WHY do u think is hard to find TRUE LOVE?are we women too demanding or r men afraid of commitment?

Answer 1

That would depend on how you see LOVE and what's your concept of it. For me, love is develop in the process, it is nurtured and develop by the experiences that you both encounter in life, despite all the tidal waves and if you are able to conquer all the obstacles, then that's one otta love to keep. Ü

Answer 2

First of all, it isn't as tough to find, as is it tough to know the difference between a deep and true love which develops over time, and the more commonly misperceived version of love which is really sexual chemistry and infatuation.

When someone says "love at first sight" by definition it is the superficial chemistry and infatuation. Love is more like a friendship that has caught fire. Complicating matters is the fact that love is NOT enough to make a relationship good or lasting. A couple must have common goals, a common lifestyle, and the ability to resolve differences in a constructive fashion.

These days hollywood has distorted "love" into an image that is impossible for anyone to sustain, and we see all sorts of games people play to attract and win partners work, so honesty is no longer the best way to find a compatible mate.

Then we are often so afraid of being alone that we try to make the person we are with "fit" our needs, when they either are compatible or not.

And lastly so few understand that ALL relationships take work and compromise, and that "slacking off" is going to doom most to divorce.

Men aren't afraid to commit to women they either perceive as looking to pull their own weight in the relationship (in other words, not high maintenance prima donas), or to women that are so "hot" that they are blinded by who she really is.

So...you need to be either so hot you can get away with being demanding and bitchy, or you need to be strong, independent and interesting and expect to stay that way.

You also have to be willing to kick to the curb quickly men that don't step up and behave like interested and responsible partners.

Men and women do what they do because they can get away with it, but the ones that win good relationships, don't play those games.

Answer 3

True love is very rare, first off you need to know that. Not everyone finds true love, not even most. OK? Even those marriages you see that seem to last a long time arn't necessarily "true love". You should read some scientific research on the types of love that there are.
You may very well find "true" love, but your standards seem very high. I think a good dose of being realistic would go a long way with you. There are plenty of men out there who really don't want to be alone in this world either and are looking for a match, so don't give up. Just relax, give each guy a chance and remember, NO ONE is perfect-- YOu aren't and neither will he be. The key to a good relationship that is respect and a give and take cooperation. If he is not bad to you, you are attracted to him and he to you, take it day by day and just go with the flow. Don't judge him as the knight in shining armor each time you meet someone. Take it one day at a time and be realistic about life.

Answer 4

It has nothing to do with either of these things. It's actually because the number of compatible mates for each person is very, very small. It takes a long time to find yours. And it's likely that along the way, you will stumble across a few wrong ones. This is good because the wrong ones help you appreciate it more when you do finally find true love.

And by the way, it's been my observation that lately, women are just as afraid of commitment as men are. Maybe for good reason. Who wants to commit to a bad relationship? You have to make sure you know what you're doing before you commit.

Answer 5

its a lot of things. True love should not be easy to find. Or do you think it should be? Women are shallow just like guys. We have standards. Your soulmate is a 300 pound colombian man in queens. But would you let him in your front door? No way. So people have effectively narrowed thier selection down to those who meet thier criteria for acceptability in dating. Then the dating process weeds out 99% of others. Till after many trial and error you find them. That one is perfect though. Men are typically wary of committing to something they arent fully behind that carries with it trouble. If a guy doesnt like that your big toe is smaller than your next toe, you could have problems. Because guys want the perfect chick and chicks want the perfect guy. But perfection is relative and that is why its so hard to find them. Your options are to give up, or persevere. Persevere with an optimistic attitude and objective attitude about men and you will be happier with the outcome.

Answer 6

I don't know if there is such a thing as True Love,I say that because when you meet some one and have a relationship or get married it always requires compromise & understanding on both sides. Most fo the time when we meet some one we ask about what we like to do or enjoy doing but those things change according to age, place, mood, etc.
the basic thing we need is to know other person's language or Love, please check out link below to see what is your languange of love.. this just tell you or the person answering the 20 questions what makes you feel loved.
http://www.selectsmart.com/FREE/select.php?client=lovelanguages

Answer 7

I sincerely hope that true love is out there. Or otherwise it would'nt make sense existing.

I am still searching for love, I have had several relationships but I have also come to the conclusion that men are afraid of committment.

I would have easily settled down with any of these men,, but they are always looking for the next best thing.

Well,,, I guess the universe created them that way.

In the meantime, continue to be receptive, love yourself and never discount what you are seeking from a relationship.

Best of luck,,, for both of us.

Answer 8

Its not hard to find true love you just gotta go find it
some women can be demanding and some en are afraid

Answer 9

Thats an easy one. Look at how much time we spend studying for a career, or learning how to fix things around the house. And then check the number of books you've read on relationships and love and what makes them work.

The biggest problems that people have with relationships or sex is that they simply either don't know what they are looking for, and stumble from one to another randomly.

Or know what they are looking for, and simply want the other person to guess right.

Communication is key to all of this. Communicating with yourself and being honest about what it is that you are looking for., then communicating effectively with your partner so they know what they are looking for.

Case in point, had a girl online the other day that was trying to declare her undying love for Me. I pointed out that she neither wanted or needed the same things as I did. and that I was actually the polar opposite of what she was looking for. She was looking for a rather vanilla monogomous single guy. And I'm a rather kinky, polygomous, married man.

If you know what you are searching for in the first place, you are likely to find it. If you don't know what you are looking for, you'll find a lot of things you neither want or need.

Answer 10

Think it a combo of both-men are afraid and some women are too demanding.