What makes guys so afraid of getting married? When would they like to get married and what age? How do they know they are ready for marriage? Finally do they know for sure they are ready to settle down? and Why?
2006-07-24 02:53:03 · 28 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would really like to know from a guys point of view...and what his fears and experiences are.
I also appreciate all the woman's answers too, thank you very much.
2006-07-24 03:06:55 · update #1
Hi Strawberry. I am not sure if I am qualified to answer this from a guy's perspective but I can surely put forth my views that stem from within. I guess people are different and therefore have their own views but I have a small coterie of guy friends who are not averse to the idea of settling down without any fear of committment. For us, it is not a question of committment, or the loss of freedom , or the excess responsibilty that comes on after marriage, it is the state of mind with which we welcome women into our world (that could be complicated at times). I am not talking for the majority/minority (whichever that's scared of marriage), I am talking for men like us. Most of us have responsibilities and each of them form a hierarchy depending upon their importance. It would be very irresponsible for us to marry someone we love/admire (or both) when we are still focussed on settling issues. If we do that we are adding additional burden on our women which is not right. At least I would not want my woman to share my difficulties (if I have them), I would rather treat her like a queen. I hope I have satisfied your question. By the way, I am still single (women think I am too nice to be dated: who's stupid - they or me?). So, when I do get married, you can be sure that the woman would made to feel like the Queen, if not the country at least my home.
2006-07-24 03:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy wants to have the freedom of being a bachelor until he feels like he wants to settle down in life. A guy will marry you when he's ready and has his own mind made up, not a woman making up his mind for him. Don't pressure a man about marriage because if he hasn't mentioned it to you or asked you himself then he's not ready. When you pressure anybody in general about doing something they don't really want to do, a person tends not to be as happy about it. All men are not afraid of marriage they just want to do it when they are ready.
2006-07-24 03:01:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think one big thing that freaks guys out is that if they get married they won't get to sleep with anyone else for the rest of their lives, lol!
I've been told that guys just "know" when it's time. They could let the love of their life pass them by because they're not ready to get married and the woman is. And when the guy is in love and ready for marriage, he'll marry that woman. If that makes sense.
2006-07-24 03:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Di 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are so afraid to make a mistake and to commit is a very big step cause then they made a promise to ONE women and ONE women alone!!!! Men i think like to get married when they are ready for it and when that is not even a man himself can answer that!!! Some men get married and take a gamble cause they are not completely sure that that is what they want to do!!!
Good Luck and God Bless!!!
Enjoy your day!!!
2006-07-24 02:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHEAR COMMITMENT ISSUES...and most believe it or not are afraid of the failure,and the WHAT IFS take over like what if it doesn't work,and what if she cheats,and what if I can't take care of her,what if she changes when we get married..I have heard alot of men say that their relationship was fine until they got married..But if you look into their past relationships all the way back to their family ties you will find the true answer to way they can't commit like bad home life unstable environments growing up it's REALLY kinda complicated..When they know for sure They won't waste any time getting to the alter...
2006-07-24 02:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once we figure out we want to settle down, we consider marriage. Once we figure out if you're right for us, then we have no fear of the commitment. We know for sure the same as girls...when we can't imagine being with anyone else for the rest of our lives.
2006-07-24 02:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mikey B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fear of commitment. Also, it may freak the guy out when he thinks that he will never be able to have sex with anyone else but his wife for the rest of his life! Of course, with the number of married men (and women) who cheat, that's not necessarily the way it is any more.
2006-07-24 02:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the guy's are afraid of this word right here COMMITMENT
!!!!!! thats why most guys don't want to get married.But the ones who aren't afraid of that word.are either dating or already married to other girls.and as far as age goses.a guy can get married to any girl after he turns 18 years of age.And no most of them don't know for sure if there really ready to settle down.But they do it just so they don't have to depend on mom and dad anymore.
2006-07-24 03:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because most guys see thier miserable married friends and get smart! I for one know my misery level has quadrupled since i got married 10 years ago. If I knew then what I know now, I would never had gotten married! Women change after marriage and it sucks!
2006-07-24 02:59:35 · answer #9 · answered by brkeng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well those answers vary from person to person. You need to direct them to the man that you are curious about. Also I think that men are afraid of getting married because they are afraid of giving up certain things in their lives and maybe they think that they are going to miss out on something if they get married.
2006-07-24 02:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋