but this new person is just not the same as the guy I have been seeing for over a year. I knew it would end because he is married but still I have an awful void in my heart. I had a good time meeting the new guy but there are things about him that bother me, he is kinda cheap ( 1 item of the dollar menu only) and he can be simple minded and boring sometimes. He is single but In the month that I have know him I haven't seen him but twice. How do I get interested in this guy and feel the same way about him as I did the guy I just lost when there are things about him that turn me off?
2006-07-24
07:04:25
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➔ Singles & Dating
Thjs last relatinship was my first in 10+ years so I have had plenty of the single life and it's not all it's made up to be. I dont have any money to do all those fun things singles can do. I end up sitting at home all the time instead
2006-07-24
07:10:42 ·
update #1
to be honest the guy that I am now talking to is the only guy that I have gotten a second date with. I have met many guys in the past few months in pursuit of a decent relationship with someone single but they all either reject me or if they are interested in me, they are drunks or just really fat or boring. At least this guy is somewhat fun to hang out with and it is better than sitting home alone and yes I am still keeping my options open to meet someone better because after all I have just met him.
2006-07-24
07:13:18 ·
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Don't rush into a relationship, especially if there are no sparks. It's a good idea to get to know this guy better but keep your options open. You've only been dating for a year and most of that time was with just one guy, it can take (unfortunately!) 2 or 3 years to find someone whom you really like and who really likes you, so keep dating. You don't want to be in the position of tying yourself to someone who doesn't really turn you on and then have to pass up on the guy who does, because you already committed yourself. Take your time. I'm sorry about the breakup.
2006-07-24 23:26:49
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answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5
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Y do u want to be interested in this guy? Aren't there other single guys u could like? There's something about THIS guy that grabs u, otherwise u wouldn't want to be interested in him. But make sure he knows he's just a rebound, and u'll look for a real relationship with someone else later. There's no need to drag his heart through the mud too. Go find a guy u actually like, so u can be turned on, and go on with the new relationship.
2006-07-24 07:10:15
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answered by Uncertain Soul 6
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Explain to me again why you are bothering with the new guy?
Okay, so you are looking for someone to fill that void inside of you. Its not going to happen by dating a cheap moron. Take some time to yourself and date around. Don't try to recreate what you had, keep it special, and unique, and cherish the time you had together.
Then when the right one comes along, you'll recognize it and embrace that relationship as being unique and special in its own way.
2006-07-24 07:09:59
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answered by cloaked30m 3
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You should move on, with a single men, just take your time and date a lot of men before staying with only one, have fun and don't get in to a relationship for like a less 6 months
2006-07-24 07:13:20
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answered by PR 4
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Don't date married men...unless you think it's okay for you to be cheated on.
Don't date this current guy, you don't really like him.
It's okay to be single...REALLY. Don't settle for someone just to be dating...that's insulting and unfair to the other person, and causes you to maybe miss out on better opportunities because you're wasting time with someone you don't really like.
No boyfriend is going to be the same as any other boyfriend...people are individuals...even when you're crazy in love, it won't feel exactly the same as it did toward someone else...
Take some time and get grounded...get to know yourself...what you want out of life...why you go for married and unsuitable men...fix what's wrong in your life, and you'll make better choices in the future...
Good luck!
2006-07-24 07:08:46
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answered by . 7
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It's hard for you I know. But still there is some light. First, do not compare personalities. While dating your second man, look in him for the qualities that make you feel good and super. If he lacks them, then do not wait for a second disappointment. The ocean is big, put your nets deeper!!!
2006-07-24 07:14:07
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answered by kaju 1
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if this guy was the same as him who left you he to would leave so why do you want the same duh.
plus thats what you get for playing aroung with a marryed man
2006-07-24 07:12:19
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answered by easymoney 6
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Look for other guys...He's not the only tree in the jungle.Take yr time and make new friends.
2006-07-24 07:08:23
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answered by SadSingleEyelid 2
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lisen to ur heart,do what make s you more happy
2006-07-24 07:07:21
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answered by Anonymous
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