i have just ended a 4 year relationship because i wanted to see if he realy loved me....its been 2days now and he has never contacted me at all.i want to contact him. what do i do????
2006-07-24 08:10:39 · 31 answers · asked by shazz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give it more time
2006-07-24 08:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't understand why you ended a 4 year relationship for that reason because...if he has been with you for 4 years and he never broke up with you, then it had to be some love on his part. He may not contact you, because he also has feelings for you and can't believe you decided to make a choice like that. Pick up phone and tell him your reason for breaking up with him. If he tells you that he loves you, then apologize and ask him to take you back. You made a mistake and you should admit to him you were wrong. Just don't take to long to call, or another female may comfort him on you'll breakup.
2006-07-24 15:19:33 · answer #2 · answered by hunny_bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean but that was very unnecessary. He must of loved you to stay with you that long! For as far as I'm concerned you need to tell him your reason for doing that and beg to God that he takes you back. If I do that I know that more than likely my boyfriend MIGHT take me back but he would be very hurt that I even attempted that and he would probably be depressed a little because he would think after 4 years I didn't think he loved me. He would peobably think about it a while before making a decision. But hate to say it, but it may be a loss. you better call RIGHT NOW if you have any intentions of being with him again. Think about it it's like getting a divorce to see if he still loves you or will go after you when things like that may take money and stress. That was a little unfair. :-(
2006-07-24 15:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by red head girl 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were the one trying to find out if he loves you?Then that is what you must do,wait for him to call,4 years is a long time and to be honest it was a very stupid thing you did but I know you wanted to find out if he loves you.I know if I had to hang on for 4 years in a relationship and the girl had to dump me,I would be very unhappy and lonely but I will phone back to ask if it was the right decision she made.You also have to think on what terms did you break up with him, maybe you dumped him for something he was really guilty of and you made him feel very bad and is too scared to speak to you.You also have to remember that every person reacts differently about situations like this.I hope you get things fixed!
2006-07-24 16:04:55 · answer #4 · answered by Spooky Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you not think to ask him?
Your methodology seems a little harsh, next time I'd ask on here before you do something stupid like that.
There is no point in shutting the stable door after the horse has bolted.
All you can do, if you do love him is call him and explain. Then your sordid and sick test will be put into plan, if he says no, then you know he does not love you.
2006-07-24 15:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by ogenglishman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ended it. What did you expect? 2 days is not a long time. Maybe you can try to call him or something, and say that you miss him and you want him back. It always sucks to be the one to come crawling back, but hey, if you really are sorry, do it. If not, leave the guy alone.
2006-07-24 15:13:55 · answer #6 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just two days the person might be just as sad as you. Remember you are the one that dumped.
Get back together if you love the person.
Did you know break up then make up is a wonderful feeling. Worst when there is unconditional love.
2006-07-24 15:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait longer.
hes probally trying to give you the space he thinks you want.
if its not working then go talk to him and tell him that all you really wanted was to see if he really loved you or not. tell him that you need him to show you that he loves you more than just show you.
also take this time you ahve to yoruself to think about all the things he does do for you, like if he buys you little things or keeps them in his house so that when you come over he has them even tho he dosen't like them. or if he keeps an extra sweater in the car just in case you get cold.
take into account the things he does do. like the way he holds you and how you feel about him.
2006-07-24 15:15:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never end a relationship as a test, that's selfish and game playing and so not honest. If he doesn't come back to you, perhaps you'll learn something for next time.
2006-07-24 15:14:11 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hurt his feelings and gave him some much needed space. I suggest giving it at least 2 wks before I stressed if he was going to call or not. If you really loved him you should have never let him go :)
2006-07-24 15:12:40 · answer #10 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you made a mistake by letting him go, call him back and admit that you were wrong. After all you were the one that made the decision of breaking up
2006-07-24 15:14:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋