Why do some parents act so damn protective even when you are 15 I mean I uderstand they care but gosh!?

Question

They dont even let me walk up the street. They wont let me go to the park they wont let me do anything it is stupid.I can'tgo to the movies with a friend nothing. They always suspect me of some thing like I'm going with a boy when in all reality im just with my Friend. They always say I can't do this this and that under their roof. But they won't let me move out. I am going to do it anyway so i don't care. It can't be filed as running away because im not running away I'm moving out . I'm getting A job and an Apartment and moving out. this is unfair treatment.

Ican also live with my friend she said it was ok

i do have a credit card got it for my last birthday and it hasent been used. i have a place to stay without having to pay for rent . only have to pay for food andclothing things like that i have a job that pays 6.50/hr@ kroger were i live so i have got all this covered.

Answer 1

Because they scared that you would do same mistakes when they we're young.

Answer 2

Oh, ok Honey. Move out and get a job...you can't get anything but mall jobs and fast food at your age. You can't legally drive on your own, and no one will rent you an apartment without a cosignor or a lot of money. You'll soon see just how unfair life can be when Mommy & Daddy aren't handing you everything. Do you know how hard it is to be out on your own? Trust me...you've only got a short amount of time left to live under your parents roof before you go off to college (yet something else I'm sure you can't afford on your own, and unless you want to work a fat fryer the rest of your life, you should go to college and further your education).

Look, I remember being your age and how hard it can be at times. Try asking your parents to drop you off at these places and have them be nearby. Like at a mall. Have them take you & your friend and agree to meet with them in a couple hours at the food court or something. Start small and show them that they can trust you and that you know what to do if a stranger approaches. If they can't agree to something this simple, then you should enlist the help of a trusted family friend or relative. Maybe they can help you diplomatically approach your parents so they will loosen the reigns a little bit. Try it...you might be surprised with the results you get.

Answer 3

Your 15! Enjoy the time you have at home not worrying about things like bills and rent and laundry and loud neighbors. You parents are the same as most 15 year old's parents, you are right at the age when they still think of you as a child, I think if you just move out, you will prove to them that you are still thinking like a child. There are a lot of things you can do to make them feel that you are thinking like an adult, like sitting down with them and discussing your problems in a serious way. Tell then how it makes you feel when they don't allow you to go with your friends and that it is a problem for you. If you approach this problem without anger I think your parents will be more willing to work with you on the rules. Just so you know - my parents were the same way when I was 15, I was a good kid who never got into trouble and they were still very strict, I realized that they were just afraid of something happening to me, not that I would do anything dangerous or irresponsible but that someone else would. Try talking to your parents and maybe invite your friends over to meet your parents and gain their trust. Don't do anything you'll regret later out of anger. Your parents obviously care about you very much they just need to know you will take care of yourself. Best Wishes!!

Answer 4

Sweetie - watch the news, there are SO MANY kids being killed and raped it IS scary for a parent, and sometimes we just don't know what in the hell to do so we get OVER protective, it's better than going to a morgue to view a body!
There is nothing that you can do other than be responsible, which they will see, respect their rules, for you live in their house, and try to assure them when they are scared. Because they are, scared. It is SUCH an ugly world and we only want the BEST for our kids that protecting them from the world seems the only way to insure they make it to adulthood!
Don't move out - you have so many years ahead of you - 3 more years until you are 18 is nothing!! You have the rest of your life to make decisions for yourself - right now don't make the wrong ones. Realize that your parents had parents too at one time, and they are people too. They can only do what they think is right, even when it feels so wrong to you.

Answer 5

You may be right in describing them as overportective. We don't live with you guys, so we don't know.

I can tell you this. As long as you are under the legal age, (18 in most places of the Western world) they are legally responsible for anything that happens to you and anything you do. Your running away REQUIRES them to try to find you and take you home. A job and an apartment makes no difference.

Also, at 15, you won't be able to legally sign for an apartment's lease, since contrancts with minors are unenforcable. Anyone who hires you at age 15 may also risk some legal entnglement.

Unless you and your parents can come to some agreement regarding your level of freedom, you may just have to wait it out for three years. The only way of getting out and away from the family is if you commit a crime and go to jail, or, if your parents are putting your life in danger in some way. (difficult to prove, and devestating if you are caught lying about it.)

Answer 6

Rather than try to change a view you already have. I will say this you will NEVER understand until you are a parent yourself. However you did answer your own question within the question. Your 15 not yet an adult your parents are trying to protect you nothing more! It has little or nothing to do with their past. Watch the news that's good cause for concern there! Would you rather your parents not care let you wander where ever and be molested, killed!? You will understand more when you have children of your own for now just be glad your parents love you and worry about you.

Answer 7

Do you skip school? How are your grades? Are you involved with school activities?
From your own words, it seems that your parents are trying to keep you OFF the streets ~ and to help you work toward a better life. Why don't you think about WHY your parents are being careful ... especially if you've already given them reasons! Being on the street at 15 is a deadly idea. You could end up on the street, alright ~ hooking for some druggie pimp! Or Worse!

At 15 we all try to act more grownup than we really are ... but the path you're contemplating is MUCH more dangerous than you can imagine. I suggest you talk with your parents about their concerns, and if you want more privileges, prove to them that you can be responsible. It wouldn't take long, once you stop popping-off on them, and act more grown up. Your hissy-fits to us seem more like a little brat! That's not going to help you at all.
Trust your parents' love for you: learn to talk with them without screaming & threatening and throwing hissy-fits ~ that behavior doesn't help your case a bit.

Answer 8

I think what they are doing is a little extreme. Maybe you have led them to think that they can't trust you. Maybe they are just trying to be very over protective. Moving out at such a young age is not wise but talking to them would be good. Ask them why the are looking after you so much. I am sure one day when you are a parent you might feel like 15 is still a baby in a parents eyes.

Answer 9

Parents will always worry about you, its their job. Would you rather have them ignore you and not care about you at all? I realize this is hard to understand at your age, and I'm sure people tell you this a lot, but until you're 18 you are your parents responsiblity. If anything happens to you it's their fault. So they are going to do everything in their power to make sure you are safe. Being out on your own isn't all its cracked up to be. You'll have bills to pay and way more responsiblities then you have now. You'll have to drop out of high school in order to work enough hours to pay all your bills, and the best job you're ever going to get with out a high school education is working at a fast food place or worse. Stay in school, put up with your parents, it'll be over in a few years and you really will be out on your own.

Answer 10

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A young person age 15 or 16, must EARN their parents TRUST.
If you want ADULT priviledges, then you must conduct ALL of your behavior as a young ADULT.

I trusted a very special 11 year old niece with the care of my infant while I worked. But that is because her Mom lives next door, and she was more mature AND RESPONSIBLE than OTHER 11 year olds.

If you parents have you on a short leash, if MAY BE because you have not proved that you are RESPONSIBLE.
From your parents point of view...they SEE and HEAR ABOUT all the young girls and boys now from as early as 13 that have full sex, and pregnancies, and drugs.
Think about how wonderful your parents are to try to insulated and protect you from making
"quick" poor decisions that could severely ALTER the
whole course of you future.
If you can say to yourself, that in the heat of a make-out-session, that you are certain you would not let a guy into your pants....with 100% certainty
only then are you saying you are MORE well prepared for dating than 50% of most ADULTS !!!
If you are certain that when you entered a party, and discovered drugs at the party, would you have the good sense to get out of there? No? what if the police came, and you wound up detained at the jail...the police don't care if you were using, they only know you were at the scene.


If you really LOOK at the rules your parents are putting on you, then you will see that EVEN WHEN YOU MOVE OUT, you will probably put many of the same restrictions on yourself, but that priviledge is going to cost you
RENT, GROCERIES, UTILITIES (water, phone, eletricity), TRANSPORTATION COSTS (bus, auto, insurance, gasoline), CLOTHING, AND LAUNDRY, MEDICAL costs, and much more.

Oh, sure you'll go to some parties, you'll be free to have a blast, you can even throw some parties of your own, but after working all week, and going to college at night, you'll
LIKELY BE TOO TIRED to party. Not to mention, parties cost money. Not to mention, friends will take advantage of your apartment!!!
Uh, everything costs money.

Get a grip on the reality that your parents only want to protect you from yourself, and so-called-friends that would take advantage of your naieve understanding of the hard truth of the world.
Not everyone out there is nice, young lady.
In fact, most of the people out there don't and won't ever care about you, except what they can get from you.
Shocked! ???

Ya, we all get shocked when that fact of life hits us over the head, like a ton of cow poo.

You have it better than you know, living off your parents.
Plus, obviously you don't give them the appreciation they deserve for taking care of you, and wanting to protect you.
If you want a bit longer leash, discuss what you can do to prove to your parent you are becoming and adult
and you are becoming responsible
and you can be trusted to do what you say you will do, without cheating.
As you earn bits of trust, they will give you a little more, and then a little more.
If you want to be HANDED a load of trust without earning it, then you are not thinking as an adult...because REALITY is we all have to EARN trust, as I said.

No part of living is easy,
except childhood.
Are you sure you want to grow up so fast?
stw
:)

Answer 11

First of all, you cannot move out. You will be considered a runaway. You can't get a job without your parents consent, and the only housing you'll get is a cardboard box. Do you not read the paper or listen to the news? Girls get raped and killed every single day, some right from their own homes. Your parents want you to be a child, not a statistic. When you have children, you'll understand.