my younger cousins are very rude and threating to me. im 15 and they are 4, 5, 11, 13. they are making me feel so hurt. there parents dont do anything. my dad always says god damit you dont ever socilize with those kids. my mom says you do not have to put up with there snoby beahvior you dont have to play with them i need to know how i can put up with there rude behavior. and how do i stop them. im going to my cabin next sunday and they will be there. they also have said they dont want me to be a part of this family the call me a loser. im also a distant cousin to them. what can i say so they will leave me alone. also do you think its ok if i stay by the adults or sunbathe or read a book. please help me im not going to put up with this i feel so sad im crying. i also dot have anyone to hang out with not even a friend.
2006-07-24 08:22:57 · 7 answers · asked by sandyandgreg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry you are going through this. Of course, it's perfectly OK to hang out with the grown-ups. Heck, you are practically one yourself. These are just kids, albeit, ill-mannered ones, and the more you react to them, the more aggressively they will act towards you.
Find your own things to do and leave them alone. Eventually, they will get bored with bugging you, 'cause it won't be fun anymore. Good luck.
2006-07-24 08:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should acyt like they dont bother you. You dont have to hang out w/ them your mom is right. You should never hang out w/ anyone that hurts your fellings. I have 2 cousins that are the same age as me(17) and they get along great, however I am often left out because I lived far away until recently. I dont hang out w/ them because it hurts my feelings. And if u want to stay w/ the adults or do whatever then I say go ahead. I know it sucks to be left out by family but....be strong and remember that there are people who do like you. Who cares what a bunch of little kids think? Or maybe you should ask if you could bring a friend w/ you this weekend. That way u will have someone to hang out w/.
2006-07-24 08:32:41 · answer #2 · answered by porkchop_sena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first I was like that with my cousins also, but they were older than I was, but I think you should not really worry about them talking to you or anything like that, but just ask them why they don't like you what's wrong? I think they may just be a little jealous of you and they can't admit it. But its also ok to hang out by the adults, read or sunbathe alone. Just remember if you're going to hang around the adults they don't like for kids to go back and repeat what they've been talking about that just a little FYI :-)!!
2006-07-24 08:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by baby gyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who the hell do they think they are??!! i wonder what their parents have taught them.. i'm really sorry for u, but ur mum is right.. u don;t have to put up with them if u don't want to.. i don't know about u, but if my younger cousins are rude to me i'd get physical.. it's not wrong at all to hang out with the adults, or read a book or sunbath.. u do what u please.. as for what to say to stop them from hurting ur feelings and leave u alone.. this may not be the best thing, but, tell them, "it's not like i want to be family with snobs like u.. but i was born first! just shut up and leave me alone!"
P/S: i hope this works.. really..
2006-07-24 08:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by always curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever been propose or insulting to him? I easily have a cousin who hated me because even as i replaced into 6, I kicked him contained in the shin! i did not even undergo in options doing it! after we ultimately talked it out, I remembered doing it, even why. So when I defined, and we talked, then we laughed about it, and nevertheless stay in contact years later.
2016-10-15 03:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by asar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry i have the same problem. my cousin hates me too. try to socilize with your cousin and see what you have in common with them. and try them to get them play whatever that interest was. like me and cousin both like Pokemon, we play the games together but he just hates me when we are not playing. so if the interest thing doesn't work, i suggest you get counciling.
2006-07-24 08:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell their parents that they need to discipline their kids for what they say to you, and if they dont just pretend like they arent your cousines, just ignore the stuff they say... if my cousines said this stuff to me i wouldnt want to be there friends or hang out with them
2006-07-24 08:28:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋