my friend wants to know how does she interfere with how her grandson is raised without alienating her son?

Question

she feels her son was taught and inherited some values from his father that she does not want him passing on to his son. she did not go into detail but she is clearly upset. she tried talking to her son about this over the phone and it did not go well. i suggested talking to him in person.

Answer 1

You're going to have to tell her to butt out and leave her kid to raise his own. Unless he's abusing the child .. she has no right to interfere.

Answer 2

She doesnt. Unless her son is doing something to harm his son then she has no say. She can make suggestions and be an influence when her grandson visits(unless she keeps this up and alienates son). My mother makes suggestions that I can take or leave because they are my kids not hers and I am an adult not a child.

Answer 3

Unless he is doing something illegal or somehow hurting the child, she is powerless.

She needs to try and establish as much of a relationship as she can with the grandson to try and counter the problem issues. That can only be done by respecting that her son is the father now, and that she can't control his parenting.

Answer 4

Tell her to talk to him, ONCE. After that butt out. My mother in law always rags on my husband for things that he does, that I approve of. She makes assumptions that my children are bored all the time like I never do anything with them. She lives an hour away how the hell does she know what I do with my kids. My mother in law trys to make our children her own. And her son will probably think the same. Like I said bring it up once then drop it, unless of course she thinks there is some abuse, in that case call the authorities.

Answer 5

The most powerful thing she can do is set a good example. Eventually her grandchild will make a decision about how to behave and will need a counter-example to his father. If she has a relationship with her son that will allow it, a non-threatening conversation might help. I expect, however, that her son is already aware of her concerns (and may even share them).

Answer 6

I am afraid your "friend" is in a no-win situation, if she says anything to her son she takes the risk of losing all the family. I know how upset your "friend" is as I have been in the same situation, and NO I did`nt take the advice I am giving you, and I lost them. Only difference is it was my Daughter.

Answer 7

Maybe she should have tried to influence her son when he was young. She needs to back off and let her son raise his child.

Answer 8

In person is good, but think about writing a letter. When talking about a very sensitive subject, it gives the other party a chance to really think about it before they react, they don't have to be all defensive. Good luck to your friend.

Answer 9

The word "interfere" in and of itself has very bad conotations.

If she really is interfering, then the natural response from most anyone is going to be resistence.

Answer 10

3 of the seven Holy Sacraments are pronounced as the "Sacraments of Initiation". they are sacraments that each and every physique Catholics (might desire to) acquire. they are: a million) Baptism - maximum often, one gets Baptism as an infant. 2) First Holy Communion - maximum often won grade-college age. The Eucharist is the "source and Summit" of the Catholic Christian faith. With the reception of this 'first' Holy Communion, your grandson might have the skill to acquire the Eucharist at each and every Mass he attends to any extent further. 3) ultimately, there is affirmation. This Sacrament is won on the top of Catechism education, commonly in one's youngster years. The recipient takes their Baptismal vows for themselves (mothers and fathers and godparents took the vows on behalf of the newborn at Baptism). affirmation is likewise on the subject of the Holy Spirit descending on the recipient of affirmation; for that reason giving the shown the "presents" and "Charisms" one will might desire to fulfill their ministry/challenge in existence.