Beside role playing...in relationships, do you feel you have to pretend to be another person in order to continue your relationship with your bf/gf? Pretend you're into sports when actually you couldnt tell a football from a diamond plate? Do you pretend that a sappy chick flick touched your heart when you'd actually really want to see somebody being blown the hell up?
2006-07-24 07:07:30 · 16 answers · asked by ladytina30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No! In a relationship the other one has to accept and to love you exactly how you are, with your good and bad sides. If you pretend just to make the other one like you more, then that relation is not based on honesty. Remember, a good relationship must give you the opportunity to be yourself in any situation!
2006-07-24 07:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by me-sama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm initially its gotta be a bit of give and take but probably best to be honest pretending you like something can cause you to be stressed and your partner is wondering where this stress is coming from, lil bits and pieces can build up and next minute your arguing and ya dont really know why, so i think better to be straight up and if you like each other its not gonna be a problem that you dont share the same hobbies and tastes, but if ya do find that special person your probably gonna want to be with them no matter what and whats a couple hours with someone ya love even if its not your perfect thing to do, just being with thems the perfect day :)
2006-07-24 07:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Michael M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, never had to pretend. If I wasn't into anything that he liked he totally understood even when I complained. Likewise if he's not into something I like I understand. Obviously in most relationships you have differences. Understanding and accepting those differences is a huge factor in making a relationship work. If you have to pretend with someone you're just lying to yourself and the other person. If you can't be honest and open with your partner you have some serious issues to work out.
2006-07-24 07:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is the point of pretending to be someone you are not, because you are going to be caught out in the end... you just have to be you and if your girlfriend or boyfriend dont like that then dump them.. there is nothing worse than being in a relationship and pretending you are someone else. There is nothing better in a relationship if U are U so be yourself and no body else
2006-07-24 07:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In past relationships I felt the need to pretend to be something I'm not but they never worked out. And I always knew somewhere in the back of my mind they wouldnt because I would never be comfortable enough to move in or marry them. I knew my fiance as a friend for a long time before we dated so he already knew what the real me was like before we got together. But I wanted to make sure I was myself all the time with him because I didnt want to have to hide anything, and we are working out just fine. Not to mention I'm much happier when I dont have to pretend that I like the wrestling he watches, or that I that I like wearing thongs constantly.
2006-07-24 07:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do! This is one of the great things about dating: exposing yourself to new past times and experiences. If you really make the effort, you may find that you enjoy football, baseball, trout fishing - whatever. If you really don't like it - and I'm talking about a true aversion, or disagree with something on moral, religious or legal grounds - you should definitely NOT do it. And, here I'm talking about bondage, animal sacrifice or drug use. Nobody objects to watching "Sleepless in Seattle" on moral or religious grounds. And if a boyfriend or girlfriend expresses a desire in a dangerous or illegal activity or some sexual practice that seems abhorrent to you - THAT'S when you draw a firm line and ditch the *****. Otherwise, try it, you might like it.
2006-07-24 07:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because my gf likes me for who I am and that is the most important thing in a relationship. If you are pretending to be something other than what you are, then your gf/bf is dating a stranger.
2006-07-24 07:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope..my boyfriend is the one of the few people in my life that i can totally be myself with.
there is no reason to have to pretend to be someone else for a significant other. it will never last if you have to do that....your bf/gf ends up falling for someone that you are not, and when they realize the real you, they will probably leave because that isn't the person they fell in love with.
2006-07-24 07:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has their convenience zone, so i do not imagine you're strange for no longer being mushy vocalizing the be conscious Babe or Honey. He ought to probable be pleasantly stunned and particular no longer say a ingredient. yet when he did say something it must be extra like "it is staggering to hearken to you say that" I easily have a tough time calling human beings Honey. Darling is okay, yet Honey is unusual for me some reason. Sweetie is all solid.
2016-10-15 03:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to pretend to be someone else, it's not Love. You're being unfair to yourself by making yourself miserable and your bf/gf by not showing them the real you, so that they think they're in love with this person, who actually not who they appear to be. Make sense?
I did make this mistake once, I was so crazy over her that i tortured myself into becoming another person. I stopped listening to the music I like and only listened to her music, I stopped doing stuff with my friends because i was so busy doing the things she likes. I was even at risk of throwing away my beliefs to fit with hers. luckily I was able to snap out of it when I found out she was cheating. IT's Torture. It's not worth it!
2006-07-24 07:12:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋