Both of us have it bad, I'm referring to my friend who wants me to ask a question for her. But first I can report since my question was answered I have been doing much better. Here is her problem: She has been seeing this guy for about 7 months, they have an agreement, where they are only sleeping with each other, but of course, after a couple of months of this she has developed feelings for him. Now here is the question, he has told her that he likes her but does not want to be in a relationship when this first began. Should she tell him that she has feelings for him now and risk scaring him off or should she just be upfront and ask where is this "relationship" going?
2006-07-24 03:53:31 · 7 answers · asked by Ms. problem 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, there is absolutely no "relationship? - they just have sex. Second, why tell him about some feelings she has when he's already made it clear that he doesn't care by stating from the start that he doesn't want a relationship? If he could say that, I'm sure if he had changed his mind, he would say that, too. It's not a complicated thing: keep doing him and getting in deeper so you're feelings can REALLY be crushed later or stop it now! As long as she keeps him, it will prevent her from getting someone else.
2006-07-24 04:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by SAN P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be up front. A relationship like this is unlikely to last for a longtime without feelings being developed. It may have been better to set a time limit for the relationship, but if she doesn't want it to hurt more, she should talk to him about it, and probably risk ending the relationship. If she is good looking she won't have trouble finding another relationship like this.
2006-07-24 03:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hugo Reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go ahead and tell him her feelings. If it scares him away, then so be it. What is there to lose? I mean, he's not her boyfriend or husband. This sort of "relationship" should never have begun anyway. Besides, it has carried on for far too long. Merely being "bed buddies" will never work and has no morals. How can a person have sex with just one person for 7 months and not love him/her. Your friend needs to stop having casual sex with this partner. . .unless a real relationship starts. . .and re-examine what it means for a girl to give herself up to another person. Sex should wait until you are truly in love. There are other ways to handle urges.
2006-07-24 04:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definitely be upfront about it. if she wants a better relationship she should do something about it. tell him that you have feelings for him and if he doesnt want that kind of relationship just go out find yourself a new man.
2006-07-24 04:02:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jmkisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be up front and asked where the relationship is going before it's goes to far it's better to know up front so she can make her mind up and bow out graciously.
2006-07-24 04:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by busthead213 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definitely talk about it. She may or may not end up hurt but she won't end up with any regrets later. She'd hate to find out years from now that he just wanted his cake and got to eat it too (at her expense!)!
2006-07-24 03:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should definately be up front about it
2006-07-24 04:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by half -pint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋