I've fallen for a guy for a whole year.I liked him alot n i thought he loves me 2.We had our farewell dinner last 2 weeks.I received a msg saying that its from him n it says that he loves me.It turns out it was not from him.It hurts.I've been suffering 4 quite sometime guessing whether he loves me or not,til i got tired.My exams r due 2 next month n i haven't finished revision.So, i've decided to end my 1-year ordeal,i wanna focus on my studies.I feel guity coz my parents hv high hopes on me.I've wrote him a letter telling how i feel.The result was,he read it openly in his class n ppl got 2 know.He said that he had no feelings 4 me.He doesn't know how 2 reply.He chose not 2.The thing is that before writng this letter,i'm 100% sure he likes me coz of things he does,like treating me different from other girls n stuff.I even overheard a conversation of him n his friend saying that he loves me.I dunno how 2 face him n my friends.I'm confused n hurt. Pls help me out here...I need help......
2006-07-24 04:59:42 · 5 answers · asked by lost 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to hear this but I would tell you to ignore this for the time being and focus on your exams even though I know it's so hard to do so.but try to cause in this case you have 2 choices either your future or your BF. so be clever and choose your future cause boys can come and go.As for this guy I think he doesn't deserve you,or the fact that you're thinking of him cause as you said he read your letter in front of everybody and he made it clear that he doesn't have feeling for you.forget about him and don't be ashamed from what he's done face your friends and act normally as nothing happened and make it clear that you thought he was different from the others but you were mistaken.and pls focus on your studies there are stuff that are more important than guys.good luck
2006-07-24 05:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by celine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sooo sorry to hear about your ordeal. You sound very hurt and wrapped up in this guy. If your parents have high hopes for you it is probably because you are capable of alot. You are also capable of getting through this and getting over this. The knowing whether or not someone likes or loves you isnt complicated and should never be a mystery. If he hasn't said it to you and you two are not together heal up so you can go forward. You sound like an intelligent caring person you can do better.
2006-07-24 12:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by ms_sweet_real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same boat, except I liked my guy for a year and a half, and I had to watch him go out with one of my good friends (it was a bad relationship and everyone knew it). And I found out later that he had chosen between dating my good friend or me, that he had liked both of us, but had chosen the girl he thought would be a temporary relationship because he didn't feel ready for commitment. I ended up finding an amazing man who was definitely ready for commitment, and we're now married. I'm still very good friends with the guy I had a crush on, it's just that now I see that I wasted my time and my feelings on him, because he wasn't right for me, and he wasn't ready for me.
Even if he does actually like you, he sounds really immature (reading aloud a love letter in class is cruel), so maybe he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone, especially you.
I'd focus on studying right now, if I were you. It sounds like it's getting down to crunch time, and you don't want to disappoint your parents or yourself over a guy who you'll probably forget and move on after a few years.
Your friends should understand about having feelings for someone and being rejected. They should be on your side! Call them up and talk to them about this. They should be supporting you, not making fun of you, so if they do keep making fun of you, then you need to find someone who will support you through this. You shouldn't have to worry about facing your friends.
You're not alone. It really sucks, this happening to you. I can't imagine how much you're hurting, and I'm so sorry. But I think just about everyone gets hurt somehow when it comes to love, and usually they survive, so have hope! Things will get better! I'll be praying for you!
2006-07-24 12:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to get your priorities straight girl! Get your studies done.. he aint going nowhere.. btw.. guys usually dont take a year to express their feelings. You can always go back to him after exams.. maybe if you stop showing so much interest he might show his true colors and stop playing around?
2006-07-24 12:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Arvind C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i know is that you need to move on ....It's his loss and sooner or later he'll recognize what a jerk he is.... stay around friends alot...they'll help you...you deserve better and that's what i keep telling my friends...don't sit around and sob for a jerk like him!
2006-07-24 12:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jenifer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋