should i def change my doctor?

Question

some of you might remember me in here before talking about my doctor tellin me i was not pregnant when my tests said i was so all in all i am actually pregnant with a healthy looking baby according to my local hospital.. i am 8 weeks gone and i am very annoyed at my doctor as for 8 weeks of my pregnancy i have not had any antenatal care what so ever and these are the most critcal times.. should i change my doctor because obviously if i havent had the care a should of had up to now.. what will the rest of the pregnancy be like while me and my baby is in his care plus my hospital have told me i am a high risk pregnancy because i have had 2 miscarraiges before.. so that should of been another reason for my doctor to take more care of me and my unborn..

Answer 1

congratulations!

maybe talk to the practice manager, explain what has happened and ask to be moved to another doctor. I think that the trust between you and your doctor has gone and you will always be questioning this doctors advice and diagnosis.

Answer 2

Congratulations!

You know that you should change your doctor- you have to know that you are getting the best care, and you won't with the idiot that you've seen (I'm sorry, but some doctors can be idiots) and you will be less stressed if you change.

And as for your doctor, complain about him! If he's not listening to, and misdiagnosing you, what's he doing to other patients? is he one of those doctors who only want to give out "two paracetamol three times a day" and not do anything else cos it's too much hard work for him??

I saw a doctor like that- it felt much better inside when I made the decision to never see her again.

Good luck with your pregnancy, and with motherhood. You'll be fine as soon as you get your name onto another doctors patient list.

Oh, just remembered- since you've had such bad care so far, has anyone reminded you to take folic acid tablets? That's really about all you can do for your baby apart from rest.

Answer 3

sorry to hear about your miscarriages,if feel better seeing another doctor you are with in your rights to do so. Antenatal care don't really start till your 12 weeks pregnant,but you can have a early scan,if worried. I lost a baby last year. So i understand your pain of the miscarriages. I got pregnant after my loss,and i was so frightened all the way through. I know its hard and your worried with every reason to. But you do need to take it easy,now you are pregnant again. If you need to chat,then you can e-mail me. I'll be there every step of the way,and i will be here to hear what you are worried about. I hope everything goes well with this pregnancy. my last pregnancy after my loss did,and i give birth to a 8lb 2 3/4 oz baby girl. there is also a web site you can go on,which has ladies on who have suffered loss in pregnancies,that helped me through. it www.villiage.com. There is a forum on there,you join and type in pregnancy after loss on it. It is a free site.

Answer 4

First of all, your doctor didn't perform the test. Your blood or urine was sent to a lab and they came up with the results. Second, most doctors wouldn't even have seen you until you were at least 10 weeks pregnant so you haven't missed any prenatal care. I would give him another chance and if you don't feel comfortable with him then change. I don't know where you live or what your insurance is like but I had to change doctors for my current pregnancy and I only had one other choice which turned out to be awesome. But if you have insurance, check with them to see what other options you have and then call around. It never hurts to do your homework.

Answer 5

Congratulations!! I agree it is a bit odd for your Dr to not be able to confirm your pregnancy, although at 8 weeks there isn't a great deal of antenatal care to be had. As long as you look after yourself, take your folic acid and, going on your previous miscarriages, be aware of any early signs of problems, I'd see how it goes.

Once you get to 12 weeks and your scans and antenatal appointments become set, if you're still not happy with the care you are receiving then I'd change Dr.

Hope it all goes well for you.

Answer 6

I think you should change your doctor asap. As this should be a very precious time for you and your baby, you need people around you to that feel the same not some doctor that thinks your just another number... I changed my doctor when i was 6 months gone and it made my last 3 months bliss

Answer 7

The most important thing is that you feel comfortable and that you feel you are doing the best thing for you and your baby. If you think that being with this doctor could possibly endanger youself and your baby then change. It is important that you are heppy with the level of care you get and also that you eliminate as many possible worries as possible during this important and hopefully happy time.

I'm sure many other members here will have their fingers crossed and be praying that you go full term and have a happy healthy baby including me!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Yes...I think most of us told you yesterday to change caregivers. If you are not *****100%***** comfortable with this guy, why stay with him?

Would you take your car to a mechanic that you didn't trust? What about a hairdresser you didn't "click" with?

Why do people feel such loyalty to their doctors that they would stick with them through anything even if they don't have a good relationship with them?

Please...do yourself a favor and find a caregiver that is a better fit for you and that you can trust completely. Your pregnancy will be much easier (less stressful!) that way and you will be able to relax better during labor.

(And be sure to send a letter to the old caregiver telling him why you switched!)

Answer 9

Congratulations, and yes. You should - you should also lkearn to get a second opinion.
Pregnancy tests are not wrong. If it says "pregnant", when you take it, you ARE pregnant. It's possible to loose it quickly after that, but ythey're not wrong. Not a positive - only a negetive can be wrong.

If you think your doctor is wrong, remember. Doctors are human beings. GET A SECOND OPINION.

...and change the doctor.

Answer 10

I would start by calling your doctor and telling him what your local hospital told you...confirmed that you are pregnant, had U/S and the baby is normal, considered high risk, etc. and ask him just exactly WHY he said you're not pregnant. Was it actually HIS fault (read the labwork results incorrectly for your pregnancy test) or was it the lab's fault for sending incorrect results?

Answer 11

i would seriously consider but remeber doctors are only human and do make mistakes if you feel you are seriously gong to put in danger then yes but my mum went to the doctor when she was 3 months gone because they made a mistake n ders nothing wrong with me for it. so think long and hard because you might end up with a worse doctor or in the process of changin doctors ur notes may b lost and that will put u and the baby in worst danger.