Our 20 year old daughter left home a few weeks ago because she thought it was time to move out.. She however was contacted by her grandma( my wifes mom) to stay with her. ( My wifes mom is the crudest, meanest, etc.. person I have ever met.I should have learned when she put a 10 gauge shotgun to my chest when I picked my "then" girlfriend up for a date . Anyway, she is tranforming our daughter ( Who has a learning disability & is VERY VERY naive) into a very bad person. "grandma" has put her name on all of our daughters charge cards, co-sighned for a line of credit for her, has taught her not to answer the phones when certain people call. My wife is ready to go CRAZY over this.. Her mom has not been nice to her for her entire life. I feel so bad for my wife. But..What do I do?We have a very nice family, 4 kids, beautiful house, etc. But NOTHING has ever been good enough for the grandma. I NEED HELP.. A SOLUTION!!!!
2006-07-24 02:22:21 · 9 answers · asked by Scott V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think Mother in Laws are put on this earth to drive in-laws crazy !! Be there for your wife, Hopefully your daughter will see just how your mother in-law is.Talk to your life if the mother in-laws is doing more damage than good the talk to your wife about not seeing her so much or cut the mother in law completely,think about the other kids the 2 of you have(if they are still living at home) the affects the Grandmother will do on them,you and your family are happy nobody deserves to have someone run them down and bring negative stuff into your home !!!!
Good luck !!!!
2006-07-24 02:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by midnightsmokerchic23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want passive - set up some lunches and take your daughter to some appointments at your bank. See if they can help with educating your daughter about finances, etc. so maybe Grandma won't run her credit into the ground. Also, maybe Grandma isn't looking for a victim so maybe having a family meeting between the 4 of you (you, wife, Grandma, and daughter). If any go to church, then you could also ask for help that way.
If you want active - go get your daughter. Then consult a lawyer about all of the co-signing crap and get that resolved. Keep your daughter close until Grandma's fight ends. If she gives you reason to - don't hesitate to call the police. I don't know what the possibility of restraining order - but get educated about it.
Is there another solutions for your daughter's living arrangement? Maybe construct an apartment in the back of your property or garage? Are there any orgs for disabled - where she could find a friend and possible roommate so they can learn to live on their own together?
Good luck and take care.
2006-07-24 03:49:45 · answer #2 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in one of your earlier questions you state you are having an on line affair. Could this be the cause of your wife's distress?Your "facts" about your mother in law seem a little far fetched. Did you charge her for pointing a weapon at you? If they are truthful then you have enabled the situation.How can your learning disabled daughter get a charge card or line of credit without a co-signer? You don't say if she has a job or is on disability?It sounds like you are omiting important information or this is a fairy tale.
2006-07-24 06:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your wife do the talking because she's her mother. Now is the perfect time to have that intimate mother-daughter dialogue... Your wife can vent all her frustrations to her and let her know why she thinks the kids are better off in her care. As opposed to giving that grandma the silent treatment, what you need is communication. Make sure you get all your feelings and message across..
I believe everyone has a soft spot. Jolt her gentle side.
2006-07-24 03:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very delicate situation you have there . . .
I'd try speaking to your mohter-in-law in the most honest but constructive way possible about the feelings she evokes in your wife.
2006-07-24 02:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by lopsided_heart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a lawyer to see if there is anything you can do.Also call the police to see if you can get her back home.Be supportive to your wife,if she ever needed you it's now.Do what ever you can,short of murder,to get your family back together.
2006-07-24 02:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go get my daughter and bring her back home. When it comes to my kids, people like this granny can kiss my ***, my kids well being comes first.
2006-07-24 02:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to talk about it with her mom, once and for all.
If her mom will continue with this wrong attitude, then she shouldn't talk to her anymore, even though she's her mom.
2006-07-24 02:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Alice_d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THE ONLY THING I CAN SAY IS IF YOUR MOM CANT BE THERE FOR HER THEN YOU SHOULD BE THERE FOR HER
2006-07-24 02:35:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋