Why do people tell their kids to walk away from fights?

Question

When a kid walks away, they are basically labelled as p u s s i e s by bullies, and the bullying continues. But if a bully thinks they will have to fight someone every time they pick on them, they won't do it for long. So why don't people tell their children to stand up for themselves? A stitch in time, so to speak.

I'm not saying people should encourage their kids to go around starting s**t because somebody said such and such about them. But if someone tries to muscle them around to get their way, if they don't fight back, the bully will think it's okay to continue doing it.

Answer 1

i don't...i don't want my kids starting fights...but if someone starts one with them, then they better stick up for themselves and hopefully be able to hold their own...(if someone hits them first i say its ok, to hit back)

Answer 2

That is a tough question to answer. I work the bully program at my middle school. Where if a child is getting picked on they fill out this form and put it in a box. The staff goes over it and in a few days someone talks to the bully and the child who is getting picked on. Also of the time the bully is being provoked to act that way by other kids. So when we get them together we can sometimes defuse the situation.

As fo rteaching them to walk away. That is still your best option. if the kid ignores the bully and walks away the bully gets tired of it. bullies look for someone who is scared and fragile. If the kid walks away the bully is not going to go after them. Unless you have some emotional distrubed kid who is the bully. But it might also be the bully has a hard home life and the only way for the bully to feel he has power is to push people around.

I encourage my son to be nice to the bully and ignore him. Say hi if he sees him. So him he is not scared of him. Sometimes that is all they need.

Answer 3

Because the consequences of any sort of fight or altercation is always bad. Bullying is one of the sources of such mishap. People want to do something about it as revenge but simply don't because they know it's not gonna resolve the problem by fighting with a bunch of unyielding people. Therefore, they would try to avoid their kids from getting involved in such stupidity of others. We can rather resolve the issues through some authoritative measures like teachers, school board and cops etc.

Answer 4

When I was going to school and had to deal with the inevitable bully I more often than not would simply walk away. I would be called names but considering the source of the derision I felt confident enough in myself to not be concerned with the labels of an idiot or their associates.
Two wrongs don't make a right.
A bully is a bully, if you engage a bully on his or her terms then you have to "dance to their music." When you walk away from a senseless fight you're making the decision to "live and let live."
Walking away is not an act of cowardice it's an act of conviction.
Of course, there is always a caveat. In this world there are times when one HAS TO defend ones self. Which is why I taught all of my kids to "turn the other cheek" but remember, you only have two cheeks. If your "other cheek" is physically accosted then you have not only the right, but the duty to defend yourself.

Answer 5

Sometimes fights are not worth fighting. Irregardless if you walk away or not ,the bully and the bully mentality still exists. I think the bullies are the *******. What really gets me, is why does the bully always get away with his behavior. Why do people continue to enable him. People do tell their children to stand up for themselves, but fighting because of stupid things like, I don't like the way you look at me, your a fag, I don't like how you dress, I don't like how you talk,I want you money, and all kinds of stupid reasons is not worth fighting for. In all fairness it's the bully who has the problem.

Answer 6

Standing up for yourself doesn't have to include violence. Those bullies have no friends, other then those who want protection. There is a difference between having confidence in yourself and having confidence and beating people senseless. I can honestly say I've never been in a physical fight, but I get a lot of respect from people. I can only hope my kids one day can do the same.

Answer 7

Kids today are too wrapped up with their own self percieved image of "respect". Many parents are afraid that some kids (bullies especially) will resort to using guns and knives to guarantee their respect. Also, if the bully loses in a fair fight they may resort to this activity to get "revenge".

Honestly, it is not worth losing your life over. Better to grow up, get educated and wave to the bully standing on the unemployment line from your Beamer.

Answer 8

I think that parents are wanting their kids to be able to control their tempers. If they instantly lunge at the opportunity to fight then you would be the ones called bullies. But if a kid can deal with the situation without violence then that is the goal. I want my child to know how to deal with the bully by talking and walking away but I also want her to be able to put it down if she really felt threatened! There is som much violence now-a-days and there aren't just fist fighting now. More and more kids fight dirty by using sticks, bats, metal objects, etc. That isn't a fair fight.

Answer 9

So they wont end up in jail like the loser bully kid. I walked away all the time as a kid, wasn't worth it to me. They want to fight? Find somebody else...why does somebody have to be a punching bag for their issues? I'll tell my kids to do the same...and if they do get into a fight someday trying to protect themeselves against a bully...I'll be there to back them up 100 percent. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!

Answer 10

Obviously you don't have kids. Would you want your child to get beat up or beat the other kid back? Would you enjoy rushing your child to emergency because he decided to stick around and get all his teeth knocked out? You think that is going to make your child secure, confident and stand up for themselves by not walking away from a fight? You must be uneducated. My brother didn't walk away from a fight and got his jaw broken. You don't teach children to stand up for themselves this way. Bullies are lowlife trailer trash people. Why stoop to their level and fight back? They are the wimps. Walking away shows they are the bigger one.

Answer 11

Not me. I told my kid to fight back, and he does. He was getting bullied by a bigger kid, and my son actually punched the boy. I grounded my son, because the bully didnt hit my son first, but its good to know he is capable of looking after himself. Hes the shortest kid in his class, including the girls, lol.