I am dating a man who is more than 10 years older than I am.We truely love each other.We do.But I am still in high school and he is a grown man.He has given me everything i have ever wanted in my life.He has never hurt me or made me do anything i didn't want to do.We never had sex.Everytime we go out to eat or go to see a movie or do anything together we have the best time in the world and it feels like nothing else matters.But here's the problem.I am a high school student right now,and also after high school I would like to become a doctor which is approximately at least 8 years of college.He wants me to go out and have my freedom when I grow up a little older.He wants me to go out to clubs and party when I will be able to.But he said we can't make this relationship last right now.He doesn't want high school stuff anymore.He's over with it.He's done that stuff already.But I love him.I have thought of what to do and can't find anything ....We're giving our thoughts a week .Help me plea
2006-07-24 08:08:23 · 15 answers · asked by Uknwn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well I undrestand everything you guys are saying but I just can't take the feelings away...I mean I feel so strong.I really lost my opes about finding the right guy in life...it's just that he is everything I wnat right now.but I also know that he is too old and what if this does work out,what if we do get married sometime in life....what about babies?what he's not gonna want to have them at the age he could.....it's just so compplicated....I wanted to go to some physic lady to see if she would help me...but I am just so lost.....I really want for him to stay for at least a couple of years right now....see if it can work out
2006-07-24 08:20:35 · update #1
this goes for stevinprague!
thank you so much for your answer.I really need some support from someoone right now.I just wis I could make him change his mind.He said we'll give it a week and if we don't find a good answer or a resolution then we should probably split up and stay away from each other to get used to that fact....and then become friends again.I just want to find a n answer.He said he wants me to go out and party but then he tells me he wants more time from me.I undrestand him I do...I just can't give him more time.I have school ,soon college,and I won't step away from those things.I just know that I want to dothose things but also i wopuld like to be with him
2006-07-24 08:46:45 · update #2
Make a list of priorities.
My suggestion:
#1 -- Diploma
#2 -- Degree
#3 -- Career
#4 -- Boyfriend
#5 -- Marriage
#6 -- Babies
Sound difficult. It is. Success in life is hard. Failure is easy.
2006-07-24 08:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by redhotsillypepper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eh, I think he's right. I mean, um... you should go about and experience more life with people your age or whatever, that he won't do with you or can't do with you. Imagine how hard it would be anyway if you guys were still together and you went off to Med School? Plus, unless he plans on moving with you..it's going to suck any other way. Especially if it turns into long distance. This surely means though that you guys can never have a second chance. You could keep in touch as the good friends that you already sound like you are, and if you ever reach a point where a second chance can happen without too much drama, then you could go for it. Are you sure he's not married and has a mistress he's been keeping from you? haha sorry, had to ask..makes me think of all that stuff since he's that much older......
2006-07-24 08:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, he will respect what YOU want. If you want to NOT go out to the clubs because you have decided he is the one, then you need to explain that to him. If he thinks the relationship cant work because you are going to go to medical school, then prove him wrong!
If you really love him, you will fight to keep him. You will do what is neccessary to make the relationship survive. Nothing worth anything in life is easy to obtain, and the best things you can ever have are the ones you must fight and bleed and die for along the way. Hold fast to what you want, do not give up on the relationship.
2006-07-24 08:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by steveinprague 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in high school? Honey, all that 10-year older pedophile is doing is taking advantage of you. Where are your parents? Sex or no sex, a man in his late 20s has absolutely nothing in common with a teenager.
2006-07-24 08:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just finish your high school and became a doctor you still young...finish your school study hard so you will be successfully in the future life
2006-07-24 08:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by val2rex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you MUST go out and experience life..i don't mean you have to sleep around but figure out who you are, what you want from life, and if this guy is really right for you. you are at totally different places in your life right now and don't want to end up regretting that you didn't make an informed decision.
2006-07-24 08:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by dharma_claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to college, you dont start med school right away and party at college, everyone does, even the ones that become doctors
2006-07-24 08:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found a younger child to be with you done went and got too old.
2006-07-24 08:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's way too old for you. he's experienced things you haven't and probably won't by staying with him. you should move on and enjoy life while you're young. be grateful for what you had together and learn from it.
2006-07-24 08:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems like the age range has finally taken it's toll. guys always have interior motives, this might be his way of saying it's over.
2006-07-24 08:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by sdconway20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋