ls it her religion keeping her from being my friend and associating with me like we use to or her?

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My best friend or at least we concider ourselfs to be best friends... was married in April well she married a guy that she had only know for about 6 or 8 months seriously. She in my mind did not love him, but did it because they have the same religion. They are Johovah's Witnesses. I have nothing against this at all! We really did not talk as much because her job made her travel all the time so when we did talk we talked for hours and hours. Well she got married and I was not allowed to be in her wedding. I am assuming because of her religion, but I was never told point blank that it was the religion. She did not include me in anything in her wedding not even tieing a bow on her favors.
Now I am getting married in 2 weeks. She is not in my wedding but at the same time someone told me she would not be able to be in my wedding because it is going to be held in a church. She is not in it, but I did give her a choice to be in it.

Answer 1

that is really very sad and yes it seems to be religion doesn't it
but listen sweetheart your gonna be having the best day of your life in a few weeks , concentrate on that and know that your offer was there for your friend and it was ultimately up to her to attend or not so the ball is in her court
perhaps sadly you may have lost your friend for now but maybe one day she may come back , be a good friend and try and understand that she may just be doing all she can to go on with her new life , wish her well and send her love
and congratulations !!

Answer 2

Based on the information you provide, my opinion is that it is a combination of "getting married" and the religious differences.

When people get married, they often pull away from friends and family members. A married person's focus is somewhat different than the focuses of single people. The often conflict. A married person must focus on their "new life" as a spouse. If they do not do this, their marriage suffers.

The religion part shouldn't have as much of an effect on your friendship.

The truth is most people don't have the same group of friends when they reach their 30's as they had when they were children and teens. It is ok for both of you to move on. Remember the good times. Retain the fondness, but accept that sometimes people grow apart. There may come a time when she needs a friend... be there for her and don't hold a grudge over the weddings. The weddings are only an event. Friendship, even if the relationship grows distant, is forever.

Answer 3

Jehovah Witnesses is a cult religion. this is typical of what happens when people get involved with organizations like the Witnesses---the leaders of the cult insist that its members become isolated from the rest of society in order to preserve the sanctity of the cult and its members. It is unfortunate that you have lost a good friend, but I beg you not to be tempted to join the Witnesses to get your friend back. Let go of the relationship and pray for her. Jesus loves her and wants her in his fold.

Answer 4

The JWs do restrict much contact involving those outside of their religion, unless they're 'witnessing' to them, especially those who go to churches that are not of the JW persuasion.

However, you may want to find out if you've inadvertently offended her. I don't know your friend- does she usually clam up when she gets upset? I would ask her a few questions and get the poop straight from the horses mouth.

At least you'll know for sure what's up.

Answer 5

Perhaps the 2 of you are or have grown apart. This happens and it hurts. Call her, ask her. Don't assume anything. She may have sensed that you did not approve of her marrying so quickly. I sensed it from reading your post. There could be reasons that are hidden from everyone.

Blessings )O(

Answer 6

Probably it does have to do with her religion.

J.W's are a cult.


Religious Cults: The Popular View
What exactly are religious cults? With such a large number of religious organizations and movements in the world today, it's important to understand what we mean when we start labeling certain groups. The dictionary defines cult as "a system of religious worship or ritual"; "devoted attachment to, or extravagant admiration for, a person, principle, etc." According to this definition, any believer in any god is a member of a cult. In the popular media, a cult is typically defined as a religious sect whose members are "controlled" by a manipulative organization or individual. This kind of cult is usually portrayed as deceptive, requiring absolute loyalty from its followers. Members are often removed from their prior lives altogether, including their jobs, homes and families. The Hare Krishnas, Sun Myung Moon's Unification Church, and Moses David Berg's Family of Love are some popular examples of this type of cult.

Religious Cults: The Christian Perspective
Christians define religious cults from a different perspective. Simply, a cult is any religious group that deviates from the fundamental teachings of the historic, Bible-based, Christian faith as confirmed through the ancient ecumenical creeds. Generally, if a religious organization follows Jesus Christ, but denies or distorts essential Christian doctrines such as the Trinity, the resurrection, or salvation by grace alone, that organization is considered a cult. Traditional examples are the Mormons, Jehovah's Witnesses, Christian Science, the Unity School of Christianity, and the Way International. All of these groups add to the simple gospel of Jesus Christ. In addition, some add to the Bible, such as Mormonism's The Book of Mormon, Doctrine and Covenants, and The Pearl of Great Price. Similarly, Christian Science has added Science and Health with Key to the Scriptures. The Jehovah's Witnesses have actually changed the text of the Bible to make it fit their version of doctrine.

Religious cults add their own rules, rituals and ceremonies -- their own works of righteousness to the finished work of Jesus on the cross. These organizations officially state that Jesus' sacrifice is sufficient for salvation, but then they go on to say that their version of "works" must be added to the simplicity of His grace in order to warrant true salvation. These groups will often use James 2:26 ("faith without works is dead") to establish that works are part of salvation. Although it is true that faith without works is dead, it isn't the works that save us. Works are merely the result of a truly changed life through a saving faith in Jesus. A true Christian does good works because he has received the free gift of salvation, not to get salvation.

Religious Cults: Why Does It Matter?
Groups like the Mormons and Jehovah's Witnesses reject their categorization with other "religious cults", because the emotional reaction to such a label often gets in the way of mainstream conversion. Actually, contrary to their historical foundations of deeming Christendom to be misguided, evil or apostate, most of the aforementioned cults are now claiming to be Christian themselves. They declare the Divine authority of the Bible, but they manipulate the scriptures to suit their own purposes. Although they claim to serve Jesus Christ, and may use Christian terminology, their doctrines are dangerously different. Why is this an issue? Why can't we all just get along? Because these organizations don't lead to the Jesus Christ of the Bible, but to another Jesus and another gospel message altogether. If these religious groups are based on bad history, or bad doctrine, or bad motives, then we must respectfully expose these shortcomings. If these religious cults are presenting false teachings, then multitudes of people are being led astray.

Answer 7

i hope u aint getn married just 2 get bac at her n besides wen u wernt n her wed it gave u a chance 2 save 4 your own

Answer 8

This is typical for those who become Jehovah Wittiness, find a new friend. The only way she will continue to be your friend is if you become a Jehovah Wittiness. If you ask me, I say that's too high a price for friendship.

Answer 9

WOW..i am sorry for you..Did you try to call her and ask her anything?? I would try to make a chance meeting somewhere...just to see her face when she first see you...then maybe you two can speak... I don't know what to say..i hope maybe you can get your friendship back...somehow... I think she at least owes you some kind of explanation....good luck...

Answer 10

That religious group does not teach the word of God. You need to pray for your friend.