I'm worried about my girlfriend cheating on me...should i be?

Question

So long story short my girlfriend and i have been dating for the last seven months and its been extremely rocky but we always manage to pull through everything that we come across. now keep that in mind as i go on.
In my last relashionship my girlfriend ended up cheating on me and ever sence ive been rather scared of it happening again.
Now back to the present, I am afraid Rachel (my girlfriend with a pseudonem) will find a new guy because our relashionship has been so rough at times and she could find something better in another guy. When confronted with my problem, she tells me that she would never do that to me and that she enjoys me for me and not some other guy. But thats what my last girlfriend said...So i guess i ask you what is the probablity of this happening to me? I am afraid and slightly confused about the situation...ive tried hard to just take her for her word but i still cant believe it...any insight would be awsome...thanks...:)

Answer 1

You just have to trust her....in th end its trust that will save you relationship, nothing else will stop her from cheating on you...goodluck with rachel, (my gf is rachel too, they seem to be cool)

Answer 2

cheating is really horrible but it's also horrible to be constantly accused of it or suspected. it's only been 7 months so it's early days. if someone cheats you will find out. you did last time! Trust is something you just have to do but at least your girl knows why you are so insecure. you've also got to trust yourself. you will be ok no matter what happens. all this worry means you are not enjoying the first flush of this wonderful new relationship. you are letting your ex ruin it! It also means you are not able to stand back and work out if this girl is right for you on other levels. it's really hard to push away the fears and feelings but that is all they are. they are not facts. I've been through this myself and only now after 1 year together am i feeling ok. so give it time and love yourself. if it's love and it's right it will work out. if she does cheat you'll get to know and you know you're strong enough to handle it cos you've already done it. well done you opening your heart to love again.

Answer 3

If you don't learn to trust her then your relationship will go for the rocks!You said you have had some problems ("its been extremely rocky")?Find out where the problem is and try and establish why it causes it,don't look at your self and say the problem is not you.Most of the time it is where the problem starts.If the two of you have an argument,stop and think before you say anything,don't just throw your toys back at her.you have to look into how you can assist each other in trusting one another.Talk it out,don't just ask and not accept.Best of luck!

Answer 4

Hi, if the r'ship is already rocky after 7 months, it will eventually hit the rocks, whether or not she cheats. I personally think she wont cheat, you said yourself you've gone through quite a bit together, so she could have cheated by now had she wanted to. But given the rocky situation, I feel the relationship will eventually run its course and you will part. Furthermore, there is no mention in your text the word 'love'. Sorry, and good luck.

Answer 5

it seems that your current girlfriend is not the one with the problem here. you are. because of your past experiences which were unpleasant you feel insecure.
the fact that you have come through bad times already tells me you are both strong if she was going to leave she probably would have done it through the bad times
you must trust your girlfriend.
no one can answer the question is she going to cheat or not none of us know but the truth is no matter what happens it will happen if you worry about it or not so just enjoy your time with her
im sure if you talk to her or support groups on your anxieties and YOUR insecurities it will help. if you keep pressurising her and being possessive you might drive her to it. i sense she is a lovely girl who loves you enjoy it!

Answer 6

There is always going to be someone who you feel is better than you in some way - but that person isn't with your girlfriend and it's you that she wants to be with. You need to believe that otherwise you could end up destroying the relationship and forcing your girlfriend away from you. If you feel that your confidence has taken a knock then you need to do things that build your confidence back up - go to the gym, take up a new hobby, do something proactive, etc. Once you feel confident about yourself and start loving yourself for who you are, you will be able to trust your girlfriend, and she will love you even more for it.

Answer 7

You can spend your life worrying about things that ''might happen'' If she is going to cheat then she will,worrying won't prevent it,it will just make you miserable.
Of course past relationships have an effect on you,I've been cheated on in the past and felt really paranoid for a time but you know what,you eventually meet someone that doesn't cheat on you and after a while you wonder what you were worried about.
Not everyone cheats and if ''Rachel'' says she won't then just trust her.x

Answer 8

Well. Considering you have had a problem with cheating girlfriends in the past, it is normal to have the same fears with a new girlfriend. All you can do really, is trust her word until you find out otherwise.

Try and sit down and talk to her about it, let her know your feelings and thoughts about it, and let her know what happened in the past, which is why all the thoughts and fears about her cheating are running through your head. If she really does care about you like she says she does, then she will sit and listen, and not get uptight, and defensive when you talk to her about it.

Just be open and honest with her about it.

:-)

Answer 9

First if he's a variety, then he's not extreme which includes your lady friend. meaning... ultimately she will be able to be damage by him and he or she will be able to go back decrease back to you, now the question is. Will you want her decrease back after all of the drama ends? She has already lied, on account that even as after a twelve months ought to you no longer have her selection already? So she knew it replaced into no longer you who had emailed her. Then, by the point she has to imagine of lies to go back up with as to why she must have men pal that you do not understand options you, it at that factor has already change into an irrelevant courting. So if I were you, i ought to get my reading executed graduate from college attempt to make a hell of allot of money, and marry someone that likes you extra ideal than you want them.

Answer 10

Gosh if only you knew how many people are going through the same insecurity as you are, or have been through it.

You will get over it but it'll take a bit of time. When Rachel says she wouldn't do it believe her and try to have more confidence in yourself.

Good luck to you both.

Answer 11

What is the reason that you are comparing your new girlfriend to your ex girlfriend?

Do they act the same or are they completely different? I am sure if you love your new girlfriend as much as you seem to that you will trust her word!

Without trust in your relationship it will not be long before it begins to go wrong! Your girlfriend will become upset and annoyed at your constant disbelief and it will be you that pushes her away other than another man!