are usually close friends. It's normal. But, maybe you should flirt and stuff with a girl that isen't your friend and see what you feel.
2006-07-24 09:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have sex with her and find out. Then have sex with her and a guy at the same time. Then you will know who turns you on the most.
2006-07-24 09:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋