ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years but almost every night for the past week ive been having dreams of cheating on him and breaking up with him
i was just wondering if anyone knows what a dream like that means...is it time to leave him? (conciously im happy with him, but obviously subconsiously im not)...anyone have any ideas?
2006-07-24 02:53:23 · 22 answers · asked by *princess* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't automatically assume that you are not happy with him. Dreams like yours are not always an indication that you want to cheat on your partner. There are several reasons you could be having this reoccuring dream, but the most logical is that you are questioning what you want to do with your partner and where you want to take this relationship. You are having doubts that this is the right person for you and it is coming out in your dreams. Being with someone else in a dream shows that you are questioning the person that you are with That doesn't mean that you are unhappy...that just means that you are trying to figure out where to take this relationship. Don't forget that dreams are exactly that....and not reality. Don't put too much emphasis on it...just enjoy it!
Also, be careful with "Dream Dictionaries"...they are not the law and to totally listen to them as if they were fact would be wrong. They are a psychiatrist's "interpretation" of what a dream means and there are many different interpretations out there....
2006-07-24 02:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tytania 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be a serious mistake to make important life decisions based on dreams. Even Freud, who did a lot of dream interpretation, didn't take dreams at face value. He looked for the hidden meaning that the unconscious was trying to get across to the conscious. So a dream about leaving isn't a sign that your unconscious is thinking about leaving. Don't get tricked into ruining a good relationship based on a dream.
Dreams are not visions. They are not reality. They are the random processing of brain signals. If your relationship with your boyfriend is good, then let it be good. In the absence of any other problems, dumping your boyfriend based on a dream would be a silly, tragic mistake.
2006-07-24 10:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girl has similar dreams, but the other way around. I think they all are the same, you are insecure with yourself and the relationship, even though everything is really is fine. Also, some influences is watching all that "reality" TV or talk shows with stories of cheating boyfriends and screwed up relationships, whihc manifests into your dreams mixed with your own life It has to be the worst thing to watch for an insecure woman to watch these shows. The best advice is to completely ignore and blow off your dreams. Dont listen to anyone that says these dreams tell you to break up or that your man is cheating. These are ONLY DREAMS. Stick with reality and you will be fine.
2006-07-24 10:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by some guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have those dreams too sometimes and i am very happy with my boyfriend so i looked up what it meant online...
"To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiancé, or significant other, suggests feelings of self-guilt and self-betrayal. You may have compromised your beliefs or integrity and/or wasting your energy and time on fruitless endeavors. Alternatively, it reflects the intensity of your sexual passion and exploring areas of your sexuality. It is actually a reaffirmation of your commitment. Furthermore, it is not uncommon for people approaching a wedding to have dreams about erotic experiences with partners other than their intended spouses. Most likely, such dreams represent the newness of your sexual passion. It may also signify anxieties of changing your identity - that of a spouse. "
2006-07-24 09:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by jame947 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dream of cheating in any manner, either by you, or by your loved one, then this is a direct warning for you to be more circumspect about your actions to and with the opposite sex. It is warning you that if you do not, you will suffer the consequences. If you are the cheater in your dream, you may have a guilty conscious about cheating that has nothing to do with love.
2006-07-24 10:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Serious Business 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dreams are your mind's interpretation of things that you have thought about, seen, or heard...
it could be that you watched something on tv along those lines, or you the thought has crossed your mind at some point and something fueled your mind and now that you've dreamt about it you keep thinking about it and now your considering it so you keep dreaming it.
think about what you really really REALLY want..don't trust your dreams....I once dreamt about being cased by a dinosaur, then it became an aligator, then I was safe and had sex with supermodel after having a conversation about religion with a preacher, who somehow became the model!! (weird)
does that mean that that is going to happen...dinosaur(no), aligator(probably not), conversation w/ preacher(has), supermodel(god I hope so)....but not altogether like that morphing like that...no
2006-07-24 10:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by RomanGOD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be your subconsious mind explorering different possiblities because you are comfortable how things are your body is explorering other partners. Also you might not be getting enough physical attention. I'm sure your fella could help with that.
2006-07-24 09:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Dannyb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That could mean you do not trust yourself rather than trusting him or you are not satisfied in life
Cheating = not satisfied, do not trust
Deep down, you may have some other desire but subconsciously you projected that in your dream.
However, I do not suggest that you leave just because your subconscious mind tells you. It could only mean you are not satisfied in many things in life and cheating him is one of the ways you vent out in dreams!
2006-07-24 10:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say dont rely on ur dreams for making any major decisions. because dreams can be pretty crazy. i dream about guys i used to like or like or just any random classmate but i know it doesnt mean i like them. i generally dont use it as a basis for anything. think about it realistically and rationally. if you are not happy wid him then u might wanna leave him. but dont let this idea creep into ur mind only becoz of ur dreams.
2006-07-24 09:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by cranberries 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would u even ask this question if you had been cheating with Brad Pitt or Colin Farrell? NO!
It's just a dream - don't worry about it. Enjoy it. It's cheating without cheating.
2006-07-24 09:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by SAN P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋