I'm trying to potty train my son but he screams every time i put him on it, please help?

Question

i have let him chose a potty, ive tryed to put him on the toilet but nothing works. any ideas please

Answer 1

On average, most children begin learning to use a potty by around their second birthday, but as with everything in children's development, each child is different. Up to the age of 20 months, toddlers' bladders empty often, making it difficult for them to master holding on for the loo.

Follow your child's lead - when he's ready to use a potty he'll let you know. Don't worry if a friend proudly states, "Oh, my daughter was out of nappies by now" or your grandmother recalls teaching your mother to use the potty when she was only a few months old.

Some parents find it easier to toilet train their children in summer, when toddlers can run around with fewer clothes on. If this isn't the right time for your child, however, don't worry. Always go with your toddler's readiness.

It might take longer for boys to learn, especially as they also have to master weeing while standing up. Most boys learn sitting down first. Dads or older brothers can then show how to do it the other way.
Is your child ready?

Your child may be ready to start trying to use the toilet if he:

* stays dry for a couple of hours each day
* takes an interest when you, your partner or older siblings go to the toilet
* has bowel movements at regular times of the day, eg after breakfast
* can demonstrate when a bowel movement is taking place, by squatting or making a grunting sound for example
* lets you know he wants to be changed when his nappy is soiled

When to wait

It's usually best not to start toilet training your child during times of stress, such as:

* the arrival of a new baby in the family
* starting a new childcare arrangement
* moving from a cot to a bed
* moving house
* family relationship problems
* when a family member is ill

Top tips

* Be positive and upbeat - show the change as something exciting.
* Give lots of praise whenever your child manages to do a poo on the potty. Stress how grown up and clever he is.
* Don't rush things. Sometimes if you start teaching later, it takes less time. Toddlers over two-and-a-half may learn almost overnight.
* Expect setbacks on the way to success. Learning to use the toilet is just like other skills your toddler learns - you expect a lot of falls before walking comes easily.
* Give your toddler clothes that can be pulled down easily, so no fiddly buttons. You may also want him to wear training pants at first, to cope with those inevitable accidents.
* Never force your child to sit on the potty. This will only upset him and won't make the process any faster.
* Some toddlers enjoy picking out their own potty and toilet seat.
* Many toddlers are afraid of the sound of the toilet flushing or don't like to see the poo being flushed away. If your child feels like this, just wait until he has run off to play, then flush.
* It always takes longer for a child to learn to stay dry at night. When he starts having the occasional dry nappy in the morning, it's a good sign that the time is right to try going without a nappy.
* Do your best not to be angry with your child if he has an accident. Just say, cheerfully, "Never mind, you'll get there next time. Let's get you some dry pants."

Answer 2

Maybe he's not ready. My son was 18 months when I had him half way potty trained and then he got sick and than soon after we were traveling a lot and when we got home he had no interest anymore and didn't want to use the potty at all. My son is 2 now and I'm just going to let him to choose to learn when he wants. It's easier to train when they are older and almost every child I know is trained before they are four.

Answer 3

I tried training my son when he was 22 months. made a big deal about buying a potty but he jus wasnt ready so i didnt push him so the following July I took 2 weeks of work and made sure i didnt have any plans, i bought colourful paper and a we both made a chart with every day of the week and put a star every time the pee and a double star for a poo made sure he realised that this a good thing by clapping a cheering when he got a star. If he made a mistake i would put a big black mark on the chart. Any visitors that came into the house i would tell them about the chart and made sure they made a big deal about getting stars also. i had him trained in ten days. try and avoid pull ups as the still feel like they are wearing nappies. so purchase lots of underwear and be prepared to throw alots of them out.

Answer 4

This is what i did for all my children, placed the potty in the middle of the room with toys all around him and let him experiment himself, but don't force him. Also buy a soft toilet seat with a step also give him lots of hugs reassurance, kind words, encouragement. Ideally your son should be older than 14 months. But don't get upset with him if he wees/poes on your carpet this is normal. Also let him run around without his nappy on so if he does have an accident he will realise, then put him on th potty or toilet tell him big boys do this.After you gave him a drink after 20 mins pop him on the toilet he should go then. Good luck.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

my little boy is nearly 3 and still wont use the potty,we have it where he can see it and after baths we leave his nappy off 4 a good hour but we never push it or get angry if he has an accident (had loads) but he will do it in his own time my 2 girls was 2 and 3 and out ov nappies day and night but each child is different. dont use pull-ups really bad invention!! just pants or nothing and its best in summer so if you do have any accidents you can wash and dry easliy- whatever you do don't push or make a huge deal ov it but prasie when he goes on the potty even if he doesn't do anything

good-luck (in the same boat lol)

Answer 7

go streight for the pants. leave the potty in the corner keep reminding every few minutes saying dont wet them pants do you want to do a we we show mummy what a big boy you are then if he wets the pants say o an accident never mind lets try again if he goes on the potty make a big thing out of it get little pants otherwise if you use pull ups he wont notice he is wet good luck get the carpet shampoo ready it dose work...

Answer 8

Try playing games, like sink the Cheerios or give him one of his favorite candies every time he goes. My son liked to pee outside when he first started. He is fully potty trained now ans will sit on the potty. He learned to poop on the potty during Hurricane Rita in Texas. But the most important part of potty training is to be patient!

Answer 9

when i potty trained my daughter she was pretty much the same, so i used a different method..... when i went to the toilet i took her with me, and explained what mummy was doing, and then bought a seat which went on the toilet seat...( i missed out the potty) after a while an association thing happens, ask him if he wants to go to the toilet because mummy wants to go, seat him on it first then talk to him, it relaxes him, and then he wee's give him praise!! and a treat for doing a wee on the toilet..... the rest will follow. keep the conversation positive, if he becomes distressed, take him off, and try later, if he doesn't wee, dont scold him, just say oh well maybe next time!

Answer 10

Don't push the issue. He is clearly NOT ready yet. Just leave him be & sooner or later he will use it.

We made the mistake of FORCING our oldest son at age 3 to be potty trained. He ended up wearing pull-ups until he was 9 yrs old.

Our second son was potty trained by 5yrs with NO use of pull-ups at night.