Please answer this honesly. I was with my ex for 3 years. During that time his family accepted me as their own. I lived with his parents, hung out with his mom and sister. They helped me through the hardest times in my life when my own family wasn't there. I have continued my relationship with them ever since. We hang out, go shopping, have the occasional lunch. Is that wrong? I do have a boyfriend now. He pretends it doesn't bother him but I think it does. He says that He's the only one who would actually put up with it.
I don't actually hang out with the EX and I rarely see him while I'm there. He's also gone on with his life. He's got a girlfriend and is about to have another baby.
I feel like it is wrong to walk away from people who have given up so much of their lives for me. They helped make me the person I am today!
2006-07-24 03:03:58 · 13 answers · asked by oh_my_goodness_gracious12345 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's great they you've maintained that relationship after the break up. If you've moved on and he's moved on, I see no reason why you should give up the friendships and relationships that have meant so much to you.
2006-07-24 03:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be truthfully honest with you ... sometimes keeping that relationship can be good .... BUT also bad at times ... as u said "I do have a boyfriend now. He pretends it doesn't bother him but I think it does" .. probably it does ... I have a bf ... well kinda fiance now ... we've been together a yr and gone through so much ... now were expecting our 1st child which is due in January 2007 i occasionally see my ex's mom .. and we have coffee whatever ... my bf is good about it ... he knows why i still talk to her and he respects that at times .. but others he hates it ... and i can understand from a guys point of view why he wouldn't like it ..... i think what u need to do .. is sit with your bf . explain what your ex's family's done for you and why u still stay around with them and see how he feels about it .. because to be honest if my bf hung out with his ex girlfriends parents and stuff id wouldn't like it either ... id think alot of things .... best thing is to tone it down ... make it an occasional thing and see how your bf now feels about it all but have a truthful heart to heart not . hunny I'm fine with it ... ok baby i was just checking . and then go on your marry ol way ..just get answers tell him u feel like its bothering him .. get the truth and work something out.
Tamz
2006-07-24 03:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by tipsy_baby69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you have got some emotional issues. You have to recover from your ex. It would come to be hurting your current relationship. You should not try to examine sexual partners, cause everybody does matters in a different way. And usually men desire a lesson once in a even as. Each time you have got sex, ensure you inform him exactly what feels the best, and reward him for doing the right stuff with the aid of telling him how just right he is. That could aid make him believe extra optimistic and even more verbal within the bedroom. However comparing him to your ex is solely going to hurt you subsequently.
2016-08-09 04:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with you that there is nothing wrong with staying in contact with your ex's family. I was married for twenty years to my ex and I have been a part of my "in-laws" lives for twenty three years, plus. We divorce or separate from our spouses or boyfriends, not the family we have come to love. Your boyfriend now has to understand, they were family before him. Good Luck!
2006-07-24 03:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give them up tell your boyfriend to accept it as if they were your own family. it definitely sounds like you all have a tight knit relationship and i wouldn't let a jealous boy take that away from you
2006-07-24 03:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it. I'm still very very good friends with my ex's sister. You can't forget you ever knew those people just because you're no longer with your ex.
2006-07-24 03:09:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
reverse the sexes in your question, and ask yourself if how you would feel if he maintained a relationship with YOUR family.
If it would bother you, then you have to decide whether you are a compassionate person or a beetch for doing something to someone, knowing that it would bother you if it were done to you.
2006-07-24 03:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is wrong. I mean they sound like your second family and you should visit with them. He just don't understand but there is nothing wrong with it.
2006-07-24 03:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,not, oh never that's wrong.Please continue your relations,I all in very good book of relationship.
2006-07-24 03:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Karthik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't think so.....it's good if u meet the family members....there is nothing wrong in that......
2006-07-24 03:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ashish M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋