i am 19 muslim, she is 6 months younger n a catholic.. our relationship went on for 14 months.. v wer very happy.. i was planning to tel my parents abt it once i started to stand on my feet.. but he came to knw from outsiders abt us n he jus finished me.. my cell is confiscated n i m strictly warned not to talk to her.. my dad went n shouted her mum 2, her mum also is shocked coz she 2 didnt knew n my gal is in a similar state as mine..i hav got a warning frm her mum also to nt cal n if i do i will b in jail for haressin her daughter.. i still love her more than anything in this world.. n i jus wanna get her back... i wana solution to make both my parents n her mum to realise that my intentions wer good.. n i really want to have a life time relationship with her... at the moment neither her mum or my parents want to listen anything. n they r adamant to kep us away.. i m undergoing threw a huge mental strain.. n i fear somthing bad is gonna happen to me if this is nt solved quicklyHELP!
2006-07-23 23:34:47 · 3 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This make take some time to blow over and for you to ever have some freedom back again. Your parents want the best for you both they both arent seeing straight right now however. You both will have to wait until they done being upset and when they try to talk to them about it and see if they would be willing to compromise. I hope everything works out and that this helps you.
2006-07-23 23:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by mandi88_bailey05_ray 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a similar problem but in my case we are both christians.firstly if you think the religious differences wouldnt be a problem between both of you in the future then go ahead.is she willing to be a muslim or are you willing to be a christian if both of you will keep up with your own religion will your kids be muslims or christians .if any problem would arise and i think that's what your parents fear how would you solve itt.if you find answers to this,and you feel you can cope then you can go ahead.love is the strongest thing in the world,it overcomes all odds and always wins.thats what our bible says.i dont know if islam teaches that.but in my case we have decided to stay together.if you/she is willing to disobey your parents are you going to remain faithful to each other so that they dont say i told you so?believe in love and you wouldnt even know how it got you there ok?BEST OF LUCK!since you are on the net cant you chat that way for the time being?your parents wouldnt know.
2006-07-23 23:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by onel2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, you need to relax. it's good to know that you're serious about this, but for the moment, if they're not going to listen, you both need to calm down. don't let them know that you're meeting, and if you can, try not to be in contact or obvious for some time.
if you really wanna spend your life with her then actually go and do what's needed to stand on your feet - tell her you're not gonna give up and she needs to wait for you. tell her to concentrate on her education while you do on yours. be strong until you're stable and man enough to confidently ask for her hand in marriage, and then really fight it out till both sets of parents have agreed.
but you have to be ready to stand the test of time and you need to know she will support you. so get yourselves sorted out first - see if you both really have the will. but whatever you do, be calm - don't jump to do anything stupid as it solves nothing at all.
good luck
2006-07-23 23:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋