I was wit my girlfriend for ages and we have been best friends since small school!! While she was away on holidays i drunkenly went off wit off wit someone else!! It was a two second ting that barely happened!! I regretted it straight away and felt guilty for the whole following week! I tryed to keep it from her but i was eventually forced to tell her! She flipped and said she couldn't trust me anymore!! which is fair enough!! She said she never thought i would do it to her!! I thought the same!! I love her to bits and miss her loads!! Iknow she still cares for me!! How can i get her back? Cheers!
2006-07-23 22:39:00 · 17 answers · asked by Monkeyoc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have done the worse thing possible and abused her trust. Even if you get back with her it will be a long time before she trusts you again (if ever) and that is something you will have to live with. you should never have tried to hide it from her. You should have been honest from the start. Lecture over....to get her back is going to be hard and will require hard work and patience from you. first of all you need to get her to listen to you. suggest meeting for lunch one day, tell her you just want to talk and expect nothing from her. Explain to her how you feel and most importantly listen to what she has to say. If she is agreeable take things slowly, start again from scratch, take her out, don't try anything on, treat it as first dates. she may not trust you but it may remind her of why she was with you in the first place. Be completely honest with her. good luck.
2006-07-23 22:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tuppence 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh Oh! You're in deep trouble.
Well, since you apologize already and she was so hurt by this. Give her a a few days to settle down then go over to her place and talk to her. Be prepared for all the hurting or nasty things she might say. If she loves you enough and can live with your cheating spree, I say she might....just might give you a second chance. The trust will be a little hard to gain back but that's the price.
Now, if she doesn't forgive you...it doesn't mean she don't love you. She's just hurting like hell. So, respect it and give her more time. Be sincere when you pledge your love to her again. And please, don't do this thing again once she accepted you. Wish you all the luck!
2006-07-24 05:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least your sorry for doing unlike a lot of guys.
Although, if she really loves you, you have to understand how very very hurt she must feel right now, and just because she loves you, wont mean she is going to want you back.
l'm in a smilier situation right now. My boyfriend has left me for someone else, unlike your self, it's not a drunken mistake!
However, even though l still love him so much and would love for tings to go back to how they were with him coming back begging cos l miss him so much, l really don't know if l could have him back cos it's as if he's tainted?!?!
If your girlfriend doesn't want you back , that's just something you are going to have to accept, respect her wishes, give her some time to think things over, give her time and you never know, she may want to give you a second chance.
2006-07-24 06:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by London girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have just told her. I think you made it worse by trying to hide it from her and it sounds like you only told her because she forced you to.
It seems you have lost her trust twice (once for cheating and once for hiding it). How can she trust you again? You must have really really hurt her. There's no magic fix you have probably ruined your chances of staying together. You should sit down and ask yourself what made you look at another girl and go as far as cheating - being drunk is no excuse you can still say no when you are drunk.
If you really want to be with her then fight for your relationship. Go after her and apologise profusely and beg her to give you a second chance. Maybe you will be lucky but be warned it might take her a while to learn to trust you again. Good luck.
2006-07-24 05:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are going to hate my answer, mate.
You made the choice to drink, and you know how you get when you drink. You made the choice - however drunk a choice it was - and put your wee-wee in a woman's hoo-hoo (gee, it was a woman, wasn't it? Not that it matters, or anything). You also made the choice to lie about it.
As k yourself: if she had done that to you, what would you do?
I thought so. Don't expect women to be dumber than you, because they mostly aren't (at least, not in the same ways men are stupid).
You are going to have to accept that she needs space, and lots of it. she might even o out and get some revenge onyou, to get it out of her system. Deal with it, and be a good bloke. If you had a solid relationship with her before this utter stupidity of yours, she may come back after a while. She might not.
If anything, this should be a crystal f***ing clear lesson that you cannot handle your liquor. Stop drinking so much, ya dopey idjit.
For all my hard words (which you know you deserve, you bloody fool), I do hope that you get your act togehter, and she sees you doing it. Things will be okay, one way or another.
2006-07-24 05:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by arcayne_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. That's the short answer. If you do get the back, it will never be the same. She will constantly doubt your love for her.
Even drunken cheating can be stopped if you don't want it to happen, so there must have been some underlying feelings of mistrust on your part. Either that or you wanted this other girl
2006-07-24 05:49:20 · answer #6 · answered by anto687 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hey,at least you weren't sober when you did it,and you sound like you regret it. If it was me you'd done it to I'd probably forgive you. I say give her a bit of space but write her a letter about how you feel and say it's up to her to make the next move if she wants to. If she's a forgiving sort of person who loves you and thinksyour relationship is worth another try,she'll come round. If not,then your relationship wasn't that strong in the first place.. best of luck kiddo..
2006-07-24 06:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Sara B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be it will be. Firstly you have probably broken her heart, yes, you know that this thing, never really started, but even so, you have lost her trust. If you want her back you need to prove to her that she is your world and that you will never do it again. I'm glad that's she is giving you a hard time in getting her back because this means she is truly wanting you to learn from this.
You will learn the lesson, if you win her back, you will never do anything to hurt her again.
Go win her back!!!!!!!
2006-07-24 05:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be faithful, CUT DOWN on your drinking, be attentive, and eventually her respect for you may be restored. Unfortunately it takes years, and anything can happen in that time. Beg for forgiveness, because you owe it to her, not because you want her back - just earn her faith, and in time, she may accept you crawl back to her... but it is difficult to beleive that once he has cheated, he will not do so again. It really is.
2006-07-24 05:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r stupit man if u really loved this girl u wouldent have been selfish and got drunk and cheated oveously u dont deserve to b wit her
2006-07-24 05:49:31 · answer #10 · answered by hot chik#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋