Why do I take everything so personally?

Question

I get very angry at people all the time because I feel they're disrespectful or plain stupid. For example, I get really mad when I drive because no one respects the code (no flashers, etc.) I get mad at my boyfriend because he keeps making the same mistakes. I get so angry when I listen to the news. I get myself in such states! I am suffering a lot and am afraid I will lose my friends and close ones.

Answer 1

get genuinely angry about the things you can change. otherwise people will not take you seriously. teachers who get angry, are not liked by the students. but they like those, who inspite of the mistakes in writing, home work, make another effort patiently, to teach them again. that's the correct method. so put down your reactions on paper, send them to the newspapers, so readers will know what you have to say about careless drivers.
what kind of mistakes your boyfriend keeps on making ? if you don't like him, for that, why don't you leave him ? or he only may get fade up with you, because you are mostly in a bad mood ?
try and learn to be patient, try to guide people how things are to be done, no one is perfect, and you can't be a perfectionist !
remember, it's very easy to call people plain stupid, but there is always a level of intelligence, which you have to encourage to rise. look at those teachers who teach the retarded, or the spastics ? if you are still irritable, cosult a counsellor, to control your anger, and be cool !

Answer 2

I think it's because you may tend to look down on people's faults and fail to see that you may screw up sometimes too. Maybe there are things you do that bother people, but they never express it. For driving, just try to have patience. You can't control the cars around you and as long as they're not drunk and driving erratically and jeopardizing your life and safety as a driver, have patience and just keep your mind calm. Frustration will never improve the situation. As for your boyfriend, as long as the mistakes aren't anything like constantly cheating on you or something completely ridiculous, try to have more understanding and empathy. Express your concerns if you really feel you have to, but don't pent up the anger.

You're getting angry because the way I see it, you're being selfish. You're thinking only of your own comfort, and your own perception of propriety, and you're placing blame on everyone around you it seems. As for the news, just don't watch it if it makes you angry. Watch what you want and when it starts to bother you, switch to another program. Try to start to see things from the eyes of another, and maybe you'll learn to have more patience and compassion.

If a child is crying constantly, for example, and it annoys everyone around...what if the child recently lost his/her mother, but no one realised it? How could you comfort the child then, with that knowledge? Sometimes people do things because of their situations in life.

Answer 3

Well Cleo....I'm guessing that your a little older then a teenager, but not quite in your thirties....

If your getting yourself so worked up about all these little things...I'm concerned that you will not have the ability to deal with a real crisis.

The first thing your going to have to do...is develop a sense of perspective....and by that I mean your going to have to be able to see yourself and how you relate to those people around you. Have you or are you even capable of recognising a mistake when YOU make one?

If your able...you should try to make arrangements to talk with a professional therapist...so that you can try to pinpoint where this underlying anger is coming from. Its not that you want everyone to be as perfect as you are....but you are targeting them for something that is a shortcoming in yourself.

Answer 4

Well my dear friend, You are not alone in this.We are suffering from one form of anger management issue to another.I will say i have exactly the same problems as you do and i will suggest you try and read more about cognitive disorder behavior therapy.It will certainly help.Remeber stress will only harm you on the long run so you have to learn how to relax.I suggest you also try Yoga for sometime.Good Luck.

Answer 5

You sound a lot like me before meds! You need to go to a psychiatrist with this information and see what he/she recommends. It's a horrible feeling to feel miserable and frustrated. Life doesn't have to be like that with good counseling and perhaps medication to help you until you can handle these situations with your own tools! It's usually genetic as well. Do your parents have emotional problems? Good luck. I Happen to love my zoloft and welbutrin. I sometimes think I am better and stop the meds, and it's VERY bad...so be consistent with the meds if you go on them!

Answer 6

Because you probably have a very strong sense of what you feel is right and wrong and you, yourself try very hard to stay within that realm and cannot stand it when another person does not hold themselves up to that same standard, I know how you feel though I am the same way,your friends and family will love you for who you are just sometimes put yourself in their place and identify with their reasons and try to accept them as they accept you, it helps me sometimes.

Answer 7

even if you look hyper sensitive ... you have to take the lead by yourself without the need for a psychatrist .. you have to modify your level of tolerance .. and to beleive that the common for poeple is to do the short and mistaken things ;. ou don;t have to play the role of judge all the time .. you need to practice how to do mistakes .. and even to hurt the others sometimes then apologize .. try this and you will beocme bett accomodated .. avoid the pills and over believing in your self ..

Answer 8

Maybe u should see a therapist, also I dunno if this would help I'm using it my self. It's called emotional freedom technique. I get to but not really anger. I just get upset or to sensitive about things like if people are mean I take it to personally, although now a days I just think well they probably do that to everyone and that I should be bothered about them like it's they're problem.

Answer 9

Are there any anger management programs in your area? It looks better on you if you voluntarily seek help before a criminal court orders you to get help.

Answer 10

Because you are selfish and think only of your own feelings. Because you are immature. Because you think you know everything. Because you really like all of the negative attention. Feel sorry for you, kid-o. You're wasting your life.