My bf is very possessive about me.. we are deeply in love with each other since th past 6 years an we are marrying next year. he has his reasons to believe that i cant be trusted coz i had some very dark skeletons hidden in the closet which i told him at the nascent stages of our relationship. He was complely shaken ...he wanted 2 leave me but i begged him not 2. tht was my past n it wd nevr cme back. he 2 loved me 2 much 2 live without me. we moved on but he was always scared tht i might 4get him wn we got away fm each other. i went 2 sme other place to study n 1 day i lied to him fr goin to a guy friend's bday party. we had th biggest fight of our lives tht day an since then he was very disturbed mentally.he's the nicest guy i know but now he hs developed a SPLIT PESONALITY. he gets paranoid wen he remembers th numerous mistakes i ve committed .. this is causing problems in our present life coz nowhe has gotten very possessive about me. i want 2 help himself n myself. ..
2006-07-24 05:35:56 · 6 answers · asked by sonz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well 6 years love is not a simple thing to say.you both love each other very much. but the only thing disturbing you is the silly things which you made in the past.you need not feel guilty in this issue bcoz any girl in that situation would do that.now what you have to do is tell him that u won't do anything which makes him insecure in your relationship. And behave at him as he likes and let him know that you wont be leaving him at any moment in life coz you love him so much.try to get close to him in all moments to reduce his mental disturbance gradually.share good things and do something which you feel good and happy for both of you.take him to some special place to share divine love. I think your bf is loving you so much.this disturbance will go away the days go.if you get problem with this then take him to some sychologist but i dont think u would need this.and onething never lie at him and this would create a belief and security in your bfs mind to love you more with full of happiness.you are a lucky girl to say.in our country no guy will love this much and stick to the girl who he loves in this type of situation.I wish you both advance wedding Anniversary.
2006-07-24 05:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you say your getting married to this guy. Are you accepting and recogognizing ALL of who he is. It sould like he can only see part of who you are, and is choosing not to aknowledge that you have developed the part that needed to seek attention and affection from someone else. It's good that your thinking about this before you're married.
Just think your only dateing, maybe living together right now? You are responsible for your life, and after you get married you are still responsible for your life and choices you make in them. Same goes for him. But after you get married it will only get worse be more expensive to walk away and hurt more.
Take responsibility for your own life, let him join when he can handle you.
YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE AND RIGHTS.
KNOW YOUR RIGHTS.
It sounds like youve already made up your mind you just need to follow through with it.
2006-07-24 12:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kari W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand him. if he stayed with you it not because he wants to have a tight grip on you for what you did(oopsie!) but he really must love you!!!!!this will proabably will take sometime for him to gret over but just try to prove to him that you can be trusted! be honest with him at all times and even though the truth hurts its a million times better than a little white lie! good luck;-)!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 12:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sanny♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say try to work it out. I truly doubt that it was a true split personality. Is he able to remember what he does everyday? If not, then I was wrong and I really don't like admitting it.
2006-07-24 12:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tony B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOUR PAST BUT THE PAST IS THE PAST IF YOU WANT TO MEND ALL BRIDGES THEN YOU SHOULD PROVE YOUR LOVE TO HIM BUT YOU ALREADY LOST THE TWO MAJOR THINGS IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS TRUST AND HONESTY MY ADVICE FOR YOU IS TO EARN HIS TRUST AND BE HONEST WITCH MIGHT SEEM HARD BUT TO MAINTAN A STABLE AND LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP THE BEST OF LUCK AND HOPE I COULD HELP BUT THINK POSITIVE !!!!!!
2006-07-24 12:47:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you lied to him how is he going to act, how many times are you going to lie to him, if you are going to tell the truth, maybe try to work it out, if you don't want to tell the truth leave before it get worst
2006-07-24 12:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋