i have 4 kids and im geting very stressed with them how can i relax?

Answer 1

It's difficult to answer your question and help you without knowing the age of your kids. Whatever it is, I think the main problem is time management and your craving for some freedom to do what you enjoy most.
I always feel stressed up because I set myself certain goals for that day ex. house must be clean and tidy at all times, no complaints from hubby about my upkeep of households, meals and kids. By setting all these limits, you are creating stress for yourself. Learn not to blame yourself for not being in control of your kids behaviour, school progress and etc. We are human, try taking one step back. Do what you can, let your kids enjoy some activities, schedule for some quality time to be spent with your kids. Let them learn through their mistakes and just be there to guide them.
Try to plan your time and learn to relax. Have tea with friends get some help. Read or get new ideas to suit your lifestyle, you know your kid best.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Try scheduling time each day for you to do something with your kids. For example, if you plan an hour of coloring time after dinner, then bath and then bed, it might help you to relax a bit more when you know what the next step will be each day. The kids will learn the routine and will eventually follow it without prompting from you. It will eventually become a time when you can relax a bit and let them take charge while you are still in control.

Another strategy is to assign each child a job for when everyone gets home. Children as young as five can be taught to set a table and put things into the trash. Older children can help to cook by setting timers, taking out the trash, clearing the table, and any other age appropriate jobs.

You can reward the kids when they do their job with popsicles. They can be made in ice cube trays. Or with a cookie or a bag of microwaved popcorn to share. It will make things less stressful for you to have help. ANd they will feel some ownership for a job well done.

Answer 3

My kids go to bed about 7:30pm every night (and sleep till about 8am). Then the house is quite and I can do things I enjoy. Before we instituted the bed time my husband and I each had one day a week where we got the "evening off" so after dinner we could go hide and do what we wanted the other had to get the kids in bed and clean up.

If you think there is no way your kids would go to bed at that time first give it a try then if it is still too early than make it quite time in their rooms till bed time where they have to do a quite activity alone. Just an extra hour or two of quite will make you much less stressed- at least it does for my hubby and I!

Answer 4

Oh my, I only have 2 and sometimes want to pull my hair out. Honestly, make sure you have time to yourself. I saw my mother spend all of her time with us kids. She didn't work, have many friends, or go anywhere without us. Now, even though she loves us she wishes she would have done things for herself. I am serious, you can not spend all your time doing mom things and be happy. That is my opinion anyway. I tried the whole stay-at-home mom thing for a while and about went crazy. Put the kids in a mother day out program a few days a week, go get your nails done, and maybe start going to the gym. I promise you will feel better and be a better mother ( not you are aren't a good mother now) because you will be spending more quality time with them and not so much quantity.

Answer 5

I have four kids also and on top of that I am a single parent. I send my kids to bed at 8pm by the time they actually settle down and fall asleep it is about 9pm. I use that time to do mommy things is what I tell my kids. During the day I send them outside to play and I have a rule that if you cant stay outside and play then you have to play quietly in your bedroom. I have areas in my house that are just mine. Also dont fret the little stuff. My kids are 4 (boy) 6 (girl) and twin 9 year olds (boys) my 4 yr old by far is the most difficult! I usually let them sort out the little problems cuz if they r running to me at every fight they have then I get stressed out. We also go to a local waterpark too cuz that always helps out. Sometimes all you need to relax is just get out of the house yourself. And the same rules apply outside the house. They need to understand that you need time for yourself kids do understand that. If you tell them hey mommy is getting stressed out and I dont want to get angry with you so if you could just leave me alone for a little bit i promise I will pay attention when I am through relaxing. That also teaches them about personal and alone time, and everybody needs it including them. Good Luck and Smile that helps too :)

Answer 6

Sing, dance, listen to music, color with crayons, do a art project, go for a walk, go to the park, go outside and get wet with the hose or in a pool.
When the kids are napping or sleeping take a bubble bath, read a book, watch a good movie, call a good friend, surf the Internet, or take a nap yourself!
Whatever you do if you get too stressed out call a friend or relative and see if they can watch the children so you can DE-stress.

Answer 7

What are you stressed out about? What's going on? Kind of hard to answer such a vague question. I have three and get stressed out from them fighting and crawling up my *** all day. My remedy? I get out, I hire a sitter once a week and get away, it works wonders. Love the kids but you have to take time for you, it's a must. Best wishes...

Answer 8

Get on a schedule and make it work! My kids are in bed @ 8 pm even in the summer.And up @6am every day. I keep them busy by making a work schedule for them. If they get their chores done they recieve point. I set a goal w/ agreement @ the end of each week. (ex: Water Fun) But, Chores must be done or I take away. They are 9 & 13. ( Yes! Your seeing 13 yrs old here!! It works and keeping him out of trouble!)

Answer 9

I second the idea of putting them to bed early, then just chilling before your own bedtime. Also, get up early yourself so you have an hour before the rush of morning, turn the TV off so the kids learn to entertain themselves and not rely on other things to entertain themselves, and take them to the park as often as possible to let them run off their engery. Don't beat yourself up! I'm sure you're doing great if you care enough to stress! :)

Answer 10

do you have someone to help you?if so ask them to do some of your mother dutties for 20 minns. if you dont have that person try doing somthing with your kids that is relaxing,like coloring,painting,or reading a book. if they like watching tv put in a movie make some popcorn and veg with them,there are also some web sites out there that can help if I didnt!! americanbaby.com,sesamestreet.org,or even noggin.com thats what me and my kids do.if none of these work,go outside and letthem get some energy out!