i wanna break up with my current bf. but i dont wannna break his heart. he would never break up with me but i cant handle have a bf who i dont have his #, email, and i haven't seen him in a month! wat should i say that wouldn't break his heart? i'm his 1st gf, and that make it harder! he might like never date again if i break up with him. Please Help BOTH-girls and guys PLEASE!!!!
2006-07-24 05:17:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he lives 1hour and 1/2 away.
i asked him out and it took him 4 days to answer because he waz making sure i wouldn't break up with him. he said yes then i had to leave and i couldn't get his # or anything like that!
2006-07-24 05:31:25 · update #1
Marry him then since you can never leave him.
lol
*slaps you with common sense*
Stop being dumb. He'll get over it...that's life. Stringing him along just makes it worse for both of you.
2006-07-24 05:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 30⤊ 9⤋
Okay, you are his first girlfriend, this is not the end of the road for him nor is it for you either.
If you don't have his contact information, did you try asking for it? If he said that he doesn't want to give it to you, then I would probably think that he is not interested in a commitment, at least for right now.
Ask yourself, if you were not his girlfriend and someone else was, would you then look at this situation and assume that just becasue his heart is broken for the FIRST time he'l never date again? It is crazy to think that his would be the case.
Now, tell him that you do like him, or love him if you do really love him, and let him know that you would love to continue with a friendship, when the time is right, but right now you feel that this relationship is not for you. Don't answer questions why you feel this way, he try to ask you these things, it is of no consequence. The fact that you can't be in a relationship with someone who has issues with self disclosure, is what needs to be focused on. He may even try to disclose anything you want to know, but, you need to ask yourself, why does it have to come to this point? Would he disclose this information if you never came to him and wanted to break up, the answer is NO!
Sounds as though you are young, as is he, try to understand that it is common to feel this way and there are so many other people that you will meet and make connections with in your life.
2006-07-24 12:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy figuring out how to break up with someone
It's best to meet up somewhere (ask him to lunch or dinner) and break the news to him. Also tell him why you are breaking up with him. No need to beating around the bush. Yes, you will feel somewhat bad yourself, but you will have done it and you will feel better in the long run.
Never, EVER break up with someone over the phone....that's a cheap cop-out.
2006-07-24 12:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by brotherb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with him may hurt him but the pain won't last forever. If you stay with him, you will only be hurting yourself. You have to toughen up and just hand it to him straight. say,"Look, I care about you but this is not working for me. I'm sorry if I hurt you but I'd be hurting you more if I stayed with you out of pity. We can always be friends and i'll always be here for you if you need me." This is a nice way of letting someone down.
2006-07-24 12:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by Silly KeKe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you break up with him? You don't even have his info! I would just forget about this dude and move on. If he does contact you then just blow him off! You don't need that crap from some guy who doesn't have a clue. There's plenty of fish in the sea!
2006-07-24 12:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lady C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can stop assuming that if you break up with him that he will never date again cause that's some bs...
Just tell him you don't want to see him anymore...
2006-07-24 12:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by velvet b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what u just said "i cant handle have a bf who i dont have his #, email, and i haven't seen him in a month!"
2006-07-24 12:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by abbiangel33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is stop by his house and ask him why he's doing this to you.Then if you suspect him of cheating on you then you tell him that your relationship is off.If he tells you that he's sorry.Keep telling him "NO!"
2006-07-24 12:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Lil'A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the way you feel and them listen to what he has to say about it.
2006-07-24 12:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by ftwtnb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you havent heard froom him then just break up with him. please he will get over it dont worry there will be others for him
2006-07-24 12:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by angelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he's your bf???? no phone...no email......havent seen him for a month.......
2006-07-24 12:22:28 · answer #11 · answered by StumpedScholar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋