Does the worry ever stop?

Question

My son Nigel not, wanted to borrow a £10 note and when I asked why he said To roll up so he can snort half a gram. It was supposed to be a joke but he's nearly 13 and I'm worried that he might get too familiar with the terminology and think it okay to try drugs.

Answer 1

r u sure it was a joke? sounds like he may have tried something. No the worring never stops if your a good mom.

Answer 2

The terminology is out there, unfortunately, and there is little you can do to shield any child from it, short of putting them in private, religion based schools which are costly, to say the least. In instances like that which you described, one thing is certain, emphasis on discouraging that type of behavior and talking like that SHOULD and MUST be discouraged and shown to be unfavorable. You also need to keep the lines of communication about such topics open so that he understands that such things AND drug use are NOT ok and in fact very dangerous. "Don't do drugs", "Say NO to Drugs" and such mottos are NOT good enough. You MUST do more. With any discouragement you must also give valid reasoning. Don't ever just say "don't" and expect it to be good enough. Kids have to know WHY!!! I have 4 kids, all 12 years old and younger and I have ALWAYS told them that doing things like drugs, alcohol, etc. can and WILL kill you. You can NOT hide harsh facts under set rules and expect that it will be understood or your word will be taken at face value. A parents' word is NOT law if it is not fully understood and backed up by full explanation. Be thorough and be open. That is the best you can do other than watch him and pay attention to him and what goes on in his every day life.
To answer your question, NO, the worry never stops. When he is 80 and youare 100 years old, you will STILL worry. You are a parent and THAT is what parents do, no matter the age of the child. That is what parenting is! Non-stop worry!

Answer 3

Its never ok to try drugs, unfortunately you need to take this seriously, I don't think a 13 year old using terminology like that is funny or a joke, he has picked it up somewhere which means he is either keeping the company of people who use drugs or at school. Why did he want £10?

Answer 4

I did a huge amount of drugs as a kid. My parents never said a word to me. I can't believe I escaped with my life. I'm extra lucky as I ended up with a pretty successful career to boot.

You should be having that conversation with him nearly exactly as you phrased it here. Just be honest with him and say that you don't believe he is doing drugs, but the temptation will be there and hope he chooses not to try.

13 is exactly the age you should be having this conversation.

Then kill two birds with one stone and tell him what a condom is while you're at it and how teenage pregnancy is the fastest ticket to a minimum wage life.

Answer 5

too late! anyone that has children now must expect their children to at least try drugs at some point.It's mainstream now.
When I was 16 in 1983(2 million years ago),I was frightened to death of what a draw of pot would do to me,I did it,and thought it was no big deal. Since then,I've always liked a drink by the way, I've tried just about everything,except Heroin.
Until governments legalize all this crap,then people will always take it/try it to be a little bit 'naughty'.It's not naughty,glamourous or that much fun(cept for E's,whoops)......

That's society now,take it or do something about it.

Answer 6

I feel for you. Ive always been strong anti drugs. kids will be kids, the more you tell them not to do something the more they want to. I've never tried drugs but i know they wreck lives, i think you need to do a bit of homework yourself either on here or a book and look for the tell tale signs to see if he has started to do drugs or not. I really hope not. check his school to see what if any drug awareness lessons have been taught. what are his friends like, keep an eye on him but not to intrusive or he will shut you out even more.
good luck, best wishes

Answer 7

You need to sit down with your son and have a very long and open talk about things and life in general. It might not be too late yet to prevent him from harm (which is your duty as a parent), but if you find out that he has already gone further than you thought, you might need help from professionals and should not hesitate to seek it.

Answer 8

No, the worry doesn't stop. But that doesn't mean you necessarily have something to wrry about.

Speaking as someone who USED to be a 13 year old boy (many, many years ago now!) I can say that, if I thought I had a reason to keep something from my parents, I wouldn't joke about it. To me, it sounds like you have no reason to worry about your son.

(But if you are worried, give him the £10 in change!)

Answer 9

I think it was just a joke. Try to persuade him to do lots of activities such as sports, music, paiting, etc so that he is not bored. Also meet his friends and talk with them, not like " a mother of their friend" but in a friendly way, be natural and easy- going and youll find out what kind of people his friends are. If you dont like them, dont punish your son, neither forbid him to meet his friends, that would make things MUCH MUCH worse! Try to persuade him instead: " you know that drugs are bad, dont you? and do YOU REALLY want to use them? Do you want your friends to force you to do something you dont like and know that its wrong?..." I think that now you dont have to be afraid, he was probably just kidding :-) But if you see some problems in the future, visit a doctor immediately and it will be fine!
Good luck!

Answer 10

No your worry will never stop, as long as your a mum, thats your roll in life.....along with a few others...As long as your lad knows and understands right from wrong, he may try, hopefully not in the near future, but he should be able to distinguish between what is good for him and what is bad. Keep plugging away at him, behind every sucessfull man........is usually his nagging mum. Good luck.

Answer 11

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