my boyfriend is out of town and he wouldnt pick up for anything if it was me so one night i was with my friends and their parents at a restaurant and their dad said he could get him to pick up so i gave him the phone and on the voicemail he put "hey man, u've been gone awhile and **** happens u know weve had a couple of drinks and have been discussing bra sizes and ****..." i grabbed the phone and said sorry that was their dad and i knew it wouldnt have helped anyway bc my bf would have hung up when he heard the 1st few parts. well, good news was he called back at like 2am but said **** you and hung up...i balled my eyes out then i got my friend to talk to him and explain since it was her dad that screwed it up. when i got on the phone, we discussed it and i told him if hed answer i wouldnt have resulted to that. i know it was bad, but was i wrong for the whole thing?
2006-07-24 05:25:57 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a sook. Tell him to grow some chest hair (like me, Oparh) and learn how to take a joke...
2006-07-24 05:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by Opera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yes with a slight no. I understand that you were hurt and confused that he hadnt called you. But, there could be a million reasons as to why. 1) he may want out of the relationship and doesnt know how to say it and decided that was the best way. 2) he was busy 3) he is seeing someone else and she is taking up his time 4) he has a busy job or is preoccupied with something 5) maybe he was feeling smothered and just wanted a little bit of space. 6) wanted to just hang out with his friends. There are just numerous possibilities that this happened. I would have handled it differently tho......If when i called him on the second time and he still did not answer, I would have known that there was a problem. I wouldnt have asked someone to make a call for you I would have taken the time on the third try to leave a message on his answering machine. I would have told him that if he would like to talk to me and let me know of anything I would be there for him, and if there was something that he needed to tell me reguarding our relationship then to also call me and talk to me instead of leaving me to wonder what the problem is. I would also let him know that because you care for him, that you will respect his answers and that you will be awaiting his response. This way he has time to think about what he needs to say to you or how he is going to say it. If you do not hear from him for a full week then I would chalk it up that he was a bit "chicken" to contact you and theat no reply from him would give you your definiate answer.
2006-07-24 05:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it it's not really your fault. So don't worry about it. Your friend's dad probably thought it was really funny without realizing it could be interpreted in a bad way. Either way your boyfriend should've picked up the phone anyways! What's he doing not answering your calls in the first place? Did you have a fight or something or was he just being a prick? I would never put my girlfriend through something like that. Even if I were mad at my girlfriend i'd at least be man enough to talk to her.
2006-07-24 05:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ethan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is how immature of all of you - your boyfriend, you and your friend's dad. Did it ever occur to you that people don't pickup the phone because they don't want to talk, no matter what? If it's an emergency then you and your bf need to have some kind of code. Other than that people are NOT obligated to pickup their phones if they don't want to. Now, the consequences of not picking up may be that they miss out on important information but then that's their problem right?
2006-07-24 05:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people's behavior, so your responsibility for the actual answer is minimal. However, the fact that you discussed the topic enough publicly to have it happen IS your responsibility. Airing a relationship's dirty laundry in public is never a good idea. I'd be more upset with that than with the call. The key question here, though, is WHY he wasn't answering. If he were in a meeting, you're in the wrong for being upset. If he was being a pain, you're clear. If he was being a pain because you called him 85 times, you're in the wrong there...
2006-07-24 05:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by carpetao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be in high school. If he didn't pick up he was either busy or did not want to talk to you. Phones are not tapped into peoples brains. Sometimes, when they ring, people don't hear or feel them. You should have left a message and, if he never returned it, taken the hint. Having someone else call was completely childish. His response was no better.
2006-07-24 05:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends father was quite inappropriate, and that your boyfriends probably feels very confused as to why you would have let him talk like that.
You sound quite young, things happen in relationships, but one thing you need to stop doing is getting friends and friends dads to interfere or to be your messenger. Communication is a key ingredient in relationships, you need to work on that a lot so that the next time something needs to be said, make sure it's YOU that says it.
2006-07-24 05:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Eden* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
appropriate he's rather comfortable! So, use it against him. no longer in a median way, only play jointly along with his game. He should not be dishing it out if he cant take it! whilst he says "get a clean jacket", say "Oh ok thank you trend police.. or, And what, get one on the goodwill such as you probably did?" And whilst he says "you're able to shave" say like, "Whats the undertaking you are able to no longer advance any facial hair little boy" or, "Are you my lady chum". in fact, blow off his comments, and turn them around so they make him look like an fool. ladies like adult adult males who're confident and humorous. once you communicate lower back to dude, say humorous issues, dont over think of what you assert, shop it short, and be confident! practice the chick it doesnt hassle you. Win her over. Make him sense like he's dumb. Smile and laugh...
2016-12-10 13:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Not AT ALL! It wasn't meant to hurt any one and he took the wrong way. And don't blame the dad either,it was to be funny I assume. Are you still boyfriend and girlfriend? Don't put up with men that tell you to **** off. Once they get Way w/ it once it might get worse.
2006-07-24 05:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by kattychat57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kind of. You shouldn't have given the phone to your friend's dad. But your bf should have picked up his phone.
2006-07-24 05:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.You didn't know what her dad was going to say. It was a little imature to have someone else try and solve your relationship problems like that. Why isn't your boyfriend answering your calls?
2006-07-24 05:29:22 · answer #11 · answered by littlebopeep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋