my son has been playing with girl toys sinse he has been 2 years old. He will not play with any boy toys at all. He loves girl stuff. He goes to the girl section in the toy store and has no intrest what so ever in boy things. He plays with other boys but he wants to play girl stuff. I don't know what to do. He does not show any signs of change. I thought he would out grow this but it does not look like he will. I was wondering if it could be a condition like low male hormones or maybe born with female hormones. Someone please help. I don't know what to do. I don't want kids to tease him or make fun of him for this.
Thanks in advance
2006-07-24 06:14:48 · 37 answers · asked by pekagirl35 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Thank you for all your replies. I just want to clear things up he has a sister who is 14 months older than him she is 8. That is why there are girl toys in the house. Someone wanted to know what kind of toys he played with. Well he plays with Bratz, Polly Pockets, Littlest Pet Shop toys. I have bought him every kind of boy toy you can think of. I do not tease him about this. I am only worried that other children will. I love my son no matter what. If he is going to be gay then I don't care. I have unconditional love for my children. I would just like to know if there is something I should do so that it may make his life easier in the long run. I feel people on here think that I buy him the girl toys or that I tease him about it. Another person asked about males in the house hold. He has a dad and a 16 yr old brother he also has male cousins and neighbor kids who are boys. So he is surronded by males.
2006-07-24 07:32:04 · update #1
Legos and building toys like Tinkertoys or Lincoln Logs are appropriate for both boys and girls, and most kids love them - this might be a good thing to try and get him hooked on to try and avoid teasing.
As far as hormone levels and such, you would have to take him in to the pediatrician and test for that. I'm not sure toy choice alone is an indicator, but I'm not an expert.
You say he plays with girl stuff, if you could be a bit more specific it might help. Try asking him what he likes about the toys - if, for instance, he's playing with dolls because they look like people and he likes to make up stories, you could get him the original Sims game (NOT Sims 2! Repeat, NOT Sims 2) and it will satisfy that need a) without little doll bits underfoot and b) in a more "socially acceptable" if that's what you're worried about manner. Or if you'd rather be low-tech, a drawing set and a simple book on drawing cartoons so he can make his stories that way. If he likes stuffed toys, it could be because he is comforted by the softness, or it could be that he's got a slight aversion to the hard plastic feel of most boy's toys.
Try not to worry too much - peek in and you may find he's playing with soft purple kitty cats but they're making laser noises and explosions or something. :)
2006-07-24 06:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Fed_UP_with_work. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughters male friend just turned 7 on the weekend. We gave him a bratz doll. This is what he wanted. He plays with girls all the time and carried a barbie for the first 5 years of his life. He is the most lovely boy (excluding mine of course LOL) that you will ever meet. Your son is who he is and there is nothing you can do to change it. It's great to see that you don't care if he is gay but it doesn't mean this is what will happen. Worry about bullying when it happens. Kids may just accept this is who he is. You are very lucky to have a loving nuturing son and he is lucky to have an understanding mum.
2006-07-24 17:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with boys that play with girl toys, in fact, many so called experts say this is normal and healthy behavior for early stages of development. So, maybe he'll be gay, maybe he'll have a great respect for women or maybe he'll be a raging sexaholic... who knows.
Although in my personal opinion, if you are this concerned about the issue, maybe it would be a good idea to cut back on the amount of girl toys and slowly introduce some neutral toys and then eventually boy toys. Tossing all girl toys and bombarding him with boy toys would not be a healthy solution, he should have access to both types as a means of exploration. Not all boys want to play with race cars and construction equipment.
If this continues into his preteen stages, you may want to consult a professional to really asses the situation.
2006-07-24 10:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK
I think we all have gifts and talents that make us special. To make us each unique, God gave us personalities and intends for us to use them. If your child is showing an interest in girl toys, who cares. If other people are pointing a finger, it's their problem.
I have a 4 year old son who I can't get away from balls, cars and sand. He has a passion for sports and I know he will one day be great.
I have a 5 year old daughter who loves art, make-up and pretty clothes. She has a passion for beautiful things and I know she will one day be great.
I have a 1 1/2 year old boy who is ornery, fun loving and a blessing. He has a passion for food and I know he will one day be great.
I have a 7 year old son who loves to pay barbies with his sister, play computer as much as I will let him and has a passion for reading. I know that one day he will be great.
Do you see what I am getting at. No matter where your son is, one day he will be great. If he is interested in girl toys, maybe one day he will be a designer or a big wig cooperate manager at a toy plant. Who knows. Look forward to the future. Good luck and God bless.
2006-07-24 09:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by super_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was your daughter only playing with boys' toys then I'm sure you wouldn't be in the slightest bit worried. I think you need to let go of your stereotypical thinking when it comes to what boys should be playing with and just leave your son be. He is only seven and too young to really realise sex roles that society likes to shove boys and girls into.
I imagine he will probably change over the next few years as he loses this childlike innocence and becomes more aware of peer pressure. And even if he doesn't, then it is your job as his parent to accept him and assure him that no matter what you'll always love him and to come to you immediately if he is being bullied.
2006-07-24 06:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by starchilde5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, he just likes to play like his nearest in age older sibling, a girl.
As to everyone who suggested he might be gay. My gay son never played with girl toys. He was my oldest child and is now 21. My straight son played with 'girl toys' and played dress-up in girl clothes until he was 9. He is now 17 and definitely straight.He had an older sister and liked to play with her.
Kids may tease your son. It hurts as a parent when your child is teased, but it does happen and all we can do is teach them to be proud of themselves and comfortable with who they are.
At 7 years old , he is probably well aware that other boys don't often play with dolls and obviously wants to do it anyway. Congratulations, it sounds like you are raising a man with a good sense of self who will not easily be swayed by the opinoins of others.
2006-07-24 12:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by ppqppq10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't buy him any girl things, but on the the other hand love him for who he his ,don't worry about what other kids or other people have to say about your son because that will only make things worse. Be there for your son and love him in any condition because it will make him feel like you are the greatest mom in the world, and he could tell you any thing so don't stress about the situation he is only a child it's natural.
2006-07-24 06:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your son likes to play with girls things is no indcation that he is gay. The reason he plays with them is because the person in the family closest to his own age plays with them. Children follow their peer group at that age and his sister is in his peer group. There is nothing "wrong" with a boy playing with girls things it's not hormones, that is completely ridiculous a notion and I can't believe an actual adult would even come up with that excuse. Sounds to me as if the father of this child needs to go back to school and retake sex ed.
2006-07-27 22:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i know he didn't go and buy the girl toys himself. second, although he is your child, he is not you or who you want him to be. he is himself. you being his parent should accept him for who he is. i have a son, if it is something i don't want him to do, i wont allow it from day one, not let him do it and see if he grows out of it.
clearly if he is showing an interest, then that is what he wants. if he hasn't changed in five years, he probably won't. if you force him to be something he isn't he is going to be unhappy. i am not saying that he is gay, but if he is, wouldn't you rather him come and talk to you freely about it when he is older? to him, playing with girl toys may be a part of who he is . if his own mother is judging him, how would you expect him to deal with the rest of the world? i know, and then when he is the victim of a hate crime because he felt he had to sneak around, then there will be guilt.
please allow him to be himself, regardless of who you want him to be. don't make him be something he isn't, because as he gets older, you will see that it is gonna get deeper than toys, and you want him to come and be open and honest about what is going on with him.
2006-07-24 06:32:41 · answer #9 · answered by lnhymon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried telling him these toys are for girls and they are yucky so you need to play with cool cars and little men action figures my 3 year old tried to play with girl toys and i told him that he is a boy and he cant play with girl stuff does he have sisters or girl cousins? does he have any men in his life to spend time with him to do boy things?at seven years old i dont think you have to worry about anything like to many female hormones just try to make the boy stuff look and sound cooler than girl toys i hope this helps
2006-07-24 06:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by lovebug6968 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋