How long should a couple be together before having children? How old should they each be? looking for opinions

Question

I'm assuming financial stability, and a monogamous relationship... when is the ideal time?

Answer 1

I don't think age matters that much, because everyone is different and "ready" to have children at different times. I think a couple should wait about two years before having children, but I also think discussing the possibility of children is important in those two years. Gives you time to talk about how each of you feels about how a child should be raised. My hubby and I were married for two years before we started trying, and our daughter was born five months before our 5th anniversary. I'm 25 and he's 30. But, my parents were 24 and 21 when they had me. Age is relative. I have a couple family members (not sure how we're related though) who were about 65 and they had twins. The twins are probably about 4 now. Knowing your spouse is more important. Take as much time as YOU need to get to know them before throwing a child into the mix.

Answer 2

There is no "ideal time" that fits all people...it's up to the couple...when they feel ready and desire to start a family, then that is the ideal time for them...some couples like a few years of time to just be a couple, others would rather get the family going right away.

Do what's best for you and your partner...think about how it will change your lives, and for how long. What will you be giving up? What will you be gaining? When you're ready to take that step...go for it...

Good luck!

Answer 3

are ya married? if so, enjoy each other for a while... because after children, you're never alone together again! even if you do sneak a weekend without them, you're always thinking, should i call mom and check on the kids? if you wait till you have "enough money" to have kids, you'll never have them. if you wait till you're "old enough" to have kids, you'll be too old to reproduce! there is never an "ideal time"... something is always going to be happening, coming up, being interrupted. life happens while you're making other plans. as far as if you're ready?
well, i usually suggest adopting a dog from the pound. one that you will have to train and be with constantly for a while. if it interrupts your life to the point that you're ready to just take it back to the pound, then no, you're not ready for kids--they don't come with a receipt... if you can handle a dog with seemingly no problems... then yeah, you should be able to handle having children. not that i'm comparing my children to dogs, but the workload is similar... only the dogs are easier to clean up after!

Answer 4

there is no real answer it depends on the people. I think you should be together for at least 4 years and if you can, be married. And you should be able to support the child. I say in your mid-20's to early 30's is a good time to have kids. And in my opinion if your over 40 and you need fertility drugs you should have them, just adopt.

Answer 5

After two years then the "honeymoon phase" is over and you settle into knowing each other.Age 26 and up. Share in the responsibility for the child. Acknowledge each other daily. Each of you remember to take time for yourselves away from the child(do something that relaxes,give pleasure etc.. ,it is important for all parties concerned. Congratulations and Peace.

Answer 6

I believe everybody should be married before children come into the lives of others. Usually these young girls have children, and half dont know who the father is, or the father dont want to be DADDY MATERIAL.Wait until your married a few years then go from there.

Answer 7

I believe that if you really have to ask when its right it's not the right time..People assume too much when having children..My first child was stillborn..No one expects their first child to be stillborn. If your 19 and work at mcdonalds that is not financially stable..no one is eer ready to have a child..you also have to be mentally physically and emotionally ready to care for a child as they drain alot out of you and you have to be able to deal with that..

Answer 8

I think that's there's never an ideal time but there's a best time. For us, we'd been married three years and I was 31 and he was 35.

Answer 9

LOL, yeah, My husband and I had only been together for 3 weeks when I got knocked up, I was 18 and he was 20.....OOPS!!! however, we have been through MANY hard and trying times but we now have 2 beautiful children and we are doing well.........I wouldnt change our lives for anything!!! Good luck, dont rush it......

Answer 10

it truly is revolting, fairly revolting. How might want to someone seem at someone they knew changed into their DAD/DAUGHTER, and imagine "mmm I fancy you!" Yuck. surely disgusting. No ask your self they're very poor and want some outfits offered for them, because they of route have surely no longer some thing occurring interior the brains branch to attend to to get a job. Disgusting!