2006-07-24 05:26:15 · 19 answers · asked by tunachunks199 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no. your family should be there for you. maybe not 24/7 if you have a sibling with a family of their own or something but you should be able to pick up the phone and ring your family and be sure you will be received with love, support and comfort. (not the fabric conditioner, the feeling)
2006-07-24 05:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by StaceyMayBrown 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
don't think am harsh or something but it totally depends on the existing relationship between the family before her demise as her absence won't really change much, i lost my papa 10yrs ago at 19 and i began to see another side of "family" as a gap that could never be filled was exposed and then i lost my mum this year and it just opened my eyes more as things just got more exposed. the only people that are willing to contribute effectively are those you have a good relationship with ways before your folks' demise are the only ones that will be there for you as family. they others will only empathise with you. its the way the world is don't ake it personal cos it will only take you down and give you a bitter heart. take care and welcome to the club. stay blessed, and stay strong.
2006-07-24 12:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by JBOY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone take a different amount of time and deals with death in a different way. My best friend died of cancer almost 2years ago now when I was 25 - somedays I am fine and other days I struggle! I know I will never got over it - just the when I am ok will get longer. Without my family I would be in a really bad way so they should always be there for you! Drop me aline if you wanna chat anytime! x
2006-07-25 05:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by PIDGE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear of your loss. It is always hard to lose a parent, no matter how young or old one is. (Lost my father when I was 10, so I know how it is.)
And your family should certainly be there for you, and vice versa. There is nothing "selfish" in this, as that's one of the purposes a family has.
2006-07-24 12:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sean F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not selfish.Ilost my mother17 years ago Iwas the same way but now I realize that people are that way, they go on with their lives I dont think they forget about your grief they just dont take the time,probably they are busy dealing with their own grief. I am sorry for your loss I know how you feel To lose your Mom is a great loss. What I do Is talk to God and remember our good times together
2006-07-24 12:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of course not that's when you need family and friends the most. I lost my mum suddenly when i was 12. it wasn't really talked about coz of my age but god did we need everyones help. I'm 34 now and although I'm over the death i see myself as a big kid at heart and still need my family for help.
2006-07-24 12:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by 90210 aka Hummer Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my mother last week at the age of 86 and I am 58. What is really sad is that she left me, divorced my Dad when I was just three years old.
2006-07-24 12:50:21 · answer #7 · answered by Saudi Geoff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not selfish of you... but your family may think it is... they need to realize that painful experiences affect different people in different ways... it's easier for some people to get over things than it is for other people to get over it.
they may be thinking and/or telling you that you need to let go & get on with your life... but there are always going to be times when we're reminded of the past & when it happens, we need family to be there for us, because those painfully sad memories can hit some of us extremely hard.
2006-07-24 13:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it ain't!!! i lost my dad over 7 years ago and i still pine 4 him and hav a wee reminisce with family about him. loved ones will forever hav a place in ur heart till the day u die.
2006-07-24 12:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by little_hen_uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your family should ALWAYS be there for you! Im sorry for your loss! My father passed in '98 and I still miss him soooooooooo much! Im sending you lots of good energy! Blessings to you! Your heart will heal........it wont mask the loss......but it will get better!
* ignore David M........that was a very mean answer!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 12:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ambervisions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋