Okay, here's a confusing question. I want to have my sister as maid of honor, my sister in law and his sister as bridesmaids. He wants to have His brother, my brother, and my brother in law as groomsmen. The problem with that is that his my sister and brother in law have two kids together, my brother and sister in law have two kids together, his brother has three kids (he's not with their mom anymore), and his sister has two kids (she's not with their dad anymore). What do we do with all of those kids??? Our parents can't watch them all at once at our wedding.....HELP!!!
Thanks for the answers in advance!!!
2006-07-24 06:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by sundragonjess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, my sister's kids are 5 and 2, my brother's kids are 6 and 5, His sister's kids are 12 and 5, His brother's kids are 6, 5 & 3.
2006-07-24 08:07:58 · update #1
We already chose the ring bearer and flower girl. The calmest boy is his brother's middle boy, he's the ring bearer, so I get the flower girl, and I only have one girl on my side, that was the easy part. It's just what to do with the other kids that is difficult!!!
2006-07-24 09:01:04 · update #2
Everyone is correct, get a hold of some local college kids or some people that can be hired to watch over the kids during the wedding. This is what I did at my wedding...(I had about 15 cousins under the age of ten...yikes!):
I had a separate table set up designated as a "kid's table". Instead of covering it with a table cloth like my other tables, I covered it with big sheets of newsprint, and provided a basket of crayons so that the kids could draw right on the table. Instead of the usual favors and centerpiece, the kids table had a basket of safe toys for kids - stuffed animals and trinkets and such, most butterfly-themed which went with the theme of my wedding. Also, I bought about ten disposable cameras and instead of leaving them out for all guests to use, I surrendered them to the kid's table - that way they have a job to do that they can be proud of, and you'll be surprised how many hilarious and loving pictures you'll get taken by 6 year olds! I also gave them bubbles to blow. I didn't hire any people to watch over the kids because we have such a big family, and as it ended up, a couple of the grandmas by choice sat at the kid's table and kept an eye out on the little ones. And they love to dance! You can include them a lot more than you think. I guarantee if you have some upbeat music the kids will be the first ones up on the dance floor. Just make sure you have an actual "bartender" person making sure that if the kids decide to serve themselves a drink, it's not the "spiked" punch ;) The kids will be an entertaining and heart-warming addition to your wedding. Usually they get attention from all the adult guests and they're automatically well looked-after. And make sure your photographer is all over them... here's some kid pics from my wedding.... =) good luck! http://www.secondstarillustrations.com/kidsatwedding.htm
2006-07-24 12:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience attending a wedding who let the kids take over (and I'm a teacher with a lot of patience!): Hire two babysitters for the day and night. During the ceremony see if there is a cry room where the kids can still see what is going on but are in a separate room where they can talk and play. During the reception it is a great idea to have a "kids" table with a fun centerpiece, coloring books, games, and maybe a few other activities. Make it the job of the baby sitter's to look after them during the reception and keep them occupied. Do Not only hire one sitter though, kids will wear on them especially at their age and in that number. I would suggest at least 2 probably more appropriate to have 4. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 09:03:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. if you are having your wedding at a church.. there will be a nursery somewhere in the building. You could set someone aside or hire someone to be in charge of all the children. Then you would be able to have everyone that you want for the wedding. I just feel sorry for you, when you have to choose a ring bearer and flower girl! Good luck!
2006-07-24 08:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the place you're getting married at have a childcare that is open or could be open if you requested on that day? How old are the children? If they are over 12 they should be able to mind their manners during the ceremony. If you want those people in your wedding, just ask them. They know they have kids...they know their kids aren't in the wedding....they may take them to their own babysitter until the reception (or for the whole day) on their own...they will find other arrangements for their own children if need be.
2006-07-24 07:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My reccomendation would be to hire a babysitter, or in your case 2 maybe 3! Trust me you don't want all of those kids running around your wedding and I'm sure that if you spoke to their parents (the sister in laws, sisters, brothers/in laws etc) that they would understand and if they all chipped in then they could afford to hire 2 or 3 sitters and just have them all stay at one place. A lot of people don't want to bring their children to a wedding anyway, especially if they're in it.
Good luck, I'm sure it will all work out fine and Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
2006-07-24 07:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by jessicamarie0572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there are a couple of people in the family who are willing to help look after all those kids during the wedding. Otherwise, it looks like hiring someone would be the best bet.
good luck and congrats on the wedding
2006-07-24 07:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is hire a babysitter. Have you meade it clear that you do not want children at the wedding? Or are you allowing children? If you are allowing them, look into a babysitter, which can keep them entertained at the wedding. You should also find out if the place you are having your reception at has a room to keep the children busy.
2006-07-24 09:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the kids as flower girls and boys and one girl and one boy for the ring bearers. Make sure for the flower kids you have someone walking with them.
2006-07-24 07:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by kellie_waggle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definatly see about hiring someone for the day. If you are having your wedding at a church see if the nursery is included in what you are using. If you don't know anyone (or everyone you know will be at the wedding), the church may have someone they regularly use or recommend. If you don't have the money to hire someone, ask a family member/friend to help out.
2006-07-24 07:31:09 · answer #9 · answered by damn_sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some one that you know that is not going to the wedding and let them babysit and get the oldest boy to be your ring barer and the oldest girl to be the flower girl. I was only 4 when I was a ring berer in my aunts wedding.
2006-07-24 08:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by yoda_0072002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋