My 3 yr old daughter has become extremely whiny at the drop of a hat.There has been some stresses in our life recently. But the whining really makes me crazy! Maybe its a stage?
2006-07-24 03:04:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
its a stage...honestly....but also she can feel your insecurities and stresses and she is letting you know that it bothers her too. Try not to stress so much especially around her, it can actually cause stomach problems for them when they are that little. My oldest daughter has that problem. Especially when my fiance and I argue or when she knows that one of us are upset. She starts feeling sick or complains of stomach aches. The best time to let most of your stresses and problems out is in your own room or outdoors, do something creative, write, draw, take a bath, do something to let a little at a time out even is she is around...but don't hold it in. That can be worse on all of you. I used to live by a few sayings: "Don't Sweat The Petty Stuff, Pet The Sweaty Stuff! or Is it that big of a problem? Or is it fixable, can you deal with it now or later? Try some thing new...try a diffrent route with your stresses...money wise, it is difficult, I think we all go through that problem. Get a financial counsler or seek a psychiatrist. They both work with all problems.
2006-07-25 17:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by missbehave252002 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there! All 3 of mine went through the same thing to a certain degree. My now 3 yr. old daughter is the worst. I make her repeat her request in " a big girl voice " or she doesn't get what she's after. I constantly have to remind her to stop whining and use a big girl voice. Sometimes it works- sometimes not. But this to will pass. Try to stay on top of it so it doesn't become a habit. And you can always give her a time out in her room until she can use her big girl voice if it's really getting to you. My daughter is very social and doesn't like to be seperated from the fun so if she's sent to her room to stop whining or calm down she's usually pretty quick to get herself back under controll/ LOL!
2006-07-24 10:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by tbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably is a stage, my 25-month old seems to be going through it right now. He's become scared of everything he used to love and in need of a cuddle every time he's somewhere different or hears a noise he doesn't like. I can't help but scoop him up and give him lots of love because he looks so small and pathetic and I recognise that the phase will probably go as quickly as it came. I hope this will be the same for you but just make sure your daughter has the reassurance she needs from you especially if you are going through a stressful time - you need each other :)
2006-07-24 10:09:35 · answer #3 · answered by franpal_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all parents of 2-3 year olds can relate...cuz it seems like we are all in the same boat. Toddlers this age are trying to get their emotions in check and that includes crying and whining at the drop of a hat. The important thing is how you respond because while they are getting their emotions ready, they are also watching you for reactions and pushing the envelope as far as it can go, so make sure you respond positively and appropriately and this stage will end sooner than later!
2006-07-24 10:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by USC Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep it's a stage (hopefully). My daughter was a perfect little angel when she was 2 but the day she turned 3 was the worst day of my life. That whole year it was like she was a totally different child. She turned into a hoodlum. Whiny, hyper, selfish, you name it! Just be strong and maybe it will get better.
2006-07-24 11:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by hogheavenkm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it is a stage because my 2nd daughter turned 3 a month ago and she has turned in ot this walking whiny kid. It can be over the littlest thing. No orange spoon or rain outside and I'll pray for you because i really know the feeling that you are talking about ready to go crazy
2006-07-24 10:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer.frye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's just a stage (a very annoying stage). Is she whining while asking for something? If so, try telling her that you don't understand her unless she uses her WORDS. Don't give in until she speaks normally.
Good luck...I bet you're about to go crazy.
2006-07-24 10:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if it's a stage, mine has been going through it for 9 years. My son on the other hand, does not. My friend's daughter has been going through this for 7 years. I think it's a combination of discipline, environment, and stress.
Hopefully for you, it is a stage she recovers from quickly. If not, time outs work for both of you. I regularly give us both time outs. I go to my room, she goes to hers. Ignoring them works well too. It's harder then it sounds, but it does work. Most children try to get a rise out of you with their whining and tantrums. If you don't give it to them, why would they continue the fiasco?
2006-07-24 10:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds normal. This is the time when you teach her that whining is not acceptable. Depending on the child she is, you can tell her that whining doesn't work - tell her you can't hear her when she whines - or explore alternatives. The key is that once the whining starts, whatever she's whining for doesn't happen.
2006-07-24 10:08:46 · answer #9 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather my kids scream all day than whine- it's so annoying!! What has worked for us (you have to be consistent) is every time she does it, put your fingers on her lips and look her in the eye and say "no whining" This makes her aware of what she's doing, and she will eventually stop. (My husband still whines occasionally, so I guess we never really outgrow it!) Good luck! : )
2006-07-24 10:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by MamaMia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋