Im 18 and me and my 12 year old brother are always fighting although i try so much to be in peace he's always starting a new fight the last time we fought was when he grabed a metal stick and started hitting me like a pshycho i don't wanna hit him back because I know im 100x more stronger than him and i guess i'll kill him if i hit him back my mom also can do anything about it the last time she did he called the police on her and told the police she was abusing of him with a stick, my mom and dad are divorce and my dad doesn't wanna know nothing about it. What can me and my mom do with him.
2006-07-24 05:23:09 · 30 answers · asked by qnzlilmami018 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if a woman does not show this boy that hitting girls is not right then when he gets into a relationship he's going to keep doing it.
here are some of my suggestions....
1. get a sock, put a soap bar in it, wait until he is asleep, wrap him up in his sheets, and beat him. (won't leave any visible bruises!)
2. buy a baseball bat!, stand over him while he is asleep, lightly waken him, and just stand there looken all physco! if he moves, don't hit him, just push the tip of it into his chest and lay down some rules!
3. carry around at all times while your in the house a iron skillet, every time he looks at you, point it at him and do an evil laugh.
4. drop his sorry lil @rse off at his dads house.
more like, really drop him off, don't even stop the car and open up the door and shove his @rse out!..keep driving on.......
2006-07-24 06:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult situation you are in here.....
If you hit him back, you will be perpetuating the cycle that he started, reaffirming to him that violence is the answer. Well, it isn't, and obviously you know that, even if the reason you say you won't hit him, is because you are stronger, and will kill him. Yet, you can't stand by, and let him continue this behavior, again telling him that it is OK for him to hit people.
What needs to be done here, is for you, as well as your Mom, to sit down with him, and explain to him, that his actions have reactions, and if he chooses to hit you, or your Mom, there will be serious consequences. Once that has been said, you need to follow through with the disciplinary actions you said you would levy on him. You can restrict him from using the TV, or access to the telephone, by grounding him, or whatever he is really into, because some stuff may not bother him that much. If he doesn't care about the phone, don' restrict him from it. Make it something he will truly miss, and he will think twice about losing the privilege of using it. Explain things to him that way. That it is a privilege to ge to do most things. It is obvious that he feels like he has the right to do these things. When he realizes these things can (and will) be taken from him, it will start to hit home.
It won't stop there, though. Just as we scold negative behavior, you need to reinforce positive ones, as well. As he does better, and better, let him know that, and be genuine. He will change his tune, but be patient, good things require a lot of patience. The reward is much greater at the end of the line.
Good luck,
Stevo.
2006-07-24 12:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in not hitting him back...doesn't do anyone any good and you'll feel bad after. You need to get him help. The sooner the better. I know how strong 12 year old boys are. I've seen it happen with my sitter and her brother. it was the same situation you are in with her mom being divorced and the father sitting on the side lines. The mom was at a loss to what to do with him. He ended up with medication and counseling. You haven't said how long this has been going on. It is really hard to give a straight answer on this, but think that you love him and you want him to be a better person. Get in touch with victim services to get some directions. Do you have friends whose parents you can talk with, confide in? Call a hotline....don't tell him what your doing yet may upset him.
2006-07-24 12:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by family4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother that if he doesn't stop hitting you, you will call the police and report him. There is a risk here though.
First of all you have to have the determination to do it.
If you don't he will see you as being weak. If you do follow through, many things can happen. You all might be able to get counceling to help with this problem.
You will be able to break the cycle of abuse that your brother is participating in.
You will not learn to accept being a victim of abuse
Finally, I suspect that this abusive behavior and manipulation by your brother is something he learned from his father. His father, of course, is the rightful receipient of your brother's anger but his father isn't available.... you are...
Good luck. Take care of yourself.
2006-07-24 12:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be intimidated by him at all. Give him the attention you would give him if he were nice to you, but only when he's being nice to you. When he starts to be a jerk either walk away or stop paying attention to him. If he starts to hit you walk or run away to somewhere where you can lock the door behind you. It'll take a while but hopefully he'll get the picture. If he's nice he'll get good attention, if he's bad he wont get any. Bullies are usually asking for attention. To them it doesnt matter what kind of attention it is, good or bad, as long as they get the attention they've won.
Hope this helps,
Craig
2006-07-24 12:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by archer6k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, sotp worying about hitting him back. punch that little devil in the mouth and then beat his hide. also disconnect ALL the phones in the house and MAKE SURE he cant leave. make sure that he knows you can call the police on HIM fot hitting you and he can (even at 12) spend the rest of his life in jail.
you could also call 1-800-448-3000 this is the number for girls and boys town usa. they can help you better than any one else can.
2006-07-24 13:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his lil but,if that doesnt work call the police on him. But whatever it takes you had better get a hold on him now. It really sounds like right now he needs to be living with his dad.
2006-07-24 12:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bullying both of you and it will only get worse. Get him counseling, start asking in his school about finding him help, is he a problem there?
In the meanwhile smacking him back won't kill him and don't worry, him calling the police doesn't mean they will believe him.
2006-07-24 12:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to advise your mother that, as an adult, she is also responsible for the actions of her 12 year old.
You do not want to be vicious, but you will defend yourself against an attack by him.
As the parent, she needs to lay down rules of behavior for the 12 year old as well.
2006-07-24 12:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop him. Prove to him you're stronger and that he should stop messing with you. Sit on him, smack him, something but remember to control your strenght so that he's only shocked and not severely injured.
Tie him down. Call a counselor. Ask for professional help. Maybe he's sick.
2006-07-24 12:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋