I am a single mom & have been single for the last 5 years, i've chosen to take care of my daughter & build our lives together, i've attained an ok job with a really good international company & have been trying to further my studies in Accounting..
However i've found myself very lonely in the romance dept..my query is,With all the things going on in my life,including a recent change in my job (same place,different position) & my daughter leaving preschool to start "big" school,WHY do i find the need to want a relationship with a guy?..WHY can't i just continue NOT being with someone, IS IT NATURE? why do ppl or at least MOST ppl want to find love with a romantic partner?..why is love and (adult) relationships so important,can't we just live/survive without them?.. IS THIS just a personal desire or DOES THIS HAPPEN TO EVERYONE? cause i wish i could go on without it, BUT it feels like nature or MY nature is telling me i WANT MORE..
on this site for example,ppl seem to WANT love..WHY?
2006-07-24 06:14:14 · 8 answers · asked by washa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cause we weren't designed to be loners. Man is a pack animal. Which means that we will always look for social relationships with others of our kind.
There's another good reason to find a 'GOOD' relationship. Your daughter is going to be looking at you and watching you to learn directly what a healthy relationship is. If you have a healthy relationship with someone, then she's going to learn from that. So you can claim that part of it might even be a maternal instinct.
Yet another good reason is is that everyone needs something just for them. It might be just a fishing trip, or just close friends, or a night out at the club. But its probably time for you to take a step back and realize you are your own person as well as a Mother. And start tending to yourself some.
I'd go on, but I'm trying to keep My answers succint.
2006-07-24 06:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all need to share our lives, in some way, with other grownups. You can't expect your daughter and your job to meet all of your needs for adult social interaction.
This doesn't mean you have to have a romantic relationship, of course.
But a romantic relationship is exciting and intimate (and not just sexually) in a way that most friendships aren't.
I think the question you should be asking isn't "Why do I want a man?" but "Why don't I want a man?" What are you afraid of? (I suspect there's a long list. Write it all down. Think things through. Spend some quality time with your therapist if you need to. Then go have some safe, healthy fun.)
2006-07-24 06:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a guy and that i trust you thoroughly. I fee love plenty extra suitable than I do lust. Do issues at the same time as acquaintances, then artwork on a romantic relationship. Do you savor the comparable ingredients, pastimes, concert activities, song and theater? It takes time and attempt to make certain in case you have compatibility or no longer. in my view, i like the wonderment and anticipation of a attainable romantic relationship.
2016-10-08 06:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i am in the same boat. i am trying to raise my daughter without any help from her father. but there is still something missing in my life. i want to date and eventually meet mr right. but with everything going on in my life, where do i find the time? i would love to meet a guy who i could trust, who would understand and accept all the different aspects of my life. I do believe it is only human nature. i think as little girls, we dreamed of being in love, but due to our life circumstances, we had to put that on hold. i believe you can live a happy life without a man but there will always be apart of you that wishes he was there to enjoy it with you. i am so torn over it. i hope that helped some.
2006-07-24 06:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a built in need for all of us to be truly loved and truly accepted by another person. if you don't have it, you will always be searching for it. You have now conquered every other area of life, by yourself! Good for you! Somewhere deep inside, you have one area left to conquer. You won't be truly happy until you have conquered that as well. Good luck!
2006-07-24 06:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by sexychik1977 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, do you think it's unnatural to want someone in your life? I'm a bachelor, 90% of the time I'm a free bird, the other 10% I'm lonely as hell...are you happy living as you do, do you think you're up to another relationship, do you have time for one, it sounds like you're doing really well in life, have you dated anyone?
2006-07-24 06:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by gokart121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wether you believe man was created by god or nature we where created with the need to preserve our species and pass on our gene's. thus in achieve full and complete happiness in our lives we are required to have a counterpart to love and to breed with. we can be happy and content by ourselves, but to achieve true COMPLETE happiness we must have love... that is simply how we are made, it is not something we can change.
2006-07-24 06:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by Radar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
luv is everything, do not hurt, even if sumone does so, givem luv back!!!! luv is life, love is everything, thatnks to the almightly (Alaah) who I believe in, created love, he provides luv and he takes away luv, but remember! luv is everything, it creates all problems to go away, learn to relax and think 'Love' love is extesy (the tablet u eat), i want love too, i love you too! i love everyone, then my question is, why are they conflicts in the world! cos noone passes the message across, the message of love, learning to love! good bye love and always loveing u, god bless you and take away all sorrows! and always thank Alaah (god) who has provided everything a human needs, yet we take for granted!
2006-07-24 06:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋