I am totally devastated, how can I keep from crying?

Question

My day has gotten off to a terrible start. A relationship has ended and I am in tears. I knew it had to end sometime and it reallydoesn' surprise me, but to hear it is a different story. I have to go to work soon and I can't stop crying. Monday is a very stressful day at work and we are understaffed so I can't call in and I will have no assistance at work. I will have to deal with a lot of customers. I can't just shut my feelings off and Ihave no friends or family to talk to about this. How can I keep from crying the 8 hours I am at work.? I can't just shut off my feelings.

I did go out on a date with a new guy and I like him as a friend, but there are no sparks there and he just doesn't replace the one i've lost. He is completely different.

I will be working 7 hours and going to a from 1 hour and have no break or lunch at work so there is no time to get away from the stress and rude people at work. Can't leave early either as I work in customer service and work alone. This was my only relationship in the past 10+ years and it lasted a year so it's hard to think that someone else will just come along

Answer 1

I'm sorry, Honey. Work will be the best thing, you'll be so busy you won't have time to brood over what happened. Keep in touch.

Answer 2

I have been there , and it is a devastating situation . You will want to cry , to fight , to breakdown , to quit work and to have all sorts of crazy ideas .
So u miss him . As I missed her . And you feel that your life isn't complete and that you are totally alone .
What can I say you poor thing . As there a way to avoid this . Absloutely no. Are there words to be said ?never .
There is just the knowledge that there is always the future .,the hope and the fact that you made it so far without help from anyone and you sure can go farther without him.
You need to know that you don't need anyone and that you are the master of your destiny .Love someone , be with someone ,but nevr think that you can't be complete with no one .
when you go to work this day .do this
look up , take a deep breath ,give the world a powerful look and say "I am invincible"
and go

Answer 3

Yes, you can shut off your feelings while you do your job. It's part of being mature. Focus on your job and not your personal life.

When you get home, take a bubble bath and eat a pint of ice cream while you cry your eyes out.

I'm sorry that you are upset, but the upside is that you are free to find a really nice guy and start a relationship that you can feel good about.

There are so many men out there. Don't let one that isn't worth it ruin your day.

I'll bet you have a really nice guy by this time next week.

Answer 4

Well...the only thing I can say...is get over it...I know it is hard been there done that...whole losing a love....maybe it was not meant to be..u think? There are fish in the sea....u well get better in time....take it one day at a time...and please dont bring ur problems to work...it well bring the whole work enviroment down...it well feel weird....be professional...i am not perfect...just wanna help someone out that needs some advice....i know u can't shut ur feelins off...when u do get off work...take a nice long bath ....maybe exercise and take it out on a punchin bag or go for a walk...dont do anything stupid...a man is not worth ur life...we all get over situations in life...take care and i wish u the best of luck...i hope i did not offend...u....and if u need someone to talk to just leave a message...i am willin to listen...laters...keep ya head up and smile....

Answer 5

I know this sounds like a cop out answer but once you get to work and get busy you will be able to make it through the 8 hours fine. Lunch time when you have time to stop and think might be hard. I too am in your shoes. I cry all the time. My husband of 7 years is living with his mistress instead of with me. But it will be better if you go to work. And if you have no friends you can talk to me. my best friend lives 600miles away so I have trouble talking to her. Crying is ok Even if you do it at work. Im me if you want my messanger will be up in a sec.

Answer 6

you need to go to God with this because you cannot handle this alone.
This will not be fixed in a day. It will take some time but....you can do it. Go to work and know that u aren't alone and that there are a lot of people out there in your shoes though they may not have walked the same miles as you did.
Don't hold it in but everytime you feel like crying, go into yourself and say that "i can do it, i can go on, and im not alone" say it over and over again and think of a song that makes you happy and humm along in your head. Don't block out the situation but learn to mold into using the right moves.....

Answer 7

Oh hon, you sound like my sister. She is facing a divorce but doesn't want one. My advice is to you is to just dive in and get busy at work. If you run into a low point during the day maybe jump on the internet and read some news, or chat with a fellow co-worker (not about your break-up). Maybe put on a really happy radio station that plays upbeat music. Just keep busy. Good luck. We have all been there :)

Answer 8

Trying to start dating now while you're this upset isn't going to help you. No matter how great the guy might be, you're not going to be receptive to that.

Now, while at work, I know it's tough, but you've got a job to do. I work in a horribly stressful place (ad agency) so I know. It's hard enough not to cry at your desk about job-related stress. It's going to be tough, but pull yourself together and put yourself first for a change. If you start feeling like you're going to lose it, excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and get it together. We all have personal things that upset us once in a while but we've got to remember that we've been hired to do our jobs and we need to be professional at them. I don't know why you don't have any friends or family to speak with on this, but if you can take a 10 minute break to call one of them, that might help. It gets easier I promise! Good luck!

Answer 9

Really sorry to hear that. You are right, saying it makes sense doesn't make you feel better.

Before you go to work, make a list of the things that are good. Put it in front of you so you can look at it through the day. When you interact with each customer, make an extra effort to smile, say thank you, etc., because customer interaction can be healthy to you. Each person you make happy will help you.

Best wishes!

Answer 10

I am sorry about your breakup and know how it is when you can't stop crying..but you have to ...Thats all part of life...So head up shoulders back and go to work face the next 8 hours and believe me you will be feeling better real soon..Who knows this guy you are seeing just might work out for you ..You don't feel anything for him right now because you have feelings yet for the one who broke up with you..Give it a chance

Answer 11

Good acting, if you want to avoid crying pretend your an actress playing you and get out of your body seperate yourself from the situation. You could also try to put on some music like rap that takes away emotion. The worst case you call in sick and enjoy the day trying to get over it by going to a baseballl game or something.