There is a very fine line I think. I personally will opt for being modest, but sadly that's interpreted sometimes as lack of confidence. So how does one speak with confidence but doesn't appear to be bragging? And how do we recognize that a person is just bragging?
Any thoughts?
2006-07-24 03:29:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
People who brag generally become oblivious to the things that others around them say.
If you are confident, you can tell your own story, and stop at any time, to hear and LISTEN to what other people are saying on the subject.
2006-07-24 03:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Jordi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's a fine line indeed. I go at it from the perspective that a bragging person will focus on themselves. Say you're talking about trying hang-gliding. A bragger will try hard to push in an anecdote about when THEY went hang-gliding or why THEY would never do that (blah blah blah more anecdotes about bad personal experiences).
A confident person will listen to the bragging person without the need to interject their own stories.
A confident person will often be the person to start a conversation... and not necessarily have the last word in that conversation.
2006-07-24 03:35:42 · answer #2 · answered by Wiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking of skills is not bragging. When talking speak as though the others have the same skills, then it doesn't sound like you are bragging. Basically we must take others at face value, in the end we will know if their mouth is bigger than their abilities by their actions and the results of their work. I am giving you this advice assuming you are in the United States, other cultures may differ.
2006-07-24 03:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Braggerts are usually pretty easy to recognize. They are the people that no matter what you have done. They have done it more, and have done it better. It is okay to speak openly about your accomplishments so long as you are not using them to denigrate another person in the process. You should always be proud of what you accomplish in life, it is healthy and necessary for positive self esteem. If someone thinks you are bragging, and you don't believe you are then it becomes their problem. While you don't want to alienate people intentionally, don't hide your light under a bush either.
Besides, I am not conceited, just convinced :)
Have a wonderful day.
2006-07-24 03:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When speaking to someone face-to-face you can tell they are bragging by the way they speak about the topic. They say it loudly for others to hear. They may even use hand gestures to draw more attention to themselves.
Someone who is confident will look you in the eye and say something, but it in a more controlled tone. They simply say it - without having to go on and on about it.
2006-07-24 03:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean about modesty being mistaken for lack of confidence. A person who is confident will usually give you proof of such, or info about their accomplishments in a succint, factual manner. A person who is bragging tends to overemphasize their role in all of their accomplishments, and may even embellish small achievements. This has been my experience.
2006-07-24 04:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that people who are confident wouldn't brag.
People who brag get their 'confidence' from other people.
2006-07-24 03:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by wildbill05733 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...i personally dislike all persons that are too confident,because i see them *** show-offs.I prefer more modest people.
As for the answer,you don't :)
Because the line is so thin,it basically fades away after a while.
2006-07-24 03:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can they back it up? Can they walk the walk? or do they just talk the talk?
TFTP
2006-07-24 03:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋