Following previous question about my kitten dying on Friday... should I get another?

Question

Unfortunately our kitten passed away friday after only having her a few weeks but i had a blast with watching her run around and my son really got a kick out of her too, and I think we should get another one however my husband says that its not a good idea, I think he's afraid that if something were to happen to this one he would have to see me cry again, would it be wrong to get a kitten shortly after losing this one? How do I get him to agree that getting another would be therapeutic?

Answer 1

Yes get another. I always found that was the way to get over the previous one. When I was a kid my brother and I always had 1 cat each. When one died we replaced it with another the same colour and name. His was black, named Blacky and mine was a gray tabby named Tiger. We went through a lot of cats due to them getting run over (we lived in the country) and a few climbed telephone poles. Some we don't know what happened; they just disappeared.

Answer 2

I personally have a hard time without a cat in the house, I can understand wanting to get another. Perhaps one that's a little older? The smartest cats I've had have been from the "pound". And, you're saving a life. I'm sorry about your kitten.

Answer 3

Men have a real hard time with things they cant control and or fix and death falls into both of those catagories. He feels very out of control in that area and I am sure he is used to being in control. I am sure you are right when you said he did not want to see you sad again too - that was something he couldn't fix too. Maybe letting him know that you all can fix each other by getting a new kitty would help him. Unfortunately this is part of the life cycle we all have to experience too often. Good luck in convincing him to get a new one. (It took me over 2 years after my kitty died and I had her for 15 years - and the only reason my husband let me get a new one was that my daughter brought me orphan kittens she found in her yard and my husband couldn't abandon let me them.

Answer 4

Take a short break. Make sure you can keep it safe. I have 4 kittens and I understand how cute they are. Just make sure you are prepared to take care of them for another 12+ years. I also think it's better for the cats to be with another of their own kind - get 2 from the same litter if possible.

Sorry for your loss.

Answer 5

I had a cat for 18 years and she finally passed. And I went a few weeks, and decided to get me another cat. I will never stop loving my first cat, but i like the company. Just realize things can happen, and get it vet checked as soon as you get you another one....Best of luck... Check out the local humane society. Alot of cats needing a loving home....

Answer 6

first assure him that your not on the kitty "rebound" and that you have thought the decision through. Tell him that you understand that even though he did not cry that you know he was upset as well. And that investing in another kitten is a great way to face lifes rich tapestry and its eventual finality.

Answer 7

If you think you are ready to then it would be good but please consider one from a shelter, they usually always have healthy kittens for adoption and take it to the vet right away so you don't end up with another heartbreak

Answer 8

Definitely get another one...Have a visit to the vet to make sure it is healthy, so you won't have to go through what you just did again...
Then enjoy watching it grow

Answer 9

yes you should get another cat, but not that soon you must adapt that your cat is gone and decide whether you are ready or not to get another cat

Answer 10

Here are ten reasons why you should adopt an adult cat, instead of a kitten.

1. What you see is what you get. When you adopt an adult cat, you know what you are getting. Sure, kittens are cute, but you never know what the future holds. An adorable kitten could grow up to be a really ugly puss. This is a big risk. Go for the sure thing. Take a sweet-faced old Tabby.
2. High mileage cats still run great. Used cats aren’t like used cars. They aren’t at a shelter because they are defective or worn out. They may have simply outlived their former owners or been unable to join them at a hospital, nursing home, or new apartment. Some cats get lost and end up at a shelter. And many are brought to a shelter after a family member develops allergies, or an aversion to the family cat. (In those cases, it is the previous owner that is defective, not the cat.)
3. Adult cats aren’t as “chewsy”. Kittens are like human children: everything goes in their mouths. Whether teething or just exploring bits of the world around them, kittens can be very destructive little bundles of fur. Kittens chew on shoes, the corners of books, ear lobes, carpet tassels, electrical cords, drapery strings, plants, and much, much more. Adult cats typically chew less, if at all. They tend to save their energy for more important activities, like tormenting the neighbour’s Terrier.
4. Kittens stumble in blindly, where adult cats fear to tread. Two well-known clichés about cats are: “curiosity killed the cat” and “cats have nine lives.” And curiosity usually leads to the loss of about eight of a kitten’s lives in its first year. Kittens tend to get into much more trouble resulting in accidents and injuries (see, for example, the reference to “chewing electrical cords” above). Kittens eat things they shouldn’t, fall from high places, unsuccessfully attempt to make friends with the neighbor’s tormented Terrier, and generally worry you half to death.
5. Kittens are lacking when it comes to licking. Few kittens have mastered the fine art of self-grooming. While adult cats may spend up to half their waking hours licking fur, kittens are just too busy enjoying life to clean themselves properly. When you consider that kittens are really just dust-mops with legs, and that they generally display marginal litter box etiquette, you might want to master the somewhat dangerous art of cat-bathing.
6. Einstein knew the truth about cats. The genius scientist Albert Einstein discovered an important relationship between mass and energy. He described it using the mathematical equation E=(MC)2. This equation means that your Energy level (E) is proportional to the Mass (M) of your Cat©, twice over. The equation basically shows that if you adopt a cat with more Mass, like an adult cat, your Energy level will be much higher than if you adopt a cat with a low Mass, such as a kitten. This is true because adult cats sleep more, play less, require less supervision, break fewer lamps, and don’t try to bite your toes through the blankets in the middle of the night. With an adult cat, you will sleep better, relax more, make fewer claims on your homeowner’s policy, and enjoy more Energy. There you have it. Are you going to argue with Albert Einstein?
7. Kittens and children don’t mix. Children can be rough on both cats and kittens, even when they mean no real harm. It can’t be helped. It’s just how kids are. When you tell a child that “cats always land on their feet,” the first thing the child will do is drop one from your rooftop to see if it’s true. Adult cats are better equipped to deal with pesky kids. They can generally escape from them, hide, and then contemplate revenge by moonlight.
8. You don’t need to teach an old cat new tricks. Actually, you don’t need to teach a kitten tricks either, because the truth is that neither cats nor kittens allow you to teach them anything anyway. But new parents usually feel the need to try. Inevitably, they end up feeling guilt or failure when the kitten disregards them, jumps on the counters, unrolls the toilet paper, and engages in other acts of feline mayhem. If you adopt an older cat, you avoid all this emotional turmoil. Since you didn’t raise the cat, you don’t have to take responsibility for the cat’s shortcomings. Instead, you can blame the former owner and play the role of victim and saint for tolerating it all.
9. Adult cats don’t “litter” as much. Kittens play, sunbathe, build sandcastles, and even sleep in their litter boxes. And then there’s a game called “poo-hockey,” where a piece of dried waste is removed from the box and batted around the floor until it disappears under a major appliance or piece of furniture. People who adopt older cats happily miss this stage of feline development. Adult cats understand the purpose of a litter box and will usually cooperate with your efforts to keep theirs tidy. But the most important reason to adopt an older cat is:
10. It might be their last chance. Many adult cats end up in shelters due to no fault of their own. Separated from their loved ones, surrounded by other strange cats, confined, confused, and sometimes frightened, many are emotionally devastated by their misfortune. Sadly for adult cats, most people who adopt gravitate toward the adorable, bouncy, big-eyed kittens. Older cats sit by and watch, as one loving family after another passes them over for a cute kitten from this season’s litter.

Kittens will always be popular, and most have no trouble attracting admirers. But for the abandoned, forgotten, and heartbroken adult cats, you just might be their last chance to have the love and warmth of a home where they can live out their years in comfort. Please consider adopting an older cat. When cared for properly, cats can live well into their late teens, and sometimes into their early twenties. Typically, they will remain active and playful throughout most of their lives. Some may need a little extra patience while adjusting to a new home, but once they feel safe and secure again, most will give you years of faithful companionship and unconditional love.