and he has actually goven me more than what i have ever wanted....so why isnt my heart healed...and why cant i feel the same way i used to when we'd have sex???
2006-07-24 05:50:11 · 15 answers · asked by gigerninfo 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You can take the nail out of the fence, but there will still be a hole in it. How about a break from the bf and find some new friends to hang out with. Date someone else for a while.
2006-07-24 05:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these people are so right!! He is playing a game with you! he is kind now but it will only be a short while before he goes back to the abuse. And then it will get worse. He might have before only called you names, now h'l talk bad about your family and then threaten you, then comes the hitting. Small hits at first ones you don't even think are real abuse but they are. Hell prolly push you, or poke you. Then once he sees you are letting him do that he'll move on to full blown hits, then its all out war. Girl please get out before its too late. Don't listen when he tells you he is sorry and he will NEVER do it again. Thats a lie. If it was so easy for him the first time it will be eaiser the second time around!! The saying is so true you can't change a man! No matter what lines he is feeding you they are lies. he will promise everything and be so damn sweet for a while but it will start back up again and you will regret taking him back and forgiving him. This is a mean game he likes to play and you should not allow him to play it with you!!
2006-07-24 13:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has emotionally abused you in the past he will do it again. Yes he may have given you things but does that really make you feel better?? No. Your heart will heal only when you get away from him and move on.
2006-07-24 12:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't trust that he won't due it again. Trust is everything in a relationship. "doing or buying" the things that he thinks you want, won't change the fact that he "cut you at your core". He chipped away at your self-esteem, and only YOU can get that back. Might I suggest some counseling for you so you can resolve your personal issues. You might discover that he truly is not what you need in a life partner, he's just a provider of material things! Best of luck
2006-07-24 12:58:32 · answer #4 · answered by dulcern4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Healing from pain caused by someone you love takes a long time. If ever. You know Dr. Phil says women never forget. And
I agree. Consider someone new. Past behavior is an example
of whats to come.
2006-07-24 12:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has lost your trust. No matter what he has given you the trust is gone and you probablly will never open your heart all the way again. Remember that once a man has emotionally abused a women he more than likely will do it again he know what hurts you and know how to hurt you.
2006-07-24 12:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by spicy girl 1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another vote for move on. If you're not in love, why stay with him. And if you no longer respect him (and maybve deep-down fear he'll start abusing again) why take the risk of getting pregnant by him? Imagine then him being abusive to your child... and imagine you being stuck with him in your life FOREVER cause of the kid. Move on before it's too late!
2006-07-24 12:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Funchy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very ard question. You will have to look into your heart and see if you can forgive him. You will have to forgive him first before ou can heal. Your subconscience might be telling you that he might be abusive to you again and you are not sure if he is going to change back.
2006-07-24 12:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by afvet3471 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the HOOK. He will buy you ant think you want, because he is an abuser. That is how they keep you in their game. Seek help and read about abuse. Get out now.
2006-07-24 12:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by Robert M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not give enough facts to answer this question. However you already know the answer, act upon your answer before it is too late.
2006-07-24 12:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋