Me and my partner are really good friends with our next door neighbours, however the other night my next door neighbour come on to me. He was a bit drunk, but he's flirted with me before when he's been sober. I must admit I am attracted to him, but wouldn't dream of doing anything with him, because i'm good friends with his girlfriend. Should I tell her what happened, or just forget about it and put it down to him being drunk?
2006-07-23 21:52:24 · 26 answers · asked by lf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask him what you should do he has put you on the spot now it's your turn.(not in a bad way) Either he cares about his partner or does n't! Find out then make your mind up!
I flirt with every girl i know i can't help it and my misses knows that i don't mean anything by it but i don't try it on with her friends!
2006-07-23 21:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by Macka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would, for the most part, forget it. Make sure you tell your partner, though, but imply that he may have been a little drunk, and you might be imagining things. the reason you do this is that he will want to know, and will almost certainly be pissed at you for not mentioning it (thinking you were hiding it from him, which men despise to the utter core of their being). It also gives you a comrade if things get ugly, which they might or might not.
If the neighbor hits on you again, get serious, and tell him in no uncertain terms that his behavior is uncool, and he is jeopardizing his friendship with you, his relationship with your guy, and his relationship with his own girl. If he doesn't back down, you and your partner need to tell her. If he can't get it from you, he is almost certainly looking somewhere else.
2006-07-24 05:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by arcayne_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make it clear to him that you can draw a line under what happened and you will forget it. Dont threaten to tell his girlfriend because if he doesnt care about her, he will have nothing to lose. Say like even if you was single he is not the type of guy you go for but are happy to be friends. Finally that you are good mates with his girlfriends and dont want to do anything to damage it. This way your getting your point across without pushing him.
2006-07-24 05:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by andrew_glasgow_male2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say forget about it for now but if it happens again tell him in no uncertain words that you are not accepting this and you will tell his girlfriend but it is really bothering you I'd say something to him the next time you see him and when he is sober, did you tell your partner, I suggest you tell him in a not so serious way make a laugh out of it that way if it does happen again your partner is aware of what happened previously, this happened to me with a friend of my partners and I immediately told him he said something to him and it has never happened again
2006-07-24 05:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by red lyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By partner do you mean boyfriend/girlfriend? If so, you never mentioned them as a reason for not doing anything with your neighbor. What's that about?
Anyways, it just depends on the situation, like what exactly he said. If he was just flirting, I wouldn't worry about about it. If he went into something a little more graphic, that might be cause for worry.
2006-07-24 04:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let this slide this time and give him cold signals .
if it happens again id tell your hubby and let him know your concerns , tell him it had happened before and you didn't say anything because ,he was drunk and you felt weird , but felt over reacting but now its happened again your sure you feel this way because of him ! your partner will understand if your honest , i wouldn't confront this guy , just keep out of his way .
it maybe just flirting as Friends but if your worried by it , it shouldn't be happening ...
see what happens now ! and make any decisions on what happens in the future . good luck a bit tricky on you ..
2006-07-24 05:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by j.j. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it for now but be on the lookout. There's no point spoiling your relationships with your friends for him. Just keep a lookout and if he oversteps the line tell him that he's attractive but that you're already committed and just not interested. If things get out of line, you might have to tell his girlfriend but don't expect her to like you after you tell her.
2006-07-24 04:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
This happened with my mates wife. She came on to me when she was drunk once. I ignored it and it did indeed go away.
I would suggest you do the same. If it happens again then you may have a problem.
2006-07-24 04:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if there is a 'next time', tell him in no uncertain terms that if he does it again, you'll tell both his partner and your partner. That should stop him in his tracks.
2006-07-24 04:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Pete M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lisalou
tell him you are not interested
as you love your husband
so be very polite and diplomatic
when you say to him
FUCKOFF
you should also let your husband know so this do`s not backfire on you for the next bit
if he continues tell him you are interested in a threesome with his wife
the three being you your husband his wife NO more
2006-07-24 05:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by itsa o 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋