cause she cheated on me but she says she wont do it again how would i know she is not lieing should i give her another chances again
2006-07-24 02:30:48 · 17 answers · asked by dmoney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All i can give you is my advice so here goes....
Give the girl another chance to prove herself, people can change if they want to and if the love for a person is so a big motivation to change!!! If you do not give her a second chance you will always wonder if she told the truth or not and if she really changed.
And if things turns out that she cheated, you were the good guy, you gave her, her chance and she blew it and you can feel proud of yourself cause you did the wright thing!!!
Good luck and God Bless!!!
Enjoy your day!!!
2006-07-24 02:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one bc usually once a cheater always a cheater. However there are the rare ones who truely regret what they did and want to make things right. Sit her down and Tell it to her straight. That she hurt you when she cheated on you and now you are having a hard time deciding if you can trust her again or not. If she doesnt understand then she will probally do it again. If she does understand then it might be worth giving a second chance but let her know that the two of you will be starting completely over not picking up where you left off. Become friends again. Hang out and talk for awhile go on a few dates and see if that eases your discomfort over her cheating if it does move foward if it doesnt let her know that you just cant go there with her again that its too much for you.
2006-07-24 09:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one that knows your whole situation. Think about it alot. Sleep on it, for two or three nights. If you get back together, there will always be trust issues. If you don't get back together, it will give you the opportunity to meet someone that might not cheat on you ever. That's the funny thing about life, you're given all these choices to make, and ya never know which one will be best for ya. Good luck.
2006-07-24 09:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, remember that everything in life is a CHOICE! If you choose to get back with your girlfriend, then you already know that you will be taking a risk. But it is a choice.
If you decide NOT to patch things up with her, then it will be because you chose NOT to take that risk. No one can tell you what to do. My suggestion is that you see what's in your heart and see what's in your mind and just like a graph, let those two points meet. At the point of intersection is where you should make your choice!
Much luck and much light to your situation!
2006-07-24 09:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lois 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a great deal on the situation surrounding infidelity. If this was a fling that happened one night, I think that would be easier to get past than an ongoing thing that took effort to continue.
Either way you have to decide is it worth the risk. If you DO decide to stay with her, she's going to have to earn back your trust and you're going to have to have a little faith. If you feel you'll be constantly suspicious of her, then you may need to rethink getting back with her.
2006-07-24 09:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i would give her another chance is if she was someone you really enjoyed spending time with and its not so bad giving someone another chance. let her learn from her mistake... and if she likes you enough she wont do it again from the thought of losing a guy like you.
2006-07-24 09:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by curlie-ba-twirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must , if you have little feeling , still left for her , after all she was the person you swear on her , give her one more chance & ensure give her respect and help her out of the guilty feeling .
2006-07-24 09:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only so many chances you can give someone and then you become a fool. Only you know what you will allow
2006-07-24 09:37:18 · answer #8 · answered by michael h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u think that she is worth it and u love her than give her the respect and luv that she needs but also she had her chance once befor and she blew it this is a big move u make!
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2006-07-24 09:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what she would have done if you were the one who heated on her. If she would have given you a second chance,then return the favor. If not, then let her know it just can't happen right now.
2006-07-24 09:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Mikey B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋