What is wrong with me?

Question

okay... heres my problem... most guys see me as hot cheerleader who dumps guys within days. but they dont know me. they never give me enough time to show who i really am and they always are in it for " what every guy wants". but to tell you the truth. i want a realationship that will last and a guy that is sweet and listens to me and i haven't found him yet. guys..... please give me answers of why yall are like that?

Answer 1

you that one guy who always passes you in the hall?

the one who you might have talked to every now and then and he actually listened?

you know the one who is not the most attractive guy in the world but is decent to look at?

the guy that might ask you how you are doing especially if you aren't doind that great?

he's the one.

Answer 2

You are a hot cheerleader, right? Well, the guys you are going out with are probably hot too. Hot guys would rather take a semi-hot girl who will put out, than a really hot girl he has to dote on for three months listening to every story and kissing *** until she puts out.

Thats just a fact of life. So you will see hot guys with less hot girls, because they are getting sex from it. If you really want a sweet guy who will listen, date a guy who is not as hot as you. He will PRETEND to listen and PRETEND to be sweet...until he gets down your pants. But a not so hot guy will have the patience to wait longer, because lets face it..where the hell is he going to go?

The bottom line is sweetie..maybe you are expecting a lot from someone else. A mean, you are a cheerleader, you're hot, you are probably in h.s....what you have to say can't be all that great to listen to. So why should a guy sit there and listen to your boring crap? Answer: sex. If you want a guy to "want you for you" and not sex, then quit the cheer team, join the chess club, start making "intellectual" relationships and see if you can use your personality and intellegence to get a man.

Until then, you should just withold sex until a guy really wants to make a commitment to you. And if he treats you nice, and doesnt beat you, then you should screw him like a pig in heat.

Answer 3

It's based on the level of MATURITY on the guy[s] in question. You also have to remember that the hormones are raging between the ages of 15 - 25 and there isn't too much we can do about that.
If you explain to the guy[s] at the very beginning that something meaningful and long lasting is what you're looking for, you should be able to "weed" out all the losers.

The most important things is not to rush it or expect it to happen over night. The relationships that are long lasting and meaningful usually take the most time to develop. You might have to kiss a lot "toads" before you find your "prince". Take your time.

Answer 4

I think there is a predisposed attitude about cheerleaders in general. They are the ones that guys want to date. Because men are so immature at the high school age, they really do not look for the"meaningful relationship" dates. Also, just to be sure, take a hard look at yourself to make sure you are not behaving as the typical cheerleader stereotype. Be honest with yourself. Cheerleaders also, could have the 'playa' attitude, especially while peer pressure is present. Above all, be persistent on your beliefs and do not compromise yourself. It WILL pay off.

Answer 5

It isn't all guys that are like that. Odds are that part of the problem is that you are looking at the wrong guys. Unfortunately a lot of cheerleaders fall into the trap of feeling like they have to date only guys within a certain social group due to peer pressure. This social group tend to be made up of the popular people and has a certain reputation that many in that group like to maintain. That is they only hang around with their own group and that it is a kind of free for all dating and fun wise. If your really looking for a lasting relationship you are going to have to find the strength to look beyond this group.

Answer 6

Sorry kid but the truth is that you are in high school and teenage boys are usually after one thing. They can't help chasing it because guys reach their sexual peak at about age 18. It doesn't make it right- it makes it understandable. As long as they understand that no means no. And at the risk of sounding cliche'- you have lots of time for a relationship and there really isn't any rush. You only get to be a kid for 18 years and most people live well past retirement. We are talking over 50 years of time for a real grown up relationship. Take your time and be picky. Most of all remember to have fun because you are a grown up for a long time.

Answer 7

Try being friends with a guy first. It sounds to me if you are "dumping them within days" you're not getting to know them either. A lot of boys (not men) will act differently (even dog-like) when they are around their other friends or at school to appear "macho" or that they don't care. Maybe, too, you should try seeing yourself as more than a "hot cheerleader" and their expectations of you wouldn't be so low.

Answer 8

It's all part of growing up. Young men see a cheerleader rather than a person and get swamped by imagination and fantasy. Also, young men are much immature than women of a similar age. It will probably get better as you get a bit older, but don't expect miracles as Nature designed men and women differently - it's an eternal problem and won't be solved any time soon.

Answer 9

if you are a cheerleader than you in the light a lot so when people are watching you especially guys then show then you caring and you do just want a nice guy..try hanging out with someone outside the cheerleader social group other people will get to know you and then guys will see the real you as well as your friends

Answer 10

Most guys see me as the hot cheerlearder who dumps guys in days to. What I do is when I'm talking to guys, I just tell guys that I'm ready for a steady realationship that won't last for just a few days. Try that and see if it helps. If it doesn't e-mail me [e-mail] :)

peace n love,

Nikki

Answer 11

We all want many things. We want to be good people. We want to make a ton of money. We want a someone. There is nothing in wanting to improve things; you just have to work for it. You have to work for a relationship. Sometimes, timing has a great deal to with it, some guys don't want a relationship, and you have to accept that and move on. Find men that are willing to work towards a healthy relationship.