My friend has a very sensative (not that that makes it worse) little girl, she's 9. My friend's life long friend asked if she would watch her kids for a month during the summer. My friend has known these kids since they were born so thinking that it's like extended family, she agreeed. The woman's 13 year old son help my firend's daughter down and tried to make out with her. Now she can't sleep, she's crying al the time, has been to counseling twice since it happened (last week) and she took all of the pictures down of the families together. I didn't but wanted to tell her to get an attorney, I didn't because it is such a close friend. The mother of the boy is denying that anything happened. She said well you are going to chose to believe your kids and I am going to believe mine. I just can't imagine having a daughter that young going through that. Any thoughts?
2006-07-24 08:13:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The therapist said in her opinion, there is no way the little girl is lying. It would be great to work it out with the parents but the boy's mother doesn't believe it happened. If this kid is doing this at 13 what the hell is he going to be doing at 17 or 18? Thats the scary part.
2006-07-24 08:21:44 · update #1
Your friend MUST report the incident to the appropriate authorities. They will investigate and get to the bottom of things, If she doesn't do this - it gives a subtle message to her daughter that she is not going to protect her. In a child's mind - this means mom does not believe her nor can her mother be trusted to take care of her. Mothers must protect their children at all costs. The difference in 9 and 13 years old is significant. The boy knew very well what he was doing and his actions were extremely aggressive and hostile. This is NOT normal curiosity! The next time it might be a different little girl and he might not stop at "making out" as you describe it. I have worked with children this age for 32 years and this was not normal behavior. Please report it ASAP.
p.s. PLEASE do not do as some of the above answers suggest and "try to work it out" between the parents. This young man is a ticking time bomb.Run - don't walk to the nearest police department and take the records of her visits to the counselor.
2006-07-24 08:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Of course each parent is going to believe their own child. The mother of the girl should send her to a counselor, and NEVER allow the other family to be around her child again.
If this boy did do these things, then there is some problem in his own life....he has learned from somewhere that this behavior is "ok". The mother of the boy should also seek counseling for him to find out where these ideas & aggression are coming from. He may very well be being abused by someone himself.
Perhaps legal action would force the mother of the young man to seek out counseling, this would be about the only positive action that would come from any legal action.
2006-07-24 08:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by awarriorandapoet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should call an attorney. What is more important her child's well being or the life long friend? She won't have a daughter like her again but she will always make friends. She needs to take care of her daughter and get her the help she needs. That 13 year old boy is a creep and should be punished, if it truly happened. Your friend might want to take her daughter to get hypnotized and see what happend or go see a psychologist, all while contacting an attorney. All in all call an attorney
2006-07-24 08:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a lawyer can do anything here. In order to sue, you need to prove that something happened and someone was responsible for it happening. She could call the police and start what may be a very, very long process that may not produce the result they are looking for. Or they can break off the relationship with the other family totally and try to move on.
2006-07-24 08:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by EG345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tricky situation. keep her in counselling for a while and just as a precaustion I would take her to the doctor and have her examined although if it's been 2 weeks it may be to late to tell if anything happened but a doctor would know for sure. See what the doctor says then maybe consult a lawyer.
2006-07-24 08:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter what the other parent thinks or says. You have to look at the integrity of your own child and have their back. If I was in their shoes, I would have had a laywer and the authorities involved already. Think of it as your child or put yourself in that childs position? She is looking for someone to trust and believe in her. No action could result in scaring that child for life. Something should be done.
2006-07-25 09:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by rob_711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one. Kids act out what they see. So maybe the boys parents are letting him watch inappriate things..
2006-07-24 08:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by girlpower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems like it isnt a legal problem, the two parents should talk to eachother. I really dont think that anything will be settled in court.
2006-07-24 08:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by johnny swanberg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see if the counselor and or doctor could sort it out then if they believe her, yes i would get a lawyer
2006-07-24 08:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by skyjava1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋