i've been dating this guy for more than a month.he is unemployed.and have a financial problems.so i help him.but sometimes i would feel like he is using me.but he is a nice guy.he just don't have a job.should i leave him?im confuse.i think i love him but.
2006-07-24 01:15:45 · 23 answers · asked by alia_ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You'll have to come up with a better reason than money...you've allowed him to "use" you and your money this long....that'd be a lame reason to dump him.
2006-07-24 01:17:54 · answer #1 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already started a vicious circle. Is he looking for a job or just complaining? I think you shouldn't be helping him financially because 1/ he could feel that your think that he is not good enough to make money by himself or 2/ he is just taking advantage of your good nature. However if he is trying hard to find a job, you should be patient and give him a period in which your finantial support will be withdrawn. I think the best advice for any woman out there is NOT TO MIX BUSINESS WITH FEELINGS
2006-07-24 01:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I wish I had a girlfriend like you! Seriously though, you need to go on more than just money. If he's trying to get a job that's one thing, but if he's just hanging out while you support him, that's another. You sound like a really terrific and understanding girl! You might want to find somebody who would be better served by the type of love and patience you have to offer.
2006-07-24 01:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to call you back when he gets a job and can pay for his own stuff. If you really like him and he likes you, he will go get a job and get that straightened out. Beware of the guys that go get a job long enough to get you off their back, but always have some crazy situation that makes him lose or quit his job too.
2006-07-24 01:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with him about it, if you find he is making excuses then he probably is using you. It might be that he likes you but is just lazy, therefore borrowing your money is the easy quick fix for him. Don't give him any money, wait for him to ask for it and see how frequently he does it and what he uses the money for. If he only asks for a bare minimum and spends it on bills then then its probably ok, but if he asks for quite a lot at any one time and spends it on beer then he is using you.
2006-07-24 01:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to get a job than stick with him, but if he isn't doing anything to find a way to make money and fix his financial problem then dump him.
2006-07-24 01:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly! .. on the grounds that guy will comprehend a thank you to save a greenback. in simple terms as a results of fact he makes use of coupons would not recommend he's affordable. on each and every occasion i pass grocery procuring, i attempt to apply coupons to save money. So, how ought to i glance down on a individual who grew to become into additionally utilising coupons to save money additionally? I accept as true with the different poster. in case you go with to pass someplace that would not contain a chit, make the suggestion and pay for it. in case you do pass places and pay, i don't see what your subject is. do not assume him to spend money, in case you're actually not keen to. For genuine, i might might desire to ask your self whether i might shop courting somebody who continuously predicted me to shell out money- distinctly if it grew to become right into a boyfriend/lady buddy courting. i visit on no account teach my son to be somebody's ATM. some men might desire to clever up.
2016-11-02 21:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 If you love someone there shouldn't be a "but" to it.
#2 What you need to do is help this guy FIND a J-O-B.
#3 It is alright to help him, but after awhile helping will become a responsibility.
2006-07-24 01:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by babyjay_babyjae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM NOW. Once the money machine is empty he'll find another woman to leach off of. Do yourself a big favor and find another guy.
2006-07-24 01:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by wudbiser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
just warn him and ask him to find a job and tell him strongly that if he wouldn't , u will leave him , let he know the reason and then act as a wise girl .
this warning can be a moativation,
beleive me , as a guy , i'm sure it will work.
cheers,
2006-07-24 06:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by solat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋