my gf has decided not to have sex till she gets married again i suport her in her choice i still have to wonder what is it i can get away with
2006-07-24 05:55:48 · 48 answers · asked by ftw44052 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not if you're Bill Clinton!!!!
2006-07-24 05:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on hers, and ur definition of sex. I think any act containing the word sex in it, is considered as sex. Ex-oral sex. But if it doesn't have the words, and doesn't involve ur stick in any of her holes, it isn't sex, just sexual. U might be able to get away with a hand job. Will u be ok with that? But ask her, it all depends on what she's willing to give up. There are some girls out there that don't consider oral sex as sex since u can't get pregnant from it. It all depends on how u two define sex.
2006-07-24 06:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey DAVID N,
It's nice of you to respect her choice. Feel free to discuss whether she feels a BJ or hand job counts as sex with her.
Also, is there anything that you would like to not do until you get married? Like, would you like to stop buying her dinners, or taking her out on dates until you got married? And, if you are living together, even sleeping in the same bed and she doesn't want to have sex with you. This would be a great time for her to go back home for awhile; just until she's married.
You know that you have certain choices to make too. And, I hope that she will respect your choices half as much.
--Rick
2006-07-24 06:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends. If she is doing that for religious purposes, your kinda screwed. If thats the case, ditch the b i t c h. If she is just trying to be a better person or whatever, then you could sqeeze in a hand job, maybe some head. But that will get old, maybe shes doing this so you ask her to marry you...if so, thats a crazy as s chick, i'd leave her in the desert with a pack of chewing gum and a roll of quarters.
2006-07-24 06:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by alienorgy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They count as sexual contact but not as sexual intercourse. Ask her to be more specific and to define what she means by sex. Then you won't have to worry about "what to get away with." You'll know upfront what she is willing to do and what she is unwilling to do. No need to be all furtive about it. Respect means respect: Talking openly, disagreeing in a mature way, understanding others' limits, and so forth.
2006-07-24 05:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it counts as sex.. sex is the penetration of the vagina of the penis... because even if you have oral sex or hand jobs, i still think that you are a virgin if the penis doesnt enter the butt or vagina...
as far as what you can get away with, ask your gf and see how far she will go wtih you.... you should only go as far as she will let you
2006-07-24 06:07:07 · answer #6 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can always get away with a hand job but the oral sex will be difficult unless you are extremely flexible
2006-07-24 05:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Gallivanting Galactic Gadfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes those count as sex. Sorry to burst your bubble but i guess doing urself is the only thing u can do for now
2006-07-24 05:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by deviousbeautifulangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oral sex yes hand jobs well id say yes but i mean ther eis no way of getting pregnant or cathing an std so maybe id say no
kissing is okay and touching and rubbing. dont puch her into anything meany
2006-07-24 05:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oral counts as sex as for hand jobs it leads and if you respect her wishes you wouldn't try to get away with anything unless she gives it to you and still ask her "are you sure"
2006-07-24 05:59:37 · answer #10 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better ask her. I would say those are okay, but that's me. Of course, if I was saving sex for marriage, I might be afraid that once we got started I wouldn't be able to stop myself. Talk to her and see how far you can go or if that's what is wrong.
2006-07-24 05:59:47 · answer #11 · answered by goddess17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋