How do I make this stop?

Question

There has been this rumor around since freshman year about me. People have always said I have been on crack. I have never had any once in my whole life and it is annoying how people have to put me down and insult me like that. This guy once asked if I took some in the morning and I told him no and that I have never taken it ever before and he goes you're just messing with me I know you have. And whenever all the freshmans saw me, they would say got crack? got crack? I tolerated that nonsense for the end of frehsman year and my whole sophomore year. I don't care what people think about me, but when I am being let down for something I didn't do and would never do in my life, I feel like taking some action. I have told my mom about this and I think some of the teachers already know about the this. What can I do to make this nonsense stop, because I am nice to everyone and I know I can have more friends than I do, but people don't want to because they are afraid they will be accused too.

Answer 1

Get a blood test for the use of all narcotics and the result of that test, photocopy it and provide the teachers with it. Be sure to keep a report yourself and if these accusations keep happening identify the person with a witness and sue for defamation of character.

Answer 2

Poor thing. Kids can be so cruel. I still am haunted by things they did to me. It is 20 years later. I am so sorry. If you pay attention it makes it worse. Do you do anything else at school? Perhaps you could try to get known for something else. Can you talk to the school counsellor? I am not sure that would help. Can you change schools? I had to do that. It helped. You could just start over. I know people who have done that for various things. I am so sorry. I really wish schools would just put a stop to this. They really can. This is bullying. If they punsh someone everytime they hear this they can. I knew of a place where they had a points system and if someone was mean to another student they took points off. Kids like being there after being picked on so much. I went to a really srict school after I was picked on so much. It was a really hard school with nuns. I was so sick of being threatened that I did so much better there. I went from fs and ds to As and Bs at a much harder school and they were mean but I was just happy that I was not getting threatened about being stabbed or being stabbed again. I took it fine. I got picked on a little, but nothing compared to my inner city public school.

Answer 3

They say "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me" - and yet words can be the most hurtful thing!!

I know how you feel, I used to get accussed of sleeping around when I was at school, and yet I was still a virgin when they were accusing me!

Rumours can be really hurtful, and can lose you a lot of friends, if they believe the rumours. But the people who believe them are not really friends, remember that!

When the freshmen ask if you've got crack, tell them to go find someone else, tell them loud and clear that you don't, never have, and never will have crack - then maybe they will tell other people that, and word will get around.

It's difficult to know what to suggest, as when the rumours about me were going around, I just put up with them until they found someone more interesting to spread rumours about.

Try telling your real friends to put the word around that it is a malicious lie, and completely untrue. If you know who may have started the rumour, why not try putting out your own rumour? Something like "--- (name) is spreading horrible rumours about people." - nothing untrue, and nothing malicious.

I hope I helped a bit, I know what you're going through.

Answer 4

First thing's first: You need to look in the mirror and tell yourself that you're perfect as you are. I know this is easier said than done, but try to ignore their insults and simply walk away. I had a horrible time in H.S. because of the fact I was so skinny, too, but what your teachers and parents say is true; None of this will matter in 1 or 2 years down the road. Try not to let these immature knuckleheads' taunts affect your self-esteem. You cannot change the ways of the world... you can only change the way you view the world. And remember... This too will pass.

Answer 5

Well if you let them see that making fun of you is effecting you, they're going to continue. But why does they're opinion really matter? You know you don't do crack, and if something happens like some kid reports you based on the rumor, just be like ":test me and see" and it'll prove them all wrong. It's your life, not theirs. You need to take control and do what you want to do. Cause your only gonna have to see those people for like, 4 more years and then they're gone.

Answer 6

rumors happen about everyone i have one that people call me gay behind my back next person that says that to u just confront and be all what the hell is ur problem i've never done that before and i never will so just back the **** up and for the next person that says that to me im reportin u to the dean for harrassment that should help out a lot the way i solved my problems was that i got in a huge fight with people and it stopped but i wouldnt suggest doing that

Answer 7

Just let them say what they want,as long as you don't take crack,you will be okay,one of the commandments,don't make false witnesses,and if you r not taking crack,and they say you are,then that's what they are doing,i would just let go and go on with life.

Answer 8

Ya I was teased when i was in school. about always looking stoned. I just always have had a bad time waking up and look my worst in the mornings. Ive never felt the need to do drugs.
I just ignored them the best i could. knowing dispite how i look im probably doing better then them.

Answer 9

Miss Cathy has the right idea...
and it is done to bother you...

but...it's also a lame, lower class, attempt to reach out to you.

I think you're best advised to let the school authorities know that it takes place and who the perpetrators are...and try to ignore it.

Answer 10

Take this problem to the group, your peers, ur family, and face it up. action taken could embarass. calm down. your frank and open life will help you out.
Go and join groups, games, social service, any, any, ballroom dances, etc etc. need not be exclusive personal friendships. that will come sooner.