see we still talk and do the family thing i just don't know how to ask him if he is planning on helping pay for the wedding. he has money and knows we are broke. what do ya'll think? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 08:13:50 · 13 answers · asked by stacydeets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can certainlyl NOT ask him if he is PLANNING to help pay for the wedding for goodness sakes! You simply announce that you are getting married. If he wants to help out he will volunteer. If you are broke and he offers nothing, I'm afraid you're stuck with a small wedding or nothing at all except you and your fiance. Sorry, but I'm having a hard time understanding folks who actually don't have the money thinking someone OWES them a wedding!
2006-07-24 19:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really sad when kids are stuck between parents arguing all the time, and of course at 15 you see and know so much more now than you did at 6 years of age, but unfortunately the battle has to be fought won or lost by your parents. All you can do is to be there for her. There are many reasons why some women hang on to a broken relationship, sometimes it because they fear being alone, but whatever the reason its your mom that has to do what she thinks is right for her, no matter that to everyone else it seems the wrong choice. Like I said all you can do is be there to support and comfort her when times are rough. It does seem that she is holding on for reasons best known to herself, but it also seems either she is frightened of being on her own, or maybe more so, she knows that financially she will be worse off without him, and with children still in her care, this makes her hold on to the bad marriage. You could try and suggest that she gets some counseling, I am sure it would help her feel stronger, and of course a professional could tell her how she could go about claiming money from him etc which may help her see that she's in the wrong marriage, and that she could survive and support both herself and her children after all. I know its a horrible time for you too, and truly i am sorry that you are suffering too, but it has got to be down to your mom what she will do. Best wishes Billie Uk
2016-03-27 05:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to make sure that you do it politely and with manners. If you do the family thing with him, then more than likely he'll be glad to help out. Just mention that you are tight on money but you want the wedding of your dreams because you only get it once. Just ask if he would be willing to help out with some of the costs. Be prepared for either answer.
2006-07-24 08:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Casually mention the wedding and how you would like things but aren't sure if you can come up with the money and see what he says. If he doesn't say anything, he doesn't plan on paying.
2006-07-24 09:20:47 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation with my grandparents, and that was when (thankfully) my parents gave me a reality check. They reminded me that there is zero obligation on anyone besides the bride and groom to pay for the wedding. Any donations or gifts of money are gifts...not requirements. Do not take it upon yourself to ask him, if he wants to give you money, he will.
2006-07-24 08:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should ask him, or anyone to help out with paying for your wedding! If they offer then accept but i woudlnt ask anyone!
Maybe try to make arrangements with you paying him back after the wedding, then too ya never know he may then offer it and not want it back!
good luck!!
2006-07-24 10:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepdad raised me for over 10 years of my life. When I get married, I will ask him for financial help. But I do not expect very much from him since he and my mom are no longer together.
Just be nice and polite. Ask him for a reasonable amount. Don't expect him to give you $5000. It's not going to happen. Any money should be appreciated.
2006-07-24 09:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by Steph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really kinda impolite to ask him...would you ask your grandparents even though you know they have money? I doubt not. Work with what you have. If he wants to contribute anything then he will ask if you need help. Like you said... he knows you are broke.
2006-07-24 08:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by weddinwarrior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him the same way you asked us. Accept whatever response he gives immediately. Thank him for being there to support you regardless of what choice he makes.
2006-07-24 08:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by John G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he wants to help out. Don't expect him to give a lot, or any at all.
2006-07-24 09:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋